What are first time preg mums afraid of?

[Lipsmacker01]

Just wondering what first time mums are afraid of here? I have an 8 month old girl and I remember getting asked this question during child education classes at hospital.

One of my answers were just not knowing what to expect...eg with the labour...contractions...the pain, complications etc.

When I look back now though...all that was over and done with so quickly!

I kind of wish I knew more about what was going to happen afterwards as a first time mum then what was going to happen at the hospital because I was so well looked after.

Dont want to put first time mums off or anything...but there are so many things that have changed for us!

Eg: I had no idea I would be sleep deprived for so long! DD1 who is 8 months has only slept through like 3 times in her first few months!

Now that Im breastfeeding, she refuses to drink out of a bottle (only done it once or twice) so now I cant leave my girl to be babysat with anyone!

Our love life has consequently suffered but I still get all the love and support from DH.

I put on 23kg during my pregnancy but lost it all (thank god)...just naturally breastfeeding...eating healthy.

Oh and the stress levels....Ive always thought of myself as being so patient...so I have had good nights and terrible nights...I take each day as it comes.

These are all some of the sacrifices and things that have happened in my life, all worth it but never in my life did I expect it to change my life so much!

[BelindaBB]

Hi, I can relate to your post sooo much. I had my DD almost 2 years ago and what a total life change it has been.

I too had the breast feeding issue and she was solely bf until 6 months when I persevered with the bottle (I actually got her onto a sippy cup to take her milk) and after weeks and weeks of refusing to offer breast at first she eventually took more and more bottle and once I had her taking the bottle I felt so much more free and back to normal. I gradually weaned her off that way.

I can also relate to the sleeping issue and the lack of sleep. You are very lucky to have a supporting partner.

I also agree about the birth, looking back that was the easy part.

to you because I know how you are feeling but I also know that it will get better.

My DD is a delight now and so much so that I am now 26 weeks pg with No# 2. I know what I did wrong last time and I know what I need to do differently this time. Unfortunately we have to learn the hard way.

Best of luck and again

Belinda

[Lipsmacker01]

Hi, I can relate to your post sooo much. I had my DD almost 2 years ago and what a total life change it has been.

I too had the breast feeding issue and she was solely bf until 6 months when I persevered with the bottle (I actually got her onto a sippy cup to take her milk) and after weeks and weeks of refusing to offer breast at first she eventually took more and more bottle and once I had her taking the bottle I felt so much more free and back to normal. I gradually weaned her off that way.

I can also relate to the sleeping issue and the lack of sleep. You are very lucky to have a supporting partner.

I also agree about the birth, looking back that was the easy part.

to you because I know how you are feeling but I also know that it will get better.

My DD is a delight now and so much so that I am now 26 weeks pg with No# 2. I know what I did wrong last time and I know what I need to do differently this time. Unfortunately we have to learn the hard way.

Best of luck and again

Belinda

Thanks Belinda

I thought it would be a good idea to have this thread for first time mums! and glad that you can relate!

[Kayangel]

As a first time mum to be i think i only have one fear that something terrible will happen to be my baby i hang out for kicks everyday just to no his fine.

My pregnancy is going fine no health issues no morning sickness nothing my only problem is myself im a worry wart.

I dont have any fears about labour yes i no it will hurt and it will be so painful the most panful thing eva but i am going in with a open mind and feel that i can do it i also havent set my goals to high i dont want to the epi but if i need it im going to have it.

My only fear about when bubs is here is that my ex will take him or get more of his fair share of seeing him.

The sleepless nights, poo nappies, crying, teething etc. doesnt bother me I have discovered my purpose in life.....

ITS TO BE A MUMMY and im sure i will love everything about motherhood.

[Hokey Pokey]

I actually wasn't afraid of anything, I am more afraid now, knowing just what I am in for.

[peanutbutter&jelly]

More my DF's lack of emotion than anything else. Lack of support... sounds like a terrible relationship putting it that way... long story short, my DF has Asperger's Syndrome, something this bub is now at a much greater risk of having (genetically speaking). I don't really know how well he's going to deal...
Also, somewhat scared of going into pre-term :S Probably accelerated by the fact I'm having Braxton-Hick's enough to wake me through the night, and I'm 26 weeks tomorrow

[SmileyBJ]

Im afraid of many things...

Afraid of having a casarean... afraid ...no actually terrified of DP's family!! Afraid that If I have a daughter I'll pass on my mental struggles...afraid of postnatel depression...

But I know whatever happens I will be okey... Im a strong women and no matter what this pregnancy throws at me I'll be okey...

[prideNJoy]

Well i have two bubs now, and i still remember what i feared first time round.

First off, putting on heaps of weight and getting stretchmarks, did/got them both. 22 kgs, lovely! Luckily stretchies have faded.

Anxious about the birth, more so of complications and then having to have a c-sec. And then probably tearing! omg did i stress over that.
And the fear of not wanting to have any drugs but thinking i would give in to the pain.

That was about as far as i stressed when pregnant, i didn't really think about the after part.

[tooshypanda]

I am not even preg yet and I am scared..

Scared of the following;
1. Labour complications
2. Tearing
3. Pain
4. Sleep loss
5. My own parental instincts..
6. Vomiting/Nausea
7. Money
8. Depression and meds
9. What to eat when preg - so confused!!

Well everything actually.. but I am a perfectionist and have control issues.. working on them slowly.. vomiting is my big thing - I have a phobia called emetephobia that prevents me from throwing up.. not too sure how I will go with MS.

[Helenau]

Great topic, i will be interested to see the different replies
Im TTC my first....and already I have days where I am a bundle of nerves. Not because Im not pg yet or the actual birth part. What worries me the most is the basic will I know how to be a good Mum, will I know what to do. My sister and I have struggled with anxiety most of our lives and it scares me that it might cause me extra problems or that I might pass on worries to my child........yeesh sometimes I feel like such a nutter!!