So a bit of background:
Mum had me when she was 17, then met my stepdad and had my 3 brothers who are now 8, 6 and 3y.o. She's a pretty busy woman and I admire her so much but I'm really worried about her atm.
Firstly, she does so much and as much as my stepdad adores her (completely and utterly) he is a total child. (For the record, I get on really well with him, call him Dad e.t.c, so this really isn't my angst speaking!) Whenever mum gets sick, he also has some ailment which he exaggerates (a paper cut to him is life threatening wound, a cold is a brush with death e.t.c.). Even last year when she got diagnosed with M.S. he got a cold and was 'bedridden' for 3 days.
At the moment, she has tonsilitis, which is really bad for her because she had some bronchiolitisis as a kid really badly and so everything in that area flares up REALLY badly when she's sick. Anyway, so dad trips over today and breaks his toe.
(If you knew my dad you'd be rolling your eyes - he's such a klutz). Mum had to take him to the hospital, they were there for 3 hrs and she just drove home but now has to wait til he's had scans e.t.c. to pick him up. (I offered to but she doesn't want me driving somewhere I don't know late on a Friday night since I just got my Ps...).
It's just like, he won't cut her a break. Even today, why didn't he go to the Dr during the day instead of waiting to come home then leave me to organise the kids and make mum go with him when shes really sick...
I know it's stressing her out, she just said, 'why can't I be sick without having to look after him, too?' and honestly, it's been so frequent lately - it's winter and he's a total hypochondriac - and I'm just so worried! I don't know what to do apart from helping out with the kids and keeping the house in some kind of order.
I want to tell him to be reasonable because it's taking a toll on mum, his childishness, but whenever I bring up problems in their marriage (always jokingly) he gets insanely defensive and so I try not too these days...
Unfortunately for mum, it seems she has 5 kids, not 4, and dad is the worst of all.
Any ideas/advice/help would be appreciated, because I hate seeing mum like this - she's my best friend! and it makes me so angry toward dad because of it.