DP Vent a little lond winded.

[Blakes Mummy]

I don’t know where to start or even if the words will come out the way I am thinking them in my head.
Its been about 4 weeks now and DP has had his best mate come up to visit granted he isn’t here all the time but he comes and go’s when he pleases kinda using the house as an inn. I wouldn’t mind so much but he is just really starting to get on my nerves.
He is rude and inconsiderate something I never noticed about him before because we have gotten along pretty well I guess its living with someone.
His room looks like a tornado hit it, something that I could live with because you could just shut the door but it’s not just his room. He leaves wet towels on the bed, they go to the beach and the floor is covered in Sand so I clean it up, he does his washing and leaves it wet on the floor, he leaves his **** all over the place, Slams doors, has music on when Blake’s Sleeping. Or even today got home and turned his music up to “drown” out what I had on. Am I over reacting or isn’t it common practice to clean up after yourself at someone else’s house. We cook dinner he complains about what we are eating and then he hasn’t once offered to help cook or even clean up.
My major problem is that he has my DP wrapped around his little finger he says jump and DP says how high. Its even causing us to fight more than ever too the point where I have just had enough. DP wont speak up to him so I have to and then I’m seen as “the *****” I just want him to stand up for me if that makes sense.
Like today he suggested that we go to the pub and I said no we have Blake to which he replied “Oh I Forgot you have a baby you cant have a life” He just infuriates me its not that we don’t have a life its just that Blake is our main concern and we do ‘family” things not what a teenage single male does not that there is anything wrong with that but don’t put down the way I live.
He persisted so much that as we speak DP and him are down at the pub. That doesn’t bother me so much but I feel like DP and I are starting to become a lost cause. I guess I’m jealous in a way I say do you want to go out (we had the chance to have a night without Blake) and he’s like nah I can’t be bothered its like he doesn’t want to spend time with me ever and that’s what hurts. He will chat with his mate for hours or do things with him and me not even a chance it’s always later or another day and if we do do anything I organize it and make him come. I feel like why do I bother?
Am I Totally over reacting about this or can anyone see where I am coming from??

[metalhead713]

Definetly not overreacting, I have been in the EXACT same situation its soo anoying isnt it?
But in the end its your house so just tell your dp's friend where to go- I did lol and now my dp can see that he really was being a leech. Too bad if he doesnt like it, as I like to say, tough titties!!

[WorkingClassMum]

to you

We didn't have the "MATE", we had my bro#3 stay.

After 4 weeks, I presented him with a very long "bill" itemising everything I was doing for him, with the warning that an "eviction" notice would follow within 24 hours unless things smartened up.

Granted - bro#3 apologised and kickd in some money and smartened up his act a fair bit.

Try the "I am not you mother or your housemaid" line with the mate, or give him a bill/list.

I'd wait until the mate has left before tackling the DP problem though - divide and conquor

[bubs_and_us]

After 4 weeks, I presented him with a very long "bill" itemising everything I was doing for him, with the warning that an "eviction" notice would follow within 24 hours unless things smartened up.

love it! i should've thought of that when we had a 'houseguest'

in the end, i told him i wasnt his ***** mother, and he had a week to get out of my ***** house (which made his eviction date christmas day ) - but in my defence, this arrangement (him living with us) was meant to be for 4 weeks. 5 months later............

sometimes you have to be the hard b!tch to get what you want