so sick and tired

**mum1986** · 04-07-2008 11:52

of being told to use cc and to put my baby in day care. i don't want to. i don't like letting my babies cry, i followed all the advice with my eldest and used cc, but i hated it and he hated it. so i am not going to do it with my dd.

and 12 months old is to young for daycare since i don't have to work, if i had to work then yes i would do it but i don't even like my eldest being in day care. he is 4 and the only reason i put him in daycare this year is because he wants to be in school this year is but he missed the cut off date by a few months.

i just wish people would stop telling me how to raise my kids, they are mine and when they grow up if i screwed them up then feel free to say i told you so but until then just stay out of my business. (not the girls here you have been a wealth of advice and never get snotty at me if i don't use it) just getting sick of people irl telling me how to care for my kids.

just wish some people would back off and accept that just because they see my kids once every so often they think they know them and know whats best for them.

ps i will co sleep if i want i don't care if it's a rod for my own back-it's my back not anyone elses get over it people.

**Fuchsia!** · 04-07-2008 11:57

You go girl! YOu do what you think is best!

**Chunkydunks** · 04-07-2008 11:59

We should all stand up for the way we want to raise OUR children. Good on you for doing so. They also say that daycare for boys isn't benificial until after 3 so keep em home as long as you want I say. My sister isn't send her youngest yet and I don't blame her. We went DS at 2.5 because he was bored in the unit all day. We had no friends with kids and The playgroups around me were full up. But you've got to do what works for you and your kids. not what everyone else says worked for them so it'll work for you sort of thing.

**sunnyflower** · 04-07-2008 12:01

Oh yes it drives me insane when people have their little comments.

Suddenly everyone becomes an armchair expert.

I tell people straight that it bugs the hell out of me when they do it so funnily enough they don't do it anymore.

**GirlGerms** · 04-07-2008 15:46

Only when you become a mum, do you really begin to resent unwanted opinion/advice. The next time someone gives you either, just tell them that you really are doing your best and if you want their opinion/advice, you'll let them know. Until such time, they are welcome to mind their own business.

That said, I think we are all guilty of giving the odd uninvited opinion or piece of advice, aren't we? I did it to my girlfriend a few weeks ago and she promptly told me off (as above). I don't resent her for it for one second - rather I appreciate her honesty and respect her more.

Don't be afraid to say something.

GG

**becca022** · 04-07-2008 15:52

I know how you feel. My mum recently said we should start smacking ds so he doesn't turn into a brat

, she also said we shouldn't let ds sleep with us & we should be firmer with him. I also shouldn't breastfeed dd when she's born, or use a sling because according to her they look awful

.

You should do whatever you feel most comfortable with when raising your kids. We decided not to send ds to daycare either, we just go to playgroup & he starts kindy half a day a week at the end of the month. Thats enough for now.

**Jopella2** · 04-07-2008 20:32

I hear you! I'm sick of people telling me my son needs a dummy!

**blackdog** · 04-07-2008 20:40

Just nod and smile...and then do exactly as you please!

**mum1986** · 04-07-2008 20:42

i used to try saying that no i don't believe in that, until i got told time and time again, well i did that with my 4/5 kids and they turned out fine. now i just say well, i'll think it over and see what works best for him/her. after all no-one can argue with whats best for the kids

**Frankie41** · 04-07-2008 21:00

I agree, I agree, I agree!!

Whenever I stay at my dads, which we do atleast once a month, if DS is having a bad day or I'm struggling to get him off to sleep, my stepmum keeps telling me over and over 'just put him down and let him scream'. My dad frowns upon DS sleeping with, and my nana keeps telling me I should put him in daycare so I can get a job or have time to myself.

All I have to say is NO THANK YOU!