I'm afraid i'm not getting the right care

[Tenille]

I'm only 10 weeks and 3 days pregnant and this is my first pregancy, so far the docs have told me i was having a miscarraige and they were wrong. Now I have been having dizzy spells like u wouldn't believe and sometimes i can't even walk coz of it, I feel as though i'm going to pass out. It scares me, but the doc says just eat more, but I can't coz i'm too sick, plus I think I do eat a lot considering. Then the doc told me to just stop taking my anti depressants, although I was on zoloft and even she said they were safe to take, plus she didn't tell me to cut down then stop, she said just stop taking them which I thought was dangerous to do. I was off them for a week and a bit then thought bugger it i'm taking them coz i'm not coping at the moment.Plus she doesn't know my history and that my precious little cousin died just 4 months ago. I just thought they are the professionals, they should know a lot more than me, but they just keep getting it all wrong, it scares me coz it's my first time and I wouldn't have a clue what i'm in for, but i'm not getting the right help, well that's how I feel.

Another thing I want to add is that my m/s is getting worse every week, i'm afraid that i'm going to be one of the unlucky ones that is sick the whole pregnancy, or is this normal for someone 10 weeks along?

Sorry for the novel ladies just had to let it all out and I hope you have some advice for me.

[trifecta]

The most important thing you can do is try stay as healthy as you can during this time and if that means staying on your meds then do. You need to find a doctor you can trust and will answer all your needs. Can you turn to a family member of close friend for support?
You need to eat! Try anything that doesn't make you feel sick, you might not feel like food but it will make you feel better.. if that makes sense.
Hang in there, I'm sure as you get closer to the magic 12 weeks you will feel better and better - nearly there.
We are actually due on the same day - 13 March!
Stay strong, try not to worry and let your brain get carried away with 'what ifs'.
Sorry to hear about the little one's passing, maybe talking to someone could help?

[SoccerMom]

First of all, get a new doctor (doctors think they know everything!). I was cared for solely by my midwife and I found her fabulous! I was seeing the doctor the first 4 months and then after that I thought it was a waste of money.

I can't comment on anti-depressants during pregnancy because I've never been on anti-depressants during a pregnancy. I felt like **** in the first 3 months of my pregnancy and I got dizzy and fainted up until the 40 weeks Having said that, I felt well and I managed to work until 38 weeks. I just fainted all the time! So hopefully yours will pass too.

Kids calling.. Good luck!

[NibbleCurlynBub]

First of all, get a new doctor (doctors think they know everything!). I was cared for solely by my midwife and I found her fabulous! I was seeing the doctor the first 4 months and then after that I thought it was a waste of money.

I can't comment on anti-depressants during pregnancy because I've never been on anti-depressants during a pregnancy. I felt like **** in the first 3 months of my pregnancy and I got dizzy and fainted up until the 40 weeks Having said that, I felt well and I managed to work until 38 weeks. I just fainted all the time! So hopefully yours will pass too.

Kids calling.. Good luck!

Get a midwife.

I did have MS the whole way through with DS and DD. There are things that can help with that.
Ginger (for me) was NOT one of them.

[jess_live_die]

1stly for ur m/s i feel for u i had it real bad 24/7 for the 1st 11/ 12weeks and then slowed down about 16 weeks i still get the feeling im gonna be sick every now and then an im 20 weeks

2ndly if u feel something is wrong then go to a diff doc and get a diff opp coz u know best ur body knows best if its telling u something and u dnt listen u could end up worse.

i had dizzy spells so bad with this bub at about 8 weeks to 13 weeks i was dehydrated so just try to take little sips of cold water as often as u can
with dd2 i was hell dizzy in the 1st few months and ended up at 28 weeks not being able to walk wellcoz her head was pushing down and as she moved down pushed my pelivc bones apart so there could be a few diff reasons

like i said trust ur body it knows best

[tsgirl]

Tenille the dizzy spells could be related to coming off the antidepressants, particularly if the Doc didn't get you to wean off them! It doesn't sound like you are getting sufficient support from your Doc so seeing someone else who you feel will listen to you sounds like a very positive step to take.

It is so important that you feel your Doc hears you, and that you trust them to give you good advice. With regard to whether it is best for you to continue the AD's during ur pregnancy (sometimes this is the best thing to do) or for a safe way to reduce your dose IMHO you should find another Doc who can advise you.

Seeing a midwife for your antenatal care is also a great idea. It sounds like you have a had a difficult time and having someone who will 'care' for you & your bub in a holistic way would be much better than someone who is only interested in your BP or your wee!

Trust your instincts hon, you may be doing this for the first time but it sounds like you know exactly when the system isn't giving you the care you need and deserve. Sending & your way

[melissa76]

WOW who is your doctor. No doctor in their right mind would tell a patient to just stop taking any antidepressant. The side effects are huge. Get another doctor ASAP and keep taking your meds till you see them. You really deserve better care than that. I think it sounds like your iron and blood pressure may be low.

[Baby Dreaming]

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. You should really consult your GP on the anti-depressant issue. I agree with one of the other comments that the dizzy spell can relate to coming off them and this can actually occur whether you come down slowly or not. Obviously it is best to not be on them whilst pregnant but at times you can't. Some of them have very low risks and are worth taking. Especially if big things have happened in you life recently. I came off my drugs before TTC and my GP has wanted to keep in touch with me to make sure I am coping. If he believes I needed to be on them again he would have put me back on a different type as mine was not safe for pregnancy. Some OBs might be good with birthing but have no bedside manner and know nothing about depression. Frustrating for you I know. I would certainly seek a second opinion with you GP.

Can I ask if your OB or the midwives have been taking your blood pressure? Or your blood sugar levels? Before I was pregnant I was having some issues with low blood pressure and this made me feel ill and dizzy. Low blood sugar levels can make you dizzy. Probably why are saying to eat more. If not you should ask them to test or you GP can do this for you.

Your m/s may ease yet. I really hope it does for you soon. It certainly will not be helping you cope generally.

I hope you get answers soon. If this is a private OB I would change to a different one. I am not sure what rights you have if you are going public, other than changing hospitals.

[lulu 2]

This doctor has also failed to tell you that zoloft is in the don't know bracket of side effects during pregnancy and you need to consider the benefits over the possible risks during pregnancy and know your options other than just stopping treatment. I saw 2 gp/obs before finding one who was right ,one of the first ones I saw tried to prescribe me panadene forte in the first trimester for morning sickness ,I was like what I am pregnant !!! He even rubbed his hands together when I said I was going private I couldn't get out of there quick enough.