OMG I Control Cried her for first time

**Lipsmacker01** · 22-01-2008 19:54

DH and I cc our almost 9 month old girl tonight for the first time. She normally goes to sleep at 9pm every night but tonight she had her solids veg feed at 5.30 followed by a bath at 6. I breast fed her at a quarter to 7 and we let her cry from 7-8

The most shed ever cried is 40 mins...and this was on a car trip once.

This CC was the hardest thing Ive ever had to do.
I went to a sleep session thing with my council today and they suggested it as I was at my wits end. My girl was going to bed WAYYY too late...and subsequently waking through the night for top ups.

Shes still sleeping now thank god, this was after a booby feed. I gave her plenty of reassurance...I spoke to her softly...and patted her bum. Poor thing was so sweaty too.

Please..does anyone out there know when it will get easier...i want to try it again for the rest of the week...or as long as I can. Is it by day 3 where it gets easier. I seriously hope Im doing the right thing as I know she misses out on lots of sleep at night.

For those of you who are 'for this method'....please tell me if Im doing the wrong thing. I need some reassurance that the next few days will be better.

**poshBecks** · 22-01-2008 19:59

CC worked wonders for my kids.

Here's what I did.... start with only letting them cry for 2 mins. Then go in resettle, then leave them for 3 mins and resettle. Keep going up until you get to 10 mins. Never let them cry for longer than 10 mins. Always go back in and re settle after 10 mins. Once you have reached the 10 min mark. Keep going in after every 10 mins until they fall asleep.

During the timing, I would set a timer & turn the tele up real loud to block out the crying (this helped me not to fret so much).

It seriously only takes a few days for them to get it.

Sending many cuddles. It is hard

(but worth it imo

)

**studyingECS** · 22-01-2008 20:02

It took my mother 3 days of controlled crying to get me into a successfull sleep routine.....I was about a year old my mother said. So there is hope. although you go with your gut and do whats right for you.

**monkeytoes** · 22-01-2008 21:15

It will get better!!

The key to successful CC is that you need to be consistant. Don't cave in!
We did it with DD at 6months. It took about a week, but we could see an improvement within 2 or 3 days.

Good luck

**forbetoel** · 22-01-2008 21:19

Yes it gets easier. My kids responded to CC straight away, after only 2 nights, so you might already be half way through it.

Goodluck, and keep going, it does work.

**honeydew** · 22-01-2008 21:27

Well done, the hardest part is over! The first time we did it with our son I stood in the kitchen and cried while he screamed in his room. We did it because he was waking half hourly through the night for his dummy at 9 months old and I could not go on anymore. So I threw the dummies in the bin and that night we did the CC technique.

The very next night he slept through!

Good luck, I hope it will get easier for you

Remember that every time you give in you are starting from scratch again- someone told me that and that was incentive enough for me to stay strong.

**Mrs Little** · 22-01-2008 21:38

Hang in there...it does get easier. Each baby is different but most show an improvement by 3 days at the least.

As poshbeck explained, you can go in and help settle her every 2 or 3 mins. I found it too hard to just let them go altogether...i could never do that to either of my boys. So i would go in after a few mins and just reassure them, wait for the big sigh and then leave again. I did have to go in a few times...

Both my boys responded with a day or so.

It will be worth it...you'll be so proud of her and yourself for sticking with it. You will both receive the rewards for your hard work.

The joys of parenting!!

Mrs Little & Sons.

**iamLilysmummy** · 22-01-2008 23:23

WELL DONE!!

keep at it and she'll get the hint,
i no its hard,, i hated doing it,, id feel so bad,
but lily is now 6 months and has slept thru the night for ages!!

now when its bed time i give her ,, her dummy and her dolly!! and shes ok,,
BUT,, atm shes teething,, so she gets sooky.

**Lipsmacker01** · 23-01-2008 07:27

Thank u so much everyone! Sarah only woke up twice! and fed so incredibly well...ive never seen her booby feed so strongly. Thats what she really wanted not the 10 time a night soft feeds where she would feed for comfort. I felt guilty but I was rewarded this morning! DH and I have our life back too