Nigle No Friends

[fee's]

Just wanted to have a vent and a bit of a pitty party for myself.
I am comming up to nine months home from work with my DS. I love him to death and he is my number one best friend only problem is he is fast becomming my only friend.
My other friends with children have older kids so it is rare for them to be available to me with all their running around with school, kindy etc and my closer friends are at work all day.
I am having a bad week. Went to my local shopping complex earlier this week and usually this perks me up, don't need to spend much just window shop and have some lunch or a coffee with bub and we feel human again but this week I just felt lonley.
Watched all the other mums meeting up for lunch or coffee and even in packs in the parents room made me feel really lonley this time.
Any way have arranged to meet a friend this morning while her kids are at school but feel a bit like I am barging in on her time. Oh well I am sure she will get a laugh when I tell her and give me some persepective.
Thanks for the opportunity to get this out so I don't bore her to death.

[Foxy]

Hi Fee

I agree it is hard making some major social adjustments, particularly when your friends are not at the same "stage" as you.

A couple of things I do have opened up a whole new social world for DS & I - we joined a mother's group and we go to swimming lessons. I have made some lovely genuine friends from both of these activities and I am quite a shy person.

I hope you can find some groups / activities in your area that you would both enjoy, I'm sure there are a lot of other mums around you that are feeling the same way!

Good Luck

[fee's]

Thanks so much - you're right I need to take the plunge and widen our horizons, soon Luca will need the socalisation too.

[my babyemmy]

hi sweetheart i feel exactly the same as you do, so feel free to vent as much as you want!

[lukaelmo]

Hey Fee, my little dude is Luka too! Obviously with a k though. What lovely taste in names you and your DP have.

I posted a similar thread to yours a while ago now, feeling like nobody wanted a bar of me was pretty hard after having quite the social life.

I go to a mums group now, we meet up once a month, and I go to mummy and me yoga once a week too which helps me get out and about. I have also gone to some of the bubhub get togethers which are tons of fun, it is very entertaining meeting your online friends...

I think the idea is to get out there with some people who have kids a similar age to yours, it just means you have a lot of stuff in common from the get go.

And every time you feel like a nigel try to ring someone, or come here like you did and you will find you are not so much of a nige after all.

[Callumsmum]

Hi Fee,
I've just come out the other side of a patch like you're having. Callum is just over 6 months and the mum's group just didn't seem to be goin in the direction I thought it would, gymbaroo was a dismal failure and mum and baby yoga just didn't happen. I think the main thing was that I was really tired and hadn't realised, but I've also rung around and found a play group, have invited one of the girls from mum's group over for a 'play date' and have organised a catch up with some local bubhubbers.

My advice is to think of something that you can do to meet some new people and get out and about.

Hope things work for you. Feel free to PM as I'm online most of the time!

Best wishes,
Katrina