I saw this on DR PHIL today...and was wondering what your thoughts were.
In the episode, a woman said that she has no qualms telling a parent they're doing a bad job, or telling a kid what to do if the kid is annoying her. She even tells off strangers. Mind you, this woman had NO KIDS of her own (so what the hell could she know about controlling your kid in public?).
If someone were to tell Chanel what to do, I would probably have a fit. I don't need some weird person telling my daughter what to do. If they want a kid to boss around, they should have some of their own and not harrass other kids.
Parents all have different value systems and parenting techniques, and how can you tell a child what to do when you don't know how their parents have chosen to raise them? Perhaps the reason a kid is yelling and screaming is because they want their own way - but their parent is trying to give them "no reaction" so they will learn that bad behaviour will get them nowhere. Someone else interfering would just ruin the whole purpose.
I don't think it's right for other people to tell a parent what to do (eg - "You shouldn't let them use a dummy..." or "You should learn to control your child or not go out in public!")...but I do think it's okay to ask a parent to do something if the situation is right. IMO, a stranger should do this in a situation like at the movies, asking a parent if they could please ask their child to stop talking because it's making it hard for them to hear the movie. That makes sense to me. I also think it's okay to ask a parent to get their child to stop please stop touching store merchandise in case of breakages. It just makes sense - so long as it's done in a polite manner of course.
As for family and friends...if they're taking care of Chanel, or have seen her do something I haven't (like playing with electrical cords for example), I expect them to tell her not to and move her away for the hazard. I don't want them to yell at her, or hit her or anything (even when she's older). And, when she's older, I expect them to discipline her bad behaviour when staying with them. For example, saying "If you do...whatever...then you won't be able to...whatever" and then following through.