Question for both pro and anti CC'ers?

[pookiesossige]

No CC here-

One of our two had reflux, same bub was very colicky for a long time (5-6 months).

I wasn't cc-ing other children and I wasn't working. I did, however, had really good support from my DH

[mum1986]

• Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?
  no
  

• Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?
  
  i did cc with my eldest but it just made him worse, i won't even attempt it with my dd since i know what she is like and if she wants to sleep she will, if she doesn't nothing will help.

• Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
  
  no i am a full time sahm

• Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
  
  my ex never helped when we were together, he worked out of town so when our eldest was little he was only home every third week.

[Phyllis Stein]

No CC here, either.

Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?
no

Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?
no

Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
no

Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
Yes, we share the workload equally when DH is home, day and nighttimes.

[MandaMommy]

With my DS I have tried a alot of different things, Controlled Crying, Controlled Comforting, Co-sleeping, Rocking etc etc. And I would have to say the Controlled Crying has worked the best and has taught me alot about the different crying and wringes my baby does. I think DS has learnt to settle himself and now days he usually cries for about 30 seconds and if I don't come to the room he either gets louder (and I go check on him) or he stops completely because he knows to settle himself.

• Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues? Yes reflux but it rarely bothers him and usually he has no problem with sleeping. Laterly he has had a few bad nights but usually the first time I go back into his room I always stay in the room until he is settled and stopped crying and leave again as he is about to fall asleep. If his reflux is bad I can tell just by looking at him and what he is doing. If he's having a bad time with it I know the best thing for him is NO crying so I will stay with him until he is completely asleep.
  

• Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC? No but I have one on the way and would considering trying it at 6 months.
  

• Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing? No
  

• Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent? No my husband idea of helping is putting him my our bed, lol... He has two other sons and co-slept with them until they were over 2 years old. They both are terrible sleepers and have bed wetting issues. I'm not saying this is a result of co-sleeping, it is more a result of their mother's neglect and poor toliet training. However my DS is a happy healthly baby and he seems to like his cot and when you take him in his room and he is tired he wants to get in it
  

[Lillynix]

We don't use CC in this family. DD was always a great self settler and always went off to sleep by herself with no issues, so no need for any kind of settling help. DS however is really unsettled, especially when it comes to sleep. He simply will not go to sleep on his own and we co-sleep for this reason of a night time and during the day he sleeps in the mei-tai or wrap as he will not sleep unless he is touching someone.

Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?
Nope, neither child suffers from any health issues.

Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?
DD was always a brilliant sleeper so there was never a reason to try and settling methods.

Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
No, i'm a SAHM

Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
My husband is a great with the kids. Always there when I need him.

[genegeenie]

Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?
Yes, milk and soy allergy which gave him reflux, gas and pain.
Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?
DS is #1.
Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
No, i'm a SAHM.
Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
He is pretty helpful but to be honest I don't think he is as attentive as he could be.

I used to let DS 'grizzle' it out; so just very mild crying and whinging. It worked well. He used to self settle easily. However with his allergy issues he would wake up farting and in pain at night anyway. Eventually he stopped grizzling and now screams and really kicks up a fuss unless helped to settle.

I wont CC as I know he will get hysterical and its just not for us.

Also I have a very strong memory of being in the cot at 18mths and spreading poo on the wall - I remember my mums reaction which was very relaxed... I figure all of these experiences shape him and so 4 or so nights of hysterical crying isnt how I want to shape him.

[NibbleCurlynBub]

• Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?
  No. Both were a bit gassy but otherwise no.
  

• Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?
  Nope both were not CCed. Soon to be a third which will also not be. (happy smiley to diffuse any possible argument> )
  

• Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
  Neither. Full time MOTHER.
  

• Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
  Yes he does. Though I choose to do majority of the baby-raising myself.
  

[Duchessa]

Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?
Yes, silent reflux for the first 3 months of her life.

Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?
Yes - twins (3.5 years old) who I have never left to cry, or withheld comfort.

Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
More than fulltime, looking after above twins Also part time bookkeeping.

Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
No help from husband who is away on business a lot and never does night duty (never has) *rolls eyes* .


I could never CC. Apart from the research that indicates that it can be damaging to a baby's sense of wellbeing and security (and association with adult depression etc), it just seems so counter to my instinctive urge to comfort and console. Babyhood is for such a short time (sure it may be years, but what is that in the big picture?), that I am VERY happy to ensure that I meet the emotional needs of my children for that length of time.

Good luck, I hope you find the best solution for your babe.

[Nowhere]

• Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?
  
  DD has servere and at times life threatning reflux (gord) epilepsy and sleep apnea and anxiety (pluss others but ireleivent to sleep)
  

• Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?
  
  no

• Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
  My DD is now 2 and a half stil not doing control crying i work at home part time (hairdresser), My dd is still a shoking sleeper we got 2 hours last night that was it

• Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
• yes and no he does help but if she is awake at night she is my problem
  

[our little treasures]

• Did your baby have reflux or colic or any other health issues?

Yes My dd1 had really bad reflux and colic, DS didn't, dd2 just mild reflux. DD1 just didn't sleep for most of her baby hood, people actually said it was the way we were putting her to sleep but it was just her. I have 2 others that are pretty good sleepers. Even now we have several nights like last night where she just dreams and talks really loudly in her sleep.

• Do you have other kids that you did or didn't CC?

I have 3 and I have NOT CC any of them.

• Did you work full time or part-time during the time of CCing or non-CCing?
  

I did not work

• Did your husband/partner help with your baby or are you a single parent?
  

Yes with all 3 my husband has been a wonderful supportive partner. He helps with almost all of the late nights.