40+ Mums with Baby/Toddler as Only Child

**toblerone** · 14-08-2006 01:09

Hey everyone

I am a nanny and one of the Mums I work for is 44 with 2 children - a 2 year old and a 5 year old. She and her husband had been trying for kids for 10 years before that without success before she got her miracles!

She definately has a lot less energy than younger Mums but she also has a lot of +ve things that she gives her children - the wisdom that comes from life experiences and maturity, financial stability etc.

Anyway I know there's some negative stuff about "old" Mums in the media but this lady is a fantastic Mum and her children are absoultely gorgeous & a credit to her.

I wanted to say keep up the good work all of you!!!

Age doesn't matter it's how good a Mum you are that counts

**forever1** · 03-09-2006 21:39

hi there everyone. my name is Ruth from Geelong. im not a first time mum. im 43 and have five beautiful children. their ages are 23, 21, 18 and then wait for it 4 and 18 months. if i had to choose between having the kids younger or older i would def choose older. i am much more patient and really enjoy the kids this time round. im also single this time round so sometimes it is really hard work. i would love to talk to anyone in a similar position.

**Miaow** · 27-09-2006 05:12

Hi Ruth and Welcome

Have to say I think I'm probably a lot more patient than i would have been when I was a lot younger LOL

Hmm not many posts for a while in here

**cherylh58** · 19-10-2006 10:25

Hi butterfly kisses;
Iwas 6 days short of my 47th birthday when i had my son Cooper last yr so dont feel bad ; i also have 3 older kids 26,23,and 13 its the quality time that you spend with them not how many yrs you have left with them.Being older you are much wiser and not so stressed out and more patient,i must admit he runs me ragged sometimes but i would'nt be without him he's my miricle

**Clarielle** · 10-11-2006 15:26

Hi to all those older mums:

I'm going to be a reasonably young mum (I'll be 23 when baby comes) but I wanted to encourage you that there are other older mums out there. My mother was 36 when she had my brother (that was her fourth child, and I guess 36 isn't really that old! But it seemed so at the time (13 years ago).
Also, my mother in law has a four year old son (conceived and birthed naturally), she (MIL) is 51. Again, this wasn't her first child, but they'll be parents with kids at home into their mid sixties at least!

all the best with your mothering!

Clarielle

**Callian** · 10-11-2006 17:52

Am an older mum (45), I have a 5 yr old and 16 mth yr old sons plus I have a 24 yr old son and a 21 yr old daughter to my ex and my 24 yr old son has made me a grandmother to a beautiful 2 yr old boy

I would not have it any other way. I love the way my family are, not conventional at all. Talking to my big big boy about teething, toilet training, general baby talk is wonderful. My daughter has decided she will wait before she has babies, I wonder why????? I know I am extremely lucky to have my two youngest, as we all know fertility decreases as we get older, their dad, first time daddy, is over the moon with his boys. Life can only get better.
Cheers,
Janine

**flib** · 23-11-2006 08:35

I've just had my 3rd child just before my 41st birthday. My son was born when I was 34 and my 1st daughter at 38. I was ready to have kids at about 30 but my partner wasn't ready. We've been together now for 15 years so it was worth the wait!

Sometimes I'm not so sure that I'm more mature as an older Mum - I still get frustrated and yell at my kids occasionally. I do get tired and my last pregnancy just about killed me! But on the other hand I've already got a lot of things out of my system and I'm happy to be at home with my kids. DP and I went out alot when we were younger and had lots of fun. Now it's time for a different kind of fun!

I'd have more kids if I was younger - I could concieve easily but need some space between these kids and then it would be too late. DP is going to have a vasectomy and I'll be back at work in Dec 2007. All that time we were having fun, we weren't paying off a mortgage so we're doing that now too!

I'd love to hear from other older Mums.

Flib

**emmaeliza** · 16-01-2007 09:21

I Had Eliza Just Before My 41 Birthday In September She Is A Dream Baby So Happy I Had Her Julie

**emmaeliza** · 16-01-2007 09:24

Originally Posted by flib

I've just had my 3rd child just before my 41st birthday. My son was born when I was 34 and my 1st daughter at 38. I was ready to have kids at about 30 but my partner wasn't ready. We've been together now for 15 years so it was worth the wait!

Sometimes I'm not so sure that I'm more mature as an older Mum - I still get frustrated and yell at my kids occasionally. I do get tired and my last pregnancy just about killed me! But on the other hand I've already got a lot of things out of my system and I'm happy to be at home with my kids. DP and I went out alot when we were younger and had lots of fun. Now it's time for a different kind of fun!

I'd have more kids if I was younger - I could concieve easily but need some space between these kids and then it would be too late. DP is going to have a vasectomy and I'll be back at work in Dec 2007. All that time we were having fun, we weren't paying off a mortgage so we're doing that now too!

I'd love to hear from other older Mums.

Flib

SO DID I JULIE