A couple of mums came to my house for a playdate! I suggested we go to the park for some lunch.
Anyway 1 of the mums LOVES to tell me what I should do with my son or children full stop!! It drives me nuts!!
So my day went a bit like this DS threw the backyard toys over the patio so I went out and threw one of his toys over (he was throwing his sisters) and I came in. DS was very upset and was crying at my feet, I ignored him as I understood that he was upset I had thrown his toy over.
Friend says "Take him to his room and put him on his bed"
Me "No, it's fine"
FRIEND "You should do that to him and tell him to knock it off"
I believe 1 crime 1 punishment he is 2 and expressing he is upset.
A few more comments made while her son is ripping toys from the other children.
So we go to the park
DS is terrified of flies so I get the "You know what you should do" speech.
DS is tired and I mention that I am not giving him a nap today so he will go to bed early. Friend "you know what you need to do with him" speech.
DD didn't say thank you while asking for the chips and friend gets all over her "what do you say " I know it was bad as my friends hubby had joined us and he said he was going
I had it all day "you know what you should do" while her son was interrupting while us mums were talking. "SHILO SHILO SHILO SHILO Until I actually answered him". He was burping while we were eating lunch but nothing was said. He hit my son NOTHING was said. I told my DS off for screaming and she says "he is squeeling" I felt like saying "yes because your frigen son just took the toy of him" and contradicts everything I am doing or saying!! I can't stand it.
I got the cosleeping talk "oh you have to stop that" "you need to smack your boy then he will listen" I even got advice on how to Breastfeed my 3rd bubba when she only fed hers for 6 weeks and I had BF my other 2 for 14 and 17mnths!! WTF??!!
I know it wasn't in my imagintion as when we were leaving I got a text from the another mum (my bestie) and it said
"shilo, do u no what you need 2 do with him shilo, do u no what you need 2 do with him shilo, do u no what you need 2 do with him lol" I hadn't had a chance to tell her I was annoyed. So I know it was her!!
I know I have a magnet for these people because I am too bloomin polite!! I find it difficult to say "shut the truck up" LOL!!
I always be firm and say no to whatever her suggestion is but she doesn't get it!!
What could I do??
I told dh that I don't want to invite her over anymore but then feel guilty!!!