just need another point of view on this...
I found out last week of DF that he gets to come home this weekend (reunion leave) just for friday night,saturday and flys back to the base on Sunday morning!yay.
Anyway, im a bridesmaid in a friends wedding in september and I told her a week ago about DF coming home.She rings me today and tells me I have to get fitted for my bridesmaids dress and look for shoes etc with her on the Saturday.
OK,so fine its only a few hours so that ok.But then she said 'oh and then all the bridesmaids and groomsmen are coming back to our place for a big dinner/drinking sesh'.
I said 'well im okay to come to the dress fitting etc but not the dinner as you know DF will be home.' shes like 'oh he can come and catch up with the guys and have drinks etc'
I reminded her that DF and I havent seen eachother in two months and he just wants some private family time with me and DD as she turns one next weekend and he will miss it as he goes out bush then so couldnt get leave.And I DID tell her about him coming a week ago and shes only just now telling me about the fitting and dinner so im sorry but my family has to come first.
Shes really annoyed about it and acting really hard done by that I cant just drop everything.
Am I in the wrong here?
She does have like 5 other bridesmaids to hang out with, and theyve missed heaps of other wedding stuff that ive been there for and they didnt get any flack for it.
How do I explain to her that this is my life now and these things will happen?