I'm not sure if I'm expecting too much - I never know with my mother. But I have been planning a 2nd birthday party for my DD and had decided to do a kids party, and then a get together for family the next day.
I tell my mother and she goes, 'oh, we were planning a trip to Tasmania so...'
I mean, it's not even like her trip is finalised, but it is obvious that she had no intention of ever attending the party. And she hasn't even attempted to make some other time to see her for her birthday.
My DD just does not seem to be important to her. But my brother's newborn son is the shining light in her life who she talks non-stop about. Telling me about how she takes him for walks and 'shows him off'. She stays over at his house just to look after him. And his christening is coming up, which of course she will be in town for, and I think it will be akin to the christening of a king.
I try to be positive because I think it is good that she at least makes an effort for my nephew and I don't want to give her the satisfaction of seeing me annoyed or 'jealous'.
It's making me sick how obviously she is playing favourites. And sometimes I get really down because I think that she thinks that I shouldn't have become a mother and that I am unworthy - it really affects my self-esteem because I have always felt unworthy throughout my childhood.
I don't know what to do. The more I try to involve her, the more hurt I get. But if I cut her out, then I feel like I am being petty. And because she is so nice to everyone else, other relatives and such, I think they see me as being mean to her.
I just don't know what to do. As she is the grandparent, I thought that she would take the lead.
sorry, just so upset at the moment...