Please help our dream come true...

[Fraseky]

Hi!

My name is Kylie and I am 36 years old. My lovely hubby (aged 40) and I have been married since March 2003. We dream of adding to our family and we are desperately searching for that special someone who may be willing to be our egg donor …this is our story …

Hubby and I basically started TTC on our wedding night (as you do!). I was 32 and desperate for children. I had been having severe pain in my stomach since coming off the pill about 12 months earlier (in preparation for trying to have a baby). 2 months after our wedding and after a laparoscopy/hysteroscopy I was diagnosed with severe endometriosis and told I was unlikely to be able to conceive naturally. What a come down after the wedding!!!!!!

I went all out on diets, naturopaths etc etc and was lucky enough to conceive naturally 4 months later. However I miscarried at 9 weeks and was completely devastated. We regrouped and to the great surprise of my Dr again fell pregnant 2 months later. Again I miscarried at 8 weeks. We nervously started trying again – hoping for third time lucky. But after 11 months of TTC with no luck we did 2 rounds of IUI. Again no luck. Another laparoscopy with hysteroscopy with dyes answered the question - the endo was back.

The Dr burnt away the endo and we tried naturally the following month and again completely dismayed my Dr by conceiving our "smurf" (feel free to ask!). She was born exactly on her due date 1/9/2005 and is our gorgeous miracle now aged 2 ½ .

Well we thought that was tough.....(2 m/c's, 2 IUI's 2 laparoscopies). So even though I was breastfeeding we started TTC # 2 straight away. When DD was about 13 months old and weaned, I knew I wasn't ovulating so went to GP who sent me back to my OB who confirmed my thoughts.

So on the path again - 2 months of tracking showed poor ovulation.
We did 3 rounds of clomid...no luck.
So another laparoscopy (# 3) ...no endo!!!!
Followed by 2 rounds of stimulated IUI...no luck...
Everyone begain shaking their heads...what was going on?
So onto IVF...round one produced a measly 1 egg!!!!!!!!!! Now that was a shock and finally the fertility specialist diagnosed me…on top of the endometriosis I now also had low ovarian reserve. ie heading towards an early menopause. We were both devastated.

We picked ourselves up and have continued to try IVF. We have since done 2 more rounds of IVF with very poor results. We have been given a 5% chance of success at IVF with my eggs.

We were advised last year on diagnoses to start looking for an egg donor. At first this suggestion really threw us and we will be honest and say it has taken some time to come to terms with the reality of our situation. Yes we did want to conceive another child that was genetically ours and the disappointment at not being able to do this is very real. Frankly we were yet again devastated. But the reality is that we are both desperate for another child in our family and the child is the important thing.

Me personally …I am aching for another child (or even two – should I dare dream so much). I so want my daughter to have a sibling. I loved being pregnant and I loved breastfeeding. I would so love to have more children in our home. My heart aches when I watch my daughter playing alone and I listen to the large family next door having a ball together. With every new step of AC and every round of IVF it becomes more apparent what a miracle she is. She is my world and I desperately what to share that world with another child - as does my hubby.

So.....

Our search has begun.

We are looking for that special person who can share our dream and may be willing to donate us an egg or two. In the meantime we have changed clinics (out of desperation) and will continue to try whilst we search and wait for an egg donor. I will be honest… I know that my chances of conceiving with my own eggs are so small but I can’t just sit and wait…I am aching to be a Mum again.

Other than fertility issues… a bit about us:

Hubby is from Scotland and I am from Sydney. We currently live in Perth in a nice suburb close to the city and not far from the beach but are intending to move back to Sydney to be near my large family in about 2 years time. We are both professionals but I only work 2 days as I prefer to be with my daughter. We have a lovely old dog and a nice house…well to be honest we are building a nice house and in the meantime renting a bit of a bomb! But it’s homely!!!!!!! Our new house will have 4 bedrooms (it was planned with 3 children in mind…just prior to my diagnoses last August!!!). I am still really hoping to fill at least one more of those rooms!

We are both very healthy and fit (well I was pre-daughter). Hubby is very fit! (gotta love that!!!). We take our daughter out cycling regularly (well she gets a free ride) and we both love swimming, the beach, and sport generally. We are both big readers as well.

Our families are important to us and we visit Scotland every second year and Sydney reasonably regularly. Our daughter is a healthy active 2 ½ year old and would love a “baby that goes wah wah wah” (she’ll learn!).

I just so want to have another child. I love our daughter so much and I have so much more love to give. and I so don't want DD to be alone. I always wanted children for as long as I can remember. This has always been my dream.

We are searching for someone that can join us in helping to make our dream come true.

If you have read our story and are still with us (I know I have rambled just a tad too much…) and would like to discuss the possibility of being our egg donor, please PM us. We’ll wait patiently but with our fingers crossed!

Oh and we will travel to you! (or you can come to Perth at our expense).

Thanks so much
Kylie

PS I have never done one of these ads before and I am a bit nervous – I hope that’s not TMI!

[Buzzy Bee]

Wow Kylie! What a great ad! I love how much detail you've put into it!
FWIW, I don't think you have have TMI in these ads (though I can't imagine how hard it is to put yourself out there like that! Good on you for doing so ).
You have both been through so much with so many heartbreaking setbacks. What a miracle your DD is!
I wish you all the best in your search for an ED

[elwoodgal]

Hi Kylie good to see you made it to bubhub.
Your ad is lovely & I agree with Debbie, lots of information so that potential ED's can get to know you is a good idea. Well done!
I hope some wonderful woman reads your ad & sends you a PM.
elwoodgal

[Fraseky]

Thanks guys for your support. It really does help. Its is really so hard to put yourself out there.

[wanttobeamum]

Great ad Fraesky,

Hope you get to fill that house soon!

We have a few things in common (apart from looking for an egg donor). I'm also in Perth and am married to a Glaswegian.

Best of luck in finding your angel!

[Love My Bub]

Hi Kylie

Welcome to Bub Hub. All the best for your search for a Donor. Im sure there will be one knocking at your door anytime now

[tummymummy30]

Hi there Kylie Love your ad and I'm sure there's an angel out there who will love it too.
Kelly x

[nanasabj]

hi there.. loved your ad.. no such this as rambling too much about something that is your world and why you breathe everyday. can someone please tell me what is involved in the ED process?

[Roxy]

hi there.. loved your ad.. no such this as rambling too much about something that is your world and why you breathe everyday. can someone please tell me what is involved in the ED process?

If you have a look in the sticky posts in this section, you will find heaps of information about what is involved in being an egg donor...

Kylie - your ad is great!!

[Fraseky]

Thanks everyone for your support - its so hard to put yourself out there and tell the world your "problems".

We are continuing with our herbs, yucky naturopath drinkies, acupuncture, no alcohol, no preservatives, nothing artificial etc etc....and heading into IVF #4 with all guns blazing.....and hoping and hoping that our angel isn't too far away .....