Should DS be rewarded for this? HELP PLEASE

[brookeme]

Hi there, I really need opinions on this:
DH Grandad fainted at his home on thurs last week and DH drove him to doc and offered for him to stay here with us, he accepted....
We spoke to DS about it and asked if he would kindly give his room to his great grandfather for a few days and sleep foot to foot in his sisters bed, he was happy to at first but last night he got a little overwhelmed and expressed how he would love to have his own bed back, he was really sobbing, but I felt if I asked Great Grandad to swap into DD bed that he might feel as though he is putting us out.
He is 82 (but very good for his age) and I dont have the heart to shift him.
Sooooo.... Should I offer a reward to DS for giving up his bed, or should he just be co-operative and rewarded by the fact he did the right thing for his Great Grandad???????
I feel for DS cos I am a homebody too and like my privacy, Its hard for all of us.
What do you reckon?

[forbetoel]

Honestly...No I wouldn't reward him. I think you are in a situation and position where you can really teach your son an important lesson in manners and just plain old genorousity. The only reward I would be giving, is verbal praise, saying how proud you are that he done something so kind for his grandad, and letting him know what a lovely little boy he is.

[jayisa02]

yes i would reward him for giving up his bed. I have offered rewards to my 5yo DS for doing things for others. Not all the time but this sounds like a special situation. COuld you perhaps put a mattress on the floor for DS so he has his own space to sleep?

[BreakfastatTiffanys]

Honestly...No I wouldn't reward him. I think you are in a situation and position where you can really teach your son an important lesson in manners and just plain old genorousity. The only reward I would be giving, is verbal praise, saying how proud you are that he done something so kind for his grandad, and letting him know what a lovely little boy he is.

I agree with 4boys2love, keep praising him for his generosity. It is only a few days.

[Benji]

I also agree with 4boys2love. He did do a really lovely thing for his grandfather, so I guess loads of thank you's and you did very well would be good.

My lil brother was one of those kids who wouldn't do anything for anyone as a child unless he had some sort of "reward" for it (meaning a toy, lolly or something) and he is exactly the same now that he's a grown man

[Seekrit]

Honestly...No I wouldn't reward him. I think you are in a situation and position where you can really teach your son an important lesson in manners and just plain old genorousity. The only reward I would be giving, is verbal praise, saying how proud you are that he done something so kind for his grandad, and letting him know what a lovely little boy he is.

You are so very wise

[forbetoel]

You are so very wise

...and you are very kind.

[Chickadee]

I agree with the verbal praise being the most important. But... it might also be nice for him to receive a thank you present from his greatgrandad when he moves back out. Something small and inexpensive, but a token of thanks for sharing his room. Receiving it from his great grandad that way seems less like a reward or bribe, than having it from you during the visit itself.

[tootiredtosleep]

I'd reward him with a certificate, something that you can print up on a piece of paper and put in a cheap frame or just on the fridge, something like "Kind Grandson Award" or similar. You could probably even find a template on the net somewhere. It wouldn't cost anything, but is something for him to keep and be proud of.

[ziggie]

Another who agrees with 4B2L here .