How much does your partner contribute to babycare?

**TickTock** · 20-05-2008 08:45

Hi ladies,

I'm just wondering how much everyone's full-time working DHs/DPs/DBFs/etc contribute to baby care (nappy changing, bathing, feeding, dressing, etc)??

During the week? On the weekend?

I'm just trying to gauge if I'm expecting too much or too little from my hard working DH!

Thanks in advance!

**Skittles** · 20-05-2008 08:51

My Dh works long hours some days. He starts at 730am and doesnt get home somedays till 6. But every night i expect him to help with bathing the kids (more so they have time together) and its also his job to put DD to bed. They have a cuddle and story time. Other than that he doesnt do much. I do all the house work, cooking and everything else with the kids. Although right now i dont mind. Dont ask me tomorrow but...

**Benji** · 20-05-2008 08:52

I don't have a partner now but I can tell you my XDP did ZERO babycare...

**Jesska08** · 20-05-2008 08:58

my DP works from 7 till 5.30 so i dont expect him to get up at night except every saturday he does it regardless of if he works that sunday

and if he has a day off during the week i sometimes let him sleep in or he gets up that day instead of saturday

hes not big on nappies lol, hell only do them if im not home. and hes too scared to bath her at the moment. when shes older he will as he bathed my first daughter hes just to scared with dd2!

So as shes onlt 5 months he doesnt all that much yet.. except the playing bit!! but he does her last feed before her bed at night, and sometimes cooks dinner and washes up for me so i can sit for awhile! so hes good on good days! but sometimes im just a nag and expect more of him. but there isnt really much more for him to do!

**punkbaby** · 20-05-2008 09:00

My DH doesnt work I do (at home) he doesnt do anything really i feel like i nag if i ask so i dont go there its easier to do it myself

Mind you he will give bubs a cuddle if i need to cook dinner or something and he will get ds from kinder 2 days a week. I could ask more but i feel like i am whining so i dont

I do like that i can give bubs to him if i need him too though, his got no choice really i just say here, take her!!

My own fault for not pushing, i would love for him to just work

**SorenLorensen** · 20-05-2008 09:28

DP leavs for work at 5:50 and gets home AROUND 4:30

(ever since he got a promotion who knows what time he will get home really)
as soon as he walks through the door he gets his attachment also known as DD1. she goes everywhere with him and is like his side kick. becuase of that he pretty much helps her with the toilet (she is TTing) or changes her nappy, the girls bath together but i wash DD2 and dress her while he takes care of all that with DD1 and she feeds herself so he does not need to feed her.
he has changed DD2s nappy and fed her a couple of times but he isn't all that confident with newborns.

**workin'mumof2** · 20-05-2008 09:37

im a nagger apparently

if i didnt ask he wouldnt do anything. i do all the house work by myself except for the dishes which we both do in the evening together if he is home. if im tired he will do them by himself. he doesnt like changing our newest member but will happily change ds if both need changing at the same time.. (i prefere to change dd nappy anyway. dont like todler poo

)

if he has a day off he wont make plans to go out. i have to literaly pull him off his computer and make him go out with us. hes a nerd. and he knows it lol. if theres a prob with any computer he will know how to fix it. if only he could get a job in IT

but when he does spend time with the kids he does it well

**Emi** · 20-05-2008 09:39

my dp is studying full time at tafe atm... we dont live together either... but he comes around as much as he can to see dd... he does nappy changing (but its usually a struggle to get him to do it..) he gives her baths which he loves doing and plays with her (well as much play as a 8 week old bubz can do!) when he stays over nite.. or us at his place he'll get up during the night to do the nappy before i feed her... so i can stay in bed a little longer!!!...
he contributes in his own way... but as he isnt here much its a bit hard...

**Ange&Seth** · 20-05-2008 09:40

DF does ALOT around here and when I get cranky sometimes I have to tell myself just how much he DOES do.

This week for example he's started at 4am and on Monday didn't get home til after 6pm. Same thing today most probably. He travels alot too, today he'll be driving at least 3 hours so that tires him out.

He generally baths DS and gets him out of the bath and he always plays with him when he gets home from work.

From memory though he didn't do much when he was little unless I asked him to.

**gizmoduckus** · 20-05-2008 09:41

My DH helps me with everything that he can and he works a very stressful job at the moment.

At night during the week he gives DS a bath and he washes the dishes. Sometimes even helps me cook.

On the weekend he lets me have a little sleep in on Saturdays while he gets up. He also does the ironing.

I am extremely lucky to have him.