i have just been reading about your MILs (heheh...very interesting!).
but i wanted to ask a very specific question though about what your kids call their grandmothers (or step-grandmothers).
my MIL says she refuses to let Alice (her first, and not yet talking, grandchild) or any of her future grandchildren call her Grandma, Nanna, Gran, Nan or anything at all, other than her first name.
I just feel so sad that my kids will call her by her first name, as I feel it doesn't signify the importance of the relationship btw them. she LOVES alice to death and babysits 2 days per week (she babysits other people's kids on the other days and on weekends, which makes it even more sad for me, as alice will be calling her what all these other kids do).
She says it makes her feel "old" (she is 61 after all - old enough to be a grandmother by most people's standards). What other names do you suggest I suggest that might make her feel less 'old'?? Has anyone else had a similar problem with in-laws???
(P.S. what makes me even more p^$$ed is that my dad's wife who has only been on the scene a couple of years, wants to be called 'nonnie' or something like that. i don't really want my kids calling her a special name and calling their real grandmother by her first name )