Im not sure if we are being over protective or unfair but I really dont want my inlaws to look after my dd at all. They have just got out of their family business which means that they have a heap of time, and they keep talking about having dd for the day and they keep saying about having her overnight, they are even going and buying a car seat (booster) for their car even though I said I dont want her in a booster (they bagged me about how I dont want DD in a booster seat, she is only 13kg).
I know a lot of people would be happy that the grandparents wanted to help, but I dont trust them, and dp doesnt either. DD has only ever been baby sat for a couple of hours by my sister, or my dad and stepmum (who have a 3yr old for her to play with) and she goes to child care once a week. But has never stayed the night anywhere.
We have not told them that they cant yet, as we usually just ignore it when they mention it, but seeming Im pregnant, I just think that they are going to ask to have her while im in hospital. I feel like we are being unfair but I really dont trust them. They are the kind of people that dont pay attention to things, they drink a bit, and they ignore what we have to say as parents cause they think they know better. Plus their house isnt child proof, and their car.....well I dont like going in it myself.
Do you think we are being silly? How do you tell the grandparents that you dont want them to babysit?