understanding infertility

**babydreams** · 24-03-2006 15:25

Hello everyone,

I've just joined this lovely site and have posted in the "Egg Donor Needed" area.

I suppose anyone visiting this forum is already sympathetic to those of us who struggle with infertility, but perhaps there are some here out of curiosity or an interest in learning more about it and how they may be able to help.

Here is a slideshow that was designed to help people understand what it's like for infertile people to live life in this world. I hope that you find it moving or informative in some way and perhaps it will help us all be more sensitive to those whose journey this is.

Grab a tissue and turn on your speakers...

http://www.vocalicious.com/empty_arm..._arms_mod.html

If you are considering egg donation and would like to learn more, I can highly recommend the Aussie Egg Donors site that others have mentioned.

http://www.aussieeggdonors.com

There you can chat with women who have already donated and learn about all the issues involved. They are a beautiful, supportive group who will welcome you with open arms. Due to the sensitive nature of the discussions it's a private group and there is an application process to join.

Thank you to Bubhub for hosting this forum. I look forward to reading posts and getting to know you all.

Best wishes
babydreams

**PMS** · 24-03-2006 16:35

Hello Babydreams,
I just watched the slideshow; it was so heart moving! I didn't get a tissue as I didn't think that I would cry; wrong. I am sitting here with tears streaming down
and feeling very lucky to have my two beautiful children.
I guess we dont usually stop to think about the difficult journey that infertile couples are on and the heart break they face.
Donating eggs is not something that I have thought about. After seeing so many couples on Bubhub that are after donors it is something that I will seriously have to think about and talk to my husband about.
I wish you much luck on your journey to motherhood and Im sending you and the other couples here hugs for being so patient and brave.

**babydreams** · 25-03-2006 09:45

Dear Peta,

Thanks so much for taking the time to watch the slideshow and respond with your thoughts. It is beautiful that you are considering donation as a result.

Those of us waiting for donors know that donation isn't for everyone, but it really does help us to know that there are gorgeous souls out there like yourself who understand.

Even if you can't donate you can help us by talking to your friends and getting the word out. It's harder and harder to find people who are young, willing and have already finished their families.

The more people understand the issues around this, the better chance we have of fulfilling our dreams.

Thanks for caring
babydreams xx

**PMS** · 08-04-2006 11:31

Hi babydreams. I thought that I would bump this thread up again in the hopes that others would would view your slide show.
Everyone out there; please have a look at the slide show. It is very moving and totally helps you understand what these beautiful women and there partners are going through. It opened my eyes to the extent that I am actually researching and considering egg donation.
Thankyou babydreams; for staring this thread. Hope your search for a donor is going well!

**babydreams** · 08-04-2006 11:57

Dear Peta,

Thanks for bumping! I'm so thrilled that the slideshow had such an impact on you and that you are considering donation. You just never know who it will reach. I wish I could put a link to the slideshow along with some egg donation info into all the threads where young mums hang out, but we can't be bugging people or be intrusive like that...we just have to rely on people's curiousity to visit this thread.

As for our search, we've had one lovely response to the ad from someone who is currently pregnant, but considering donation further down the track (need to be finished breastfeeding before you can donate). She seems very genuine in her wish to help someone become a Mum. I will be phoning that gorgeous lady this week and will be interested to see where the conversation takes us. Other than that, I can't really say they've been bashing my door down!

I'm just so grateful that there are beautiful, supportive people out there like you who are so compassionate and are helping us to spread the word.

Thanks again
Babydreams xx

**Faithcomesinnumbers** · 08-04-2006 12:09

babydreams this has made me cry.

It was very beautiful. Thank you for being so informative and letting people like myself see it from your perspective.

I really hope find a donor shortly.

**baby_blues** · 22-06-2006 09:15

Originally Posted by PMS

Hi babydreams. I thought that I would bump this thread up again in the hopes that others would would view your slide show.
Everyone out there; please have a look at the slide show. It is very moving and totally helps you understand what these beautiful women and there partners are going through.

babydreams is not the creator of the slideshow. she was just sharing it here and glad she did.

i sort of know the creator of the slideshow (from another BB) i wanted to clarify because i know she gets many email messages confusing her with people who post the link to her slideshow on other bb's and people assume it is her or things are posted and shared around the net about the poster assuming it is the creator. things mentioning that she and her partner or dh are using a donor, or in another case a surrogate, or have had children now, or are adopting, have adopted and other things.

she and her dh are still ttc...last i heard.

**babydreams** · 22-06-2006 10:26

Thanks for that Baby Blues,

Oh dear - I didn't realise I'd given anyone the impression that I'd created that slideshow! Sorry for any confusion.

I was just so moved by it when it was shown to me (via another forum) that I thought it would help others understand the pain of infertility so I decided to share it around. If the creator of the slideshow is not happy for it to be circulated, please let me know and I'll edit any posts where I've linked to it.

It's very sad to hear of your friend's ongoing struggle. Please send her my sincere thanks for creating something so beautiful, it has touched a lot of hearts. I hope she finds her way to motherhood soon.

Babydreams xx

**JuliaM** · 25-05-2009 18:50

Originally Posted by PMS

Hello Babydreams,
I just watched the slideshow; it was so heart moving! I didn't get a tissue as I didn't think that I would cry; wrong. I am sitting here with tears streaming down
and feeling very lucky to have my two beautiful children.
I guess we dont usually stop to think about the difficult journey that infertile couples are on and the heart break they face.
Donating eggs is not something that I have thought about. After seeing so many couples on Bubhub that are after donors it is something that I will seriously have to think about and talk to my husband about.
I wish you much luck on your journey to motherhood and Im sending you and the other couples here hugs for being so patient and brave.

Hi Babydreams,

I too sympathize, I have a lump in my throat after watching the slide show. I know exactly how it feels I have undergone 14 IVF cycles.

Hugs

JuliaM

**Kate2006** · 08-04-2006 14:58

Dear Babydreams,

I've just watched the slide show - it says it all doesn't it. I wish I had joined a forum like this years ago. Feeling like you have a support network outside of family is fantastic. Good luck in your journey.
Love
Kate