i know im not spose to worry

**workin'mumof2** · 31-05-2008 21:29

but its SO HARD.
hes 19.5months old he doesnt speak apart from mumumum and dadadada and who ever ted is? its tedtedted. and maybe bababa for ruby.

the health nurse said by 2 they "should" be saying 20words

or they "need" to see a speach therapist.

no hearing issues and i know what he wants when he wants but i try and encorage him to talk but its not happening.

what am i doing wrong.

people have said i should put him in play group that will help.. but hello cant i do a good enough job myself

(dh reckons he has a theory. hes teething really badly... does this delay talking???) he reckons but i think hes pulling at strings lol

**amandaw** · 31-05-2008 21:50

Have to admit that since my DD went into FDC, she has come leaps and bounds in her speech...I wouldn't stress too much about the age though - DD is nearly 22 months, and I'd say that it's really only in the last 2 months that shes been developing a wide vocabulary...before that it was the normal mum, dad, bub, thank you and ta da

**punkbaby** · 31-05-2008 21:54

His only 19 months dont stress hun....i know all mne were much te same then at around anywhere from 2 to 2.5 all of a sudden they are having cinversations with me, it was like umm how did you learn to say all that!!

Give him time his still only young

**OJandMe** · 31-05-2008 21:59

Neither of my twins spoke much at all before 2.

They said

Mum
Dada
Dog
Yes
No

umm.. I think that's about the extent of it.

They are now 3.5 have have a very extensive vocabulary!

I wouldn't worry about it.

**shed** · 31-05-2008 22:36

My DS is nearly two and he doesn't have 20 words. He's not slow in any way.

I can tell he is just about to start talking, he babbles and I know he is trying to say stuff, but he would probably have 10 words maybe? At 19 months he probably had 4? mum, dad, bubbup (shut up - to the dogs!

), bapple (Apple, the dog).

They make a big jump once they start, and they all start at different times. Wait a bit longer before you decide.

We have a month to go and you know what? I think we are probably going to make it. I reckon you will too. Its too soon to tell anyway so don't stress. The months from now till then is a long time in baby-years remember.

**goodusernamestaken** · 31-05-2008 23:20

OK, I'm the voice of dissent here.

If you are concerned, what is stopping you from getting an evaluation to determine if there is something that needs your attention or not?

If the evaluation indicates some action is required - which is likely to be more specific than attending daycare, you can take that action.

If, on the other hand, the evaluation indicated that no action is required, your mind will be put at ease and you can relay that to those that are suggesting otherwise.

Hugs to you - I have worked in early intervention and also have a child with extra needs so I know both that it is hard to come to that realisation yet important to act early.

**TeamAwesome** · 31-05-2008 23:30

My DS was the same so definitely don't worry, around 2yo he started picking things up and now I can't get the boy to stop talking.

**Alekay** · 31-05-2008 23:31

My DD didn't have a lot of words really before 2 i was worried as well. Mum said that they always used to say "1 to walk, 2 to talk" and sure enough around the time she turned 2 she didn't stop. These word just came out that i didn't know she knew.

She is nearly 4 and has no speaking problems its quiet amazing the words she can come out with

**mim1** · 01-06-2008 07:32

My understanding is that at 18/19 months it's normal to have 3 - 6 words, not 20! 20 is a lot! So, your ds has at least 3 words, and that's ok for now.

But, you say his hearing is ok ... have you had it formally checked with an audiologist? Has he had ear infections?

My ds had recurrent ear troubles and had his hearing checked multiple times. Each time there was a small problem with his hearing, but we hadn't noticed. We were watching to see if he improved under the guidance of his paediatrician. Things didn't improve and he went from saying 10 words at 12 months (which is unusual) to saying 5 words at 14 months. That's when I knew something wasn't right. His paediatrician agreed and my ds was referred to an ENT for grommets. Now, 6 weeks after he had grommets in he babbles all day. He says so many different words and makes so many different sounds. I don't know if it was partially going to happen anyway, but I suspect that his hearing was worse than we realised.

I don't think playgroup is needed for speech development. Play groups are great, but socialising with other children is not required for speech development. Hearing you speak and ask questions and have conversations is what will help your ds learn to speak in his own time. If you want to go to a playgroup, then go, but don't feel like you have to go or your child won't speak. That's just not true.

**shanz** · 01-06-2008 09:50

I would say it is nothing to worry about just yet.
Playgroup and daycare are different however. Playgroup wouldn't hurt, it is where you take the kids along and meet up with other mums. You should be able to find a website with details of groups in your area. It is usually a few dollars a session. its fantastic. We go 2 days a week. It is a great way of getting the kids together with other kids. I definately wouldn't say he needs to be in daycare.