Oh god I'm so mean

[taylorsmummy]

So the tests are in! we're not pregnant and My brother in law and his parnter are I can't help but feel a bit jealous and I can't stop putting her down in small ways. I mean you'd have to know her to know what I mean, but to put it nicely, she's not the smartest crayon in the box. My BIL does everything for her like drives her around where ever and when ever, lays out her clothes in the morning for work, gets up like 6am (even if his not working) and makes her breakfast and I reckon if she asked he'd wipe her butt! Talking to her is a nightmare because it's like talking to a child, half the time you can't even understand her and the subjects are always, "I got a new top", " I'm so tired from work", I this, I that. I know it's mean but the rest of the family feel the same way, their just nice because thats who my BIL has chosen to be with. I'm just worried that my poor BIL is going to be stuck with two children instead of one and it's going to be to much for him. She's the kind of person who gives up when it's to hard and we all know how hard looking after a newborn is. You must think I'm a complete selfish b##ch, but trust me, I don't think she's going to be able to cope.

[mumofcuties]

for you sorry your not pregnant hopefully it will happen soon, your sil sounds a bit strange, like mine lol, she is not smart at all she has just had her second son and she used to complian about how hard it was to look after her first son and she has all the help in the world, i have two kids 10 months apart with no help and my dp is never home, i dont think your a $itCH, her husband sounds like he does everything for her, lays her clothes out i didnt realise that was a hard thing to do lol, i hope it gets better for you

[taylorsmummy]

and for the record, I am happy for them

[taylorsmummy]

strange is an under statement! lol thanks thou, you made me sound a little less mean. I just know that she is going to winge and moan and life is going to be difficult for everyone. Not to mention the fact that she thinks she knows all and I'm going to have to listen all the things I already know, grrr

[mumofcuties]

oh no not a know it all first time mum lol. hmm not sure what you can do about the wingeing will just have to wear ear plugs when shes around

[TeamAwesome]

sounds a bit like my SIL and BIL but they've actually just had their first. They even came up to the hospital a few hours after I'd had my second and proceeded to tell me how busy and tired they were. I guess seeing me sitting on a hospital bed made it seem like my life was pretty laid back or something.

Until you have kids you just don't understand. Some people really don't have a lot to talk about which is sad but what can you do. You're at different points in your life, I don't want to sound mean but I'm sure until you had a child yourself your conversations to another parent may have been boring also. I know childless friends of mine would be bored by my baby/child chatter. Yes she's pregnant but it's different to actually having a baby. In the mean time smile and nod and think to your self and when you have a real baby I'm sure you'll do none of this.

Be there for her that's all you can do. You know what she has ahead of her and that nothign you read or are told could even possibly prepare you for it. and Enjoy being an Aunt!

[taylorsmummy]

yeah but it's not the fact that the conversation is boring it's pointless, like not the weather is fine pointless like you'll be in the middle of a conversation with someone else (say like the war in Iraq) and she'll just randomly say "I brought surround sound" like no one had even brought up surround sound. I once tried to talk to her about voting (last election) she looked at me stupid so I continued talking with my BIL. She stood up yelled "don't included me in anything!" and stormed off! Even when they came round last night to tell us the news, I was pulling out some books that I thought could help them (yes they did ask if I had any) and talking about how great having kids are and their lives are going to be so busy and filled with love, she stopped, pulled up her jumper and said, do you like my new top? I rolled my eyes away from her and thought dear god, she's going to compete for attention with the baby like she did when my daughter was born. I couldn't even say anything about the baby after that with out her butting in

[mumofcuties]

she sound quiet imature, if she is an attention seeker she is going to get a rude shock when she has this baby

[84zsazsa]

sounds a bit like my SIL and BIL but they've actually just had their first. They even came up to the hospital a few hours after I'd had my second and proceeded to tell me how busy and tired they were. I guess seeing me sitting on a hospital bed made it seem like my life was pretty laid back or something.

Until you have kids you just don't understand. Some people really don't have a lot to talk about which is sad but what can you do. You're at different points in your life, I don't want to sound mean but I'm sure until you had a child yourself your conversations to another parent may have been boring also. I know childless friends of mine would be bored by my baby/child chatter. Yes she's pregnant but it's different to actually having a baby. In the mean time smile and nod and think to your self and when you have a real baby I'm sure you'll do none of this.

Be there for her that's all you can do. You know what she has ahead of her and that nothign you read or are told could even possibly prepare you for it. and Enjoy being an Aunt!

Absolutely tops. Well said.

Danni

[taylorsmummy]

I know and I am happy and I will enjoy being an aunt, I can just see whats going to happen to my BIL. He works himself flat as it is and like I said he does EVERYTHING for her. The last thing I want thou is for him to suffer with her and the baby demands, I can see it's not going to end well. And on a quick note, they were on a rocky road before they found out with my BIL thinking about leaving