sick of "those" looks

[sharvs]

My DF and I have a 4 month old son. I am 26, he is 25. Both my partner and I are blessed (or cursed) with looking a lot younger than what we are. Whist I was pregnant, and now we have DS, we get alot of disapproving looks from people because they think we are too young to have a baby. I know it doesnt matter what they think, & somedays I dont care at all but other times it really bothers me. I suppose one day I will be thankful for looking younger than I am, maybe when I hit 30!

[Jem]

know how your feeling.....
days when i need to run down to coles with the 3 kids... one in the trolley (food part) one in the baby seat part, and one dragging behind.....lol
i always feel as though ppl are shaking there head in disapprovement

[Mum&bubs]

Yep i get the same thing because I am only 18 espeically at play group all the older parents look at me like i dont have a clue what im doing & dont deserve to have a baby it will probably get worse when my belly starts growing...

[Starlet]

I hate it too. It drives me insane! Especially when my 2 stepdaughters are out with us because people tell me I look 16(I'm 22), so we have 4 kids with us that all look like that could be siblings and yeah...I usually get the looks when one of them is crying...ugh.

[ann n mick]

my sister goes on and on that she is so good but she is 27 and has 2 kids she only looks like she is 17 me on the other hand i look my age im only 19

[Jackson84]

i try not to notice...and i remind myself that when all the older mum's are 80 and still have teenagers, i will be clubbing in london. LOL hehehehe

[Femme-Fetale]

Well hello Jackson, now i know where else ur going in your net time haha
Anyhow, now to the topic of convo

Im 25 now and i have a near on 11 mth old but i must say i dont really get any looks, i mean i dont look old, but nor do i look way young either, i guess im just a typical 25 yr old.
The one time i have been started and scoffed at was by a old couple, (50-60 ish) so i thought i'd better enlighten them
I went over to them and gave them to biggest smile with the most polite hello and intro'd myself ina very respectable manner, just so they could see not all young ppl are all about 'yo wassup dawg' and that jazz, that we are actually capable of a real conversation too!
They were a bit taken back but happily responded etc, followed on with how cute my son is, and where is the father.
Thats where the fun began.
I told them i am no longer with the father, that i askd him to leave becoz he had broken the laws of any r/ship. They werent liking that too well but understood it. Then they asked how do i cope, it must be hard on my own and being young too. I asked her how old she was when she got married and had kids, and she said 17. i said "right, so now wat gives u the right to pass judgement on any woman of any age for having a child??"
Well, haha, yea that really didnt go down to well.
So maybe next time ur getting the evil-steves, just mention that those ppl prob had their kids quiet young too, and age is a number, not a barrier! Oh well ive rambled on so much now havent i

Oh forgot to say, HI IM ROZA haha, and im new, i use another website forum but was suggested to come join a few of you here that i know from the other site, so i have I run the young mums section on the other site and mod singles AND young parents too, so this will be nice here, just being a regular memeber!
Hi to all, and lok forward to getting to know u more

[Maghan]

You should see the looks we get when we "elephant walk" the six kids through Coles to grocery shop! People will look at me, look at DH, count the kids, look at the oldest kid, look at DH, look at me and then shake their heads.

They don't know you, so it doesn't matter what they think, let those people judge, it would be all they have in their pathetic little lives!

[WeThree]

this topic has got me thinking about a point someone made in another thread, how often are people really looking at you disapprovingly? and how often is it more that you percieve it to be so, because you are feeling self conscious about something? i know when i am out with my kids i dont think anyone gives us a second glance, and if they do i am to busy with the kids and shopping etc to notice i just find it hard to imagine that there are so many people out there who care how old a mum is, i understand that there are some out there who look twice when they see a really really young girl pushing a pram, but for the most part i think most people are just going about their day the same as you and when you think they are looking at you disapprovingly they are probably thinking 'gee did i remember detergent?' or 'gosh i need to go to the toilet' anyway the point im trying to make is that sometimes we project our own insecurities onto others and that maybe we shouldnt always look so much into it, im sure most people are just admiring what a lovely little family you are.

[Maghan]

this topic has got me thinking about a point someone made in another thread, how often are people really looking at you disapprovingly? and how often is it more that you percieve it to be so, because you are feeling self conscious about something? i know when i am out with my kids i dont think anyone gives us a second glance, and if they do i am to busy with the kids and shopping etc to notice i just find it hard to imagine that there are so many people out there who care how old a mum is, i understand that there are some out there who look twice when they see a really really young girl pushing a pram, but for the most part i think most people are just going about their day the same as you and when you think they are looking at you disapprovingly they are probably thinking 'gee did i remember detergent?' or 'gosh i need to go to the toilet' anyway the point im trying to make is that sometimes we project our own insecurities onto others and that maybe we shouldnt always look so much into it, im sure most people are just admiring what a lovely little family you are.

Not me, not insecure, I think I read people quite well. I should've probably mentioned, we do get nice looks and smiles too!