The Hide Of This Woman!!!!!

**spoon** · 14-11-2007 08:30

I am so peeved with my step daughters mother right now.

I am angry because she has just sent us an email asking for money for our step daughters swimming sessons. $75 is a lot of money in unexpected expences and she has known about it all year. She has been going out on the town staying in expensive hotels and boozing on. She recieves quiet a bit of child support from us the next installment will go into her account on Friday. We have paid for all of SD's extra curricular activities, Her mother has paid nothing.

Where does she get off.

I am SO ANNOYED.

**tanni_83** · 14-11-2007 08:33

Tell her to take it out of her next installment. Just because its her father doesnt mean he has to dish out for everything, she needs to take some responsibility too.

If its not in the agreement, dont pay it

**musicalmummy** · 14-11-2007 09:40

Originally Posted by tanni_83

Tell her to take it out of her next installment. Just because its her father doesnt mean he has to dish out for everything, she needs to take some responsibility too.

If its not in the agreement, dont pay it

thats right
and if you pay for this, waht will she make you pay for next.

**spoon** · 14-11-2007 12:49

Oh boy do i know it. She is just absolutley taking us for granted. Hubby is a good man, has always done what is best for his daughter but this woman is just manipulative and likes to threaten with no contact if we dont do as she says but it has to stop now.

Poor darling hubby

**nemosmum** · 14-11-2007 12:57

That sux!

dont you have anything in writing/legal about custody? if not I would get something asap

She cant threaten your DH about not seeing his dd that immoral and illegal!

on the swimming lessons I have an arrangement with my x that he pays for one term and I pay for the other

**Lollie86** · 14-11-2007 13:02

Originally Posted by nemosmum

on the swimming lessons I have an arrangement with my x that he pays for one term and I pay for the other

That sounds like a good idea....however if you guys have already paid for all of her other activities i dont see how its fair for you to pay for this as well!

She cant not let him see his daughter.

**spoon** · 14-11-2007 13:03

We have orders but we let her have Step daughter last christmas because she was upset about not having her so we cut her a deal that we would have her this year instead. All this is ramping up for her to say "nup, you cant have her now" and their wont be much we can do about it.

We have paid for the last 3 years in lessons with a private teacher. one on one attention. We also paid for basketball this year. I am enrolling her for art classes on the weekends that we have her.

It is her responsibility.

**tanni_83** · 14-11-2007 13:08

In your 'orders' what does it say about christmas...she cant just say no because she wants to, well not legally anyway. Sounds like new orders need to be put into place to stop her from trying to manipulate you into doing things.

It must be so frustraiting for everyone who goes through these types of situations.

**subaruforestermum** · 14-11-2007 13:09

Originally Posted by tanni_83

Tell her to take it out of her next installment. Just because its her father doesnt mean he has to dish out for everything, she needs to take some responsibility too.

If its not in the agreement, dont pay it

I agree with this..saves me typing it!

And if he does want to pay it, I would find out where the lessons are and pay it into their account, instead of paying it to her directly. At least then you know that the money is going to the lessons!

**missie_mack** · 14-11-2007 13:17

Hmm seems like it could be leading up to a mexican stand off

To avoid having to fight over Christmas I would be going down every week and personally paying for that lesson UNTIL christmas arrives (its probably only 5 lessons) and then stop. In them meantime it does mean that you will see the child weekly and the kid will be pleased you come to see her/him which inevitably will peeve the mother off too.

I know its the principle of not paying and all but things will be miserable if you have to fight over who gets the child over Christmas and its a start for her lessons and after Christmas has come and gone draw up a agreement on what you will and wont be paying for and stick to it.
Continually forking out the dollars hand over fist isnt fair either.