I'm not sure what to do about this family problem. Its abit long, sorry i will try to shorten it.
My dad recently told my sister, my brother & i that he is a transexual & he is going to have a sex change.
Apparently this has been going on for 7 years & he has bee seeing pysciatrists (sp?) for 7 years & other specialists etc. He has been on hormones for the past 2 years & has already... wait for it... has A cup breasts. He has been making a few changes to his appearance over the years which we have noticed but thought maybe he might have been gay or going thru a mid life crisis. He is 52. His wife.. which isnt my mum is supporting him threw this & i dont really understand how she can. She's still in shock too i think even though she has known about it for the last 7 years. He is about to go threw his transition, where he will dress like a woman. He has to live like a woman for 2 years before he has the finally big change. He's is changing his name soon & doesnt want us to call him dad from now on. This really hurts & upsets me & not sure how i should feel about this whole situation. Also what are DH & I supposed to tell our kids? We have no idea what to do & neither do my mum, sister or brother. Dh is scared that if we tell the girls that if they say anything (mainly DD1) at kinder or school then they might get teased or bullied etc. Or other parents might feel uncomfortable for their children to play with our girls etc. I dont want it to harm/ruin my daughters first year of school. People say that they girls wont understand or notice but i know DD1 will. She saw Elmo kiss a boy on TV the other day & said ewww... thats gross. Boys dont kiss Boys So i'm pretty sure that she is going to notice this big change with her grandfather. Also my dad doesnt want the kids to call him Pop anymore either. What the hell are they supposed to call him? His new female name. I dont want that. I dont think i can even call him what he wants to be called. I am under alot of stress because of this. I want my children to have a grandfather & they wont now. DH's dad isnt around anymore so they dont have him either. Its so unfair for them. We really dont know if we should cut off contact or let them see him? Should we ask a child pyscologist to ask them whats the best way to deal with this? I'm not sure if i even want to continue seing him... i dont think i can see him like that. What to do? Any advice would be great... or if anyone has ever had to deal with this sort of thing.