Is anyone else in this situation?? I don't know what to do.
It seems to me like we have started our family at an inconvenient time for them.
It also seems to have gotten much much worse since ds2 was born 20 months ago. I can only assume it is because we asked tehm to give us a few days with bub before they visited. They were put out because they had looked after DS1 while I was in labour. Mind you I came home to an absolute pigsty and poor df was handed ds at 5.30am when he got home from the hospital and MIl left straigh away.
They have never shown any excitement when I have been pregnant. And then they get their knickers in a twist when we don't want them to visit immediately after bub is born.
We never get invited to their home anymore, unless it is someones birthday or xmas/easter/mothers day/fathers day.
They never com eto our home anymore - they used to pop over on weekends and mil would often come over on a Friday after work to see ds1.
On a Tuesday MIL takes her parents grocery shopping and I meet them with the kids for a coffee. It feels like it is a huge effort for mil to excited to see the kids. If I don't go, the kids don't see her. last week they went elsewhere and didn't tell me....DS! was dissapointed - stood up by his own grandmother!I am ready to boycott!! The only reason I keep going is so the kids know their great grandparents - they may not be here for much longer and I want the kids of have a memory of them as they absolutely adore each other.
I mentioned to MIL that I may need her to babysit when I have my ante natal appoinments with this bub......."well not if I get a new job" - that was her entire comment.
I am fed up. It has come to head this weekend because DF has finally admitted that he is upset, dissapointed adn angry about it too. In the past eh has not said too much about it. He even told me to stop going on Tuesdays.
Geez this has turned into a huge rant......but it feels good to get it all out. I can feel something is going to get said soon.......and I can only see it getting nasty.
I can't think what to do about it though.
Have things like this torn other families apart.....or do you just trudge along to keep the peace??