I'll tell you my prediciment, hopefully it won't take too long......
About a month or so ago, a Canadian cousin of mine contacted me out of the blue through Facebook. I haven't seen her in 20 years - she is 22. She told me she was coming to Australia which I thought was great! She is an Australian citizen (well born in PNG but apparently has citizenship) so she thought she'd play it by ear, maybe get a job etc, and can she stay with me for abit (sure very faint alarm bells did start to ring there). I said no worries to stay for a little while but I'm pregnant etc. Basically her plans were to arrive in Brisbane, stay with my mum and dad for a few days, fly up to Cairns for a week then come down to Sydney to see me, via Brisbane again.
Obviously when someone comes across the other side of the world... I'm assuming her loose plans may include abit of travel then if she likes it get herself a place to stay and find work etc and maybe use my place as a base a few days here and there!!
Anyway, she arrived on a Friday and apparently was waiting for a cheque from her parents to clear so she could get a ticket to Cairns. This didn't clear in time, so my parents gave her $400 to fly up there. This was by Monday, so basically she got $400 from my parents (who hadn't seen her for 20 years either) in only a couple of days.
I was speaking to my mum after she returned back from Cairns and she was saying that my cousin was planning to find work etc and stay in Brisbane with my parents. My parents had no idea of this before she arrived. It seems that this girl has flown over the other side of the world with NO MONEY and NO IDEA! And no the money hasn't been replaced - she said she'll get a job and pay them back!!!
Anyway, my parents both work full time, long hours. The live right in the burbs in North Brisbane, where it is hard to get any public transport. Basically the situation is pretty dismal for all involved up there. As well, what are my parents going to do with a 22 year old woman living at their house with no money? Family or not!
Anyway, as much as my parents don't want to do this to me (at 30 weeks pregnant) and as much as I really don't want to be taking on this problem right now.... the only real way out of this is to have her come down here (I live inner Sydney) and get herself sorted down here. It's easier to find work and get around in Sydney. My mum was so relieved but all the while feeling terrible that she's doing this to me.
Thing is - as far as I know she has no money, she doesn't have her Australian passport therefore can't get a tax file number until she does, therefore cannot work. THEN after she gets the TFN she'll have to find work then save to find a place (even if it's backpackers accom).
I've been there done that before with travelling so it's logical I can help her out. But man..... I'm 30+ weeks pregnant. The fact that this girl is in this situation is not my problem!! I'm going to have to take her in and help her get her act together (Mum says she's a lovely girl but still). I said she can stay a couple of weeks but I know these things take longer and I'm not going to kick her out on the curb am I??
But all I want to do is sloth around the house in my last weeks of pregnancy. We need to save as much as possible for me to be on maternity leave and all I want to do it sit and rest! Instead I'll have a stranger in my house, and sure she's probably a lovely girl. But I have to deal with her having no money, no prospects and no idea whilst staying in the room that I want to get the nursery ready!!
There's not much I can do - I have to take her in... I just had to unload this somewhere!!!