DD will never go to school with siblings :(

**Jamaica** · 06-06-2008 19:52

Today while walking to get DD from school I did the math and realised that DD will never go to school with any siblings

I was shattered, I mean I now she's 5 but I never looked at this aspect of the age gap before, its heartbreaking. Even if we get pregnant in the next couple of cycles DD will be starting high school the yr the baby would start primary school.
TO anyone with a big age gap, does it mean my future kids wont be close to DD? Will it be hard for them to bond being there will be an age gap of atleast 6yrs?

**biscotti** · 06-06-2008 19:59

I have a similiar age gap between my no 2 and no 3 babies, an 8.5 yr old and a 21 mth old and they have a fabulous, loving, adoring relationship

**JJJ&D'sMum** · 06-06-2008 21:21

There are 5yrs between DS1 and DS2 and 10 yrs between DS2 and DD. There was never a problem with the boys being close...they just did the usual and fought like boys LOL DS2 totally dotes on DD and I don't see that changing at all. He loves her way too much.

You shouldn't have any problem at all with any age gap. Good luck TTC.

Lots of

for you,
CC

**canberramomma** · 06-06-2008 21:36

I wouldn't sweat it. I was in year 5 when my next sibling started school and was never at school with my youngest sibling. Our oldest has often never been in the same state with her siblings when they are at school and she's much older than them and my next oldest will be in high school when my current youngest starts school. I really think it's the closeness at home that counts.

**mmm7** · 07-06-2008 00:45

Don't worry too much about it. My oldest sister was in year 7 when I started primary school and we were very close.
Kids make friends at school, they are never really alone

**StrawberryTheMilkshake** · 07-06-2008 05:20

My DD will be the same too Jaimaca, she is already 4 and we arent even close to having another baby yet.

I figure that the older age gap will result in a helpful relationship and one which they can help each other with school work, etc!!! I would have loved to have an older brother or sister to take care of me!!!

Dont beat yourself up about it, many of us are having the same thing happen.... sometimes it just doesnt happen the way we want it to....

Are you feeling any better about your ordeal?

STM