My DD's dad FINALLY wants to take some part in caring for her. I got an email this morning asking if he can watch Layla Sat nights until Sunday arvo.
On the outside, this seems like an awesome offer and I should be jumping at the chance, but my gut is telling me that there is something wrong about this.
He of course would not do it alone. He is relying on his step-mum for additional support (he lives at home still...).
So I asked him if he would be able to cope if she wasn't there for any reason. He jumps down my throat and accuses me of assuming the worst about him. I also want to know if it will be every Saturday night, even if something "fun" pops up that he wants to go to. No answer to that one.
I am also concerned about his temper. He gets really frustrated and impatient with Layla and he has even towered over her yelling "*****! B*TCH!" at her (I got away from that situation ASAP and he grovelled an apology a week later). He has also plonked her on the floor impatiently and stormed off because she was grizzly.
I worry that if I leave her with him that he will get all angry with her and no idea what would happen. Do I have a right to not feel right about this?
I also have a feeling that these Saturday nights will be he spends 5 mins with her, goes out all night with friends while the step-mum babysits, then spends all the next day on the couch nursing a hang-over and keeping a lazy eye on Layla while the step-mum does all the caring for her.
What would you do?