Sorry this may be long....My mother had a stroke at Christmas last year, she can't drive anymore and I'd had her car for the last few months (which has been great, since I've been able to get out of the house) I've also been driving her to appointments and trying to help her with Centrelink.
Since the stroke it seems she has a hard time holding her tongue. On numerous occasions she has said that DP isn't right for me. She's entitled to her opinion, but I considering we're about to have our second child I really don't want to hear it right now.
Weeks ago we arranged for me to return her car at the end of the month, so that she could sell it. The plan was to then buy a 7 seater car that would be mine and registered in my name.
We saw my mother on Monday, there was nothing wrong at that point. A couple of weeks ago she saw the doctor and we got a report that I was meant to take into Centrelink. Because of the public holidays and me being sick and pregnant, I hadn't had a chance to go hand it in.
Anyway, I get a call from my mum yesterday. It went something like this:
Mum: I want my car back today!
Me: Whats wrong?
Mum: I want my car back today!
Me: What's happened?
Mum: I want it back today, and I want that doctors report. I don't want you helping me anymore. I want to take car of things myself.
Me: ok, but what brought this on?
Mum: I want MY car back today, I don't want your help anymore. (hangs up)
This really upset me, DP tried to call her but she wouldn't answer the phone. I had to leave her a message saying we can't take the car back for a few hours as DD was sleeping.
We were planning on taking the car back and picking up my 9yo sister for a sleepover. But I wasn't able to explain any of that to mum, since she hung up on me so quick.
We took the car back, along with the doctors report and other stuff that was left here. Mum didn't even bother coming to the door, my sister called out to her. So I just handed my sister the bag of stuff and the car keys and told her to give them to mum. I asked my sis if mum was mad, she said no. Usually my mum gets in a temper and yells at my sister if she's having a bad day.
She hasn't called me, and I don't know what I've done wrong. I feel like she's disowned me I'm about to have another baby, she's only asked me how I'm feeling once during this whole pregnancy. If she's mad at me for something I've done, fair enough. But not knowing is just tearing me apart. I'm mad at her for being so insensitive and putting me throught this stress that I really don't need right now.
I really don't know what to do. Calling her is pointless as she just lets it go to the answering machine. My sister has a mobile, but I don't really want to get her involved. I suspect she has already cancelled my authority with Centrelink. I have a number for a social worker she was seeing, but I don't really want to get anyone else involved.
I just don't know what to do, until I know what's happened or what I've done wrong I can't not stop stressing about it. Its really upsetting me and getting me down.
What should I do? DP tells me I should just wipe her from my life (funny since I think he should do the same with his mother, but I never say that). I can't do that she's my mother, but it really hurts when she just shuts me out for nor reason.
I've forgiven her for so much, such as calling child services on me. For caring about her boyfriend more than me, and basically neglecting me as a teenager. I've fogiven her for the abuse I used to cop as a child, and the fact that she always believes someone else over her own daughter. I'm mad because it seems unfair that she is treating me this way now....
I really don't know what to do.... Despite all the bad things she's my mother and I need her. I don't have any other family, things have been difficult lately with DP and now I feel like I have no one to turn to. I don't need this stress right now....