I think this is DISGUSTING (possibly distressing)

**Loopy Linda** · 10-03-2008 20:18

Ok i seen this article in UK telegraph and honestly i am disgusted.

here is link http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/ma.../hjulia110.xml

i feel sorry for the mother and i can sympathise that giving up her child to another as the best thing for the child. i realise that the biological mother could not cope with this special child.

i think how this story is told is disgusting. i am glad that Imogen will never be able to understand how much her mother did not want her. but mostly i am disgusted that with this attitude she has written a book and will profit from this experience!

i am still shocked at how much these parents despised their imperfect child and the steps they nearly took, but more shocked that the newspaper is actually publishing the facts.

what is there is another family in their situation who reads the first few paragraphs and think thats the answer!

maybe i have taken this the wrong way but i am disgusted and wanted to see how others felt about this

**OJandMe** · 10-03-2008 20:28

I can't understand how they would actually thing giving people 'ideas' on how to kill their children is even allowed in print!

They could just as easily have said: "at times one or both parents entertained thoughts of ending her life"

rather than a word by word written documentation of their discourse...

It's worrying... I hope they don't see a rise in 'cot deaths' of children with severe disabilities.

**onemummmy** · 10-03-2008 20:30

u can tell if someone has been suffocated though. The article is over the top graphic.

**Loopy Linda** · 10-03-2008 20:31

ojandme this was along the lines i was thinking.

onemummy exactly too graphic, i think the shock value of it may have been a bit of a promotional thing for book.

all i can say is i am disgusted

**mischief79** · 10-03-2008 20:34

The first few paragraphs absolutely floored me. It was harder to take the rest in because I just kept thinking back to what they wanted to do to her.
I don't know what to say. I haven't been in the situation they were in to understand the stresses, but why on earth would you want to go to that extreme? How could you? That's murder.
Hopefully the UK government will pick up on this and improve their policies to help families who have dependant disabled children in their care.

**Cordelia** · 10-03-2008 20:34

I feel quite shocked.

I think everyone would agree that there is other help and support other than validating killing your child.. i'm probably missing the point. Surely, right?

I'm glad that poor little girl is with a family who loves her. It makes me feel sick to my stomach that her own mother would want to be so violent with her... and now she's making money from it.

**Tam-I-Am** · 10-03-2008 20:38

I'm sorry, but I don't agree. I have had thoughts about hurting my child at times when I was in deep despair, and in the throws of deep PND. I'm so glad that there are women and men out there who are brave enough to consider putting such controversial and badly-thought-of (by society at large) thoughts into written print. I don't think that the story was told graphically, or was OTT - I think that it was told in a very heart-felt way. These people clearly love their daughter and were pushed to absolute breaking point - I can appreciate that, I've been there myself. And my child isn't even disabled.

I think that what's disgusting is that families are left with so few resources, so few coping mechanisms, so few outlets, so few places for help, that they feel driven to this kind of feeling.

I hope never to be as harshly judged as this family was

**Loopy Linda** · 10-03-2008 20:38

cordelia i am with you, surely i am missing the point!

**Meemo** · 10-03-2008 20:38

I am not so disgusted more saddened by this story...

I think it has been put so bluntly so people out there can benefit from the story, and hopefully it will help someone. I think maybe details could've been left for people to read the book and more along the lines of OJ's idea...
There is a huge difference between thinking something completely irrational when you are physically, emotionally and mentally drained and then acting on that thought. Having suffered from PND and having fought depression most of my life I completely understand irrational thoughts and how damaging they can be. Some of the thoughts I had make me feel sick. Until someone is in that situation one can't say how they would react.

I'm just so glad that the little girl is now in a safe and happy environment, and both 'parts' of the family are functioning well. What a horrible decision for that family to have to make. I don't envy them one bit.

**Loopy Linda** · 10-03-2008 20:41

tam i am i do understand that parents could feel this way about a child ( a little anyway) i am not wanting to judge on those feelings. more on the actual writing of this article. but i still disagree that they will profit from this book, it just feels wrong to me.