ok so i need some help...again... (sorry bout the essay!)

**Emi** · 12-06-2008 13:28

okay... so i need some help... again!!!

or jsut to talk to someone and i thought here would be a good spot...

i dont want to get into the whole story here... or again... so ill try and be brief...

i have a 12 week old daughter... i live with my paretns and sisters... my dp visits as much as he can, and we usually alternate whose house we're at on the weekends... which has worked well...

anyway... lately ive been very stressed out... i dd has been very unsettled and not sleeping... so i havnt been sleeping either... im stressed tired and exhausted...

i know that new mothers are like this tho... so i dont want to be complaining or nething...

but lately i have been arguing you could say with dp, coz i want him to help a bit more with nappy changing baths etc when he's over... and its always such a chore for him... he makesme do every 2nd one when hes here, or im at his... well i tried explaining to him that this is what i do every day and night during the week, and that i needed some more help and support from him...

its not easy living apart... and sometimes i jsut wished we lived together... but then i think that will that actualy change nething? or will i be doing more work?

dp doent work, hes studying... ive been at him to get a job for awhile... but he says he cant coz hes studying and has a baby...

he's paying child support too... which i have no idea where he's geting the money from...
he usually pays late too...

anyway hes meant to be paying this week... havnt heard nething about it... and i want to ask him about it... coz i need to buy dd things... nappies etc...

but last night i got a msg from him saying that his dad kicked him out of the house!!! so now im even more stressed out! things are just getting harder and harder... and i dont know hoe to deal with it all anymore!!!

i need some advice please! or some help..

**sunnyflower** · 12-06-2008 13:37

aww hun,sorry to hear things aren't good for you at the mo.

firstly,becoming a new mum in itself is very stressful.

it sounds like the living arrangements aren't working out.it sounds like you really need to be living together as a family unit away from your parents.

your baby is probably picking up on the stress and this is why your baby is feeling unsettled.

is it possible to visit centrelink and find out what you might be entiteld too? i think you would be entiteled to the parenting payment partnered.You would also get rent assistance.

**bubbleyblossom** · 12-06-2008 13:41

I have no idea what to say hun!!!
You obv have my numbers if u wanna call.. im at home now..
Is L back at home now? Or where is he staying?
Have your parents said anything about whats happening?

**Emi** · 12-06-2008 13:55

sunnyflower- i dont think we can afford moving out atm...i dont have any savings... and neither does dp...

bb- dp was kicked out last night... he stayed at a mates house... dnt know whats going to happen...

my parents didnt care when i told them what had happend... they jsut said that maybe that dps dads way of tellinghim to take resonsibility of things...

**sunnyflower** · 12-06-2008 13:58

I think centrelink also does bond assistance?

**bubbleyblossom** · 12-06-2008 14:00

I think thats cr@p... how can he take responsibility of things if he is on the bloody street! Honestly thats bull...

**Emi** · 12-06-2008 14:12

thanks sunnyflower... i'll have to look into that...

dunno how my parents will take it if i tell them im moving!!! not looking forward to that!!!

i really dont know what to do...

im hoping his dad will come round... let dp home... it will at least give us a bit more time!!!

**Emi** · 12-06-2008 14:21

i just got a call from dp... he spoke to his unlce... who had spoken to his dad... and his unlce said that there is next to no chance of going home...

dp went to centrelink and told them the situation... they just gave him paperwork to fill out! ... like that really helps when he has no money and home!!!

god why do bad things happen all at once???

**bubbleyblossom** · 12-06-2008 14:22

I wish there was something I could do to help hun!
Would your mum and dad let him stay with you guys for a couple of days or so until you work something out?
I wish he could stay here but we're packed!!! Im sorry!!!

**Emi** · 12-06-2008 14:27

my parents hate dp... i really dont think theyll let him stay... not that we have the room either!!! its shocking at home atm! i dont even wanna stay here!!!

we have my aunt and her family staying with us on the weekend! ... so its gonna be chockers!!!

im so stressed and now worried about him!!!