Blighted ovum at 12 weeks

**beezee78** · 13-02-2008 23:00

We went for our 12 week scan today only to find that there is no baby - I've been told that I have a blighted ovum and that I should start to miscarry within the next 6 weeks (or I can choose to go in for a D&C).

This will be my first miscarriage. After two healthy children the possibility of this happening hadn't really occurred to me before today (bit naive I know!). I had honestly not been worried about it - especially as I'd considered that I'd passed the 12 week magic marker with no problems.

Anyway, it's been a fair shock to the system. We went in there expecting one outcome and have walked out with another outcome completely. I do have to say it was a bit of a strange pregnancy (no sore boobs or tiredness for weeks now) but I've continued having morning sickness and my stomach has been growing steadily out. No pain, no bleeding, nothing to indicate that things weren't progressing normally so I'd still assumed all was fine.

I feel like I should have had bleeding or something to indicate that things weren't right and I would have thought that I would have miscarried before 12 weeks??? Does anyone know what the usual timeframe is for the body to naturally miscarry in this situation???

I guess it's just normal emotions in this situation but I can't believe how guilty I feel (maybe I did something wrong etc). I feel pretty ripped off too - three months of taking my pregnancy supplements, beginning preparations for a new baby, months of morning sickness etc and now to be told there is no baby there at all.

Anyway, just needed to vent ... still sorting through it all and trying to pull myself together for a D&C so I can start moving on again.

Thanks,
Belinda

**SilverStarfish** · 13-02-2008 23:03

what a terrible shock for you!

**Jinglebells** · 13-02-2008 23:06

sorry to hear that your scan didn't go so well

its awfull going into a scan expecting to see a little moving baby in there, and then leaving the scan broken hearted

to answer your question, there is no time frame to miscarry, it can take weeks and weeks for your body to do its thing,

when I was preg the second time round, I went for my scan, and found that bubs had died at 7wks, was awfull, cause I had showen no signs of miscarrying or anything I decided to go in for a d&c, was alot easier to me to deal with, rather than wait for it to happen

be good to yourself, it wasn't anything that you did or didn't do to cause this

**Manxie** · 14-02-2008 06:37

Hi

I am so sorry for you loss

A lot of what you wrote really rung bells with me. I had a missed m/c back in August last year. I thought I was eleven weeks (so almost at the magic 12 week mark) and started the tinest bit of spotting. An ultrasound showed that the baby had only made it to 7 weeks 2 days. My tummy had also just popped.

I was paranoid with my first pregnancy that I would m/c but I also hadnt really thought about it with this one.

So as for time frame for you to miscarry as you can see for four weeks my body didnt do anything. so its really hard to know. I also chose to have a d&c as I had a strong urge to get the baby out. Sounds terrible I know

I also wanted to be able to
move forward and be able to try again fairly quickly.

I can just say that all you are feeling is perfectly normal. I could have written your post word for word back in August.

As you know deep down it really wasnt your fault

Take good care of yourself

**kas3** · 14-02-2008 07:46

I'm so sorry

I had a "missed" miscarriage last October - no bleeding, no cramping etc.

I found out the baby didn't have a heartbeat at the first u/s on the Monday - big shock, I didn't know it could happen like that - and had a d&c on the Friday.

It was hard, but for me it was the best decision. I was told it could take weeks, even months, before I started bleeding and I couldn't face that.

There are plenty of people who let it happen naturally though. It really is an individual decision. Do what feels best for you.

And most importantly, take care of yourself.

regards
kas

**Duchessa** · 14-02-2008 08:26

Hi Belinda,

I'm so sorry for you loss. It is a horrible thing to find out.

I had a blighted ovum, discovered at 12 weeks back in April this year. It was my third miscarriage in a row. I had a d and c immediately partly cos I had been trying to conceive for eighteen months at that stage and didn't want to wait any longer than necessary and partly because we live very remotely and I didn't want to have to drive back.

It worked for me to have the closure and not to have to wait for the moment when I miscarried, though I suspect that I wasn't far off miscarrying when I had the scan - I had begun to spot and have the odd bout of cramping.

It is an awful thing to think that you have made it to the safe part only to have it whisked away. Be kind to yourself.

If it gives you any hope, I conceived again 6 weeks after the d&c - I have carried the pregnancy to term (well, I'm 38+ weeks now).

xx

**busymummyof4** · 14-02-2008 08:41

Belinda

Its really a completely awful time to be going thru and I can only offer you the knowledge that others have been there and you will get thru it. I didnt think so at the time, but time is a healer.

I had a blighted ovum back in 03 and found out at about 8 weeks. I really thought it was going to be a viable pregnancy at the time. I had plenty of morning sickness, constant complete tiredness too so really thought it was a stayer. I really didnt get my head around how, why or what a blighted ovum is really. I like Duchessa, just wanted closure, so I had a D & C pretty much straight away. I was in the UK at the time, no family, DH who worked away and had to come home. It wasnt nice but it seems like a faded distant memory now.
I conceived 3 months later just for the record.

All the best. I hope you feel better soon

Danielle

**elwoodgal** · 14-02-2008 09:50

Same as others. My last MC was at 10 weeks & I had to have a D & C that day. I could not deal emotionally with dragging things out.
I knew something was wrong for 2-3 days before & rang my male gyno (do not see him now) who thought I was over reacting but agreed to see me. He gave me a physical & said I was worrying unnecessarily but would do an Ultrsound anyway.
No heartbeat.
It is so sad & people telling you that clearly it wasn't meant to be does not help.
Take care of yourself & let yourself grieve for your loss.

elwoodgal

elwoodgal

**hp-mum** · 14-02-2008 11:28

I am so sorry to hear your loss,

it is horrible to see that empty screen.

I went through exactly the same thing last year. It was my first pregnancy and I had all the right symptoms including m/s, then at my 12 week scan found out I had a blighted Ovum. It was devastating.

I had no spotting or pain. I chose to have a d&c because I didn't want to go through the waiting game and just wanted closure. I had the d&c 4 days after my scan and I remember laying in the hospital bed before I went in feeling major period pain coming on, so maybe it was starting to happen then? I guess they did the procedure in the nick of time.

It took me 8 months to fall PG again, now I'm 16 weeks.

Goodluck hun, I wish you all the best and I know the pain you feel. I hope the next few months treat you kindly.

**Crazy Bananas** · 14-02-2008 12:27

sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to go for scan and to see that the baby is no longer. I went for my first scan baby was fine had a heartbeat then had my second scan to discover no heartbeat. Bubs died around 6 or 7 weeks i had no bleeding nothing no indication. So i found out bubs had stayed in there for a good 3+ weeks (after passing over) ended up having a dnc cause bubs wasn't coming out by itself. I had my dnc in dec and now am preggas again.