Ok so I have known for a while now that my Mother has a smoking problem, I'm not sure if it was the 40 or so a day that she smokes, the overflowing ashtrays or the 3 cigarettes she has back to back before even getting out of bed in the morning that gave it away.
It has also become clearer over the past 6 - 12 months that she also has a drinking problem. She will easily go through a 2L cask of wine between 6pm and 9pm every night and often more on the weekends. It isn't so much the drinking itself more of the person she becomes when she drinks and the bitterness and nastiness that emerges.
Her and my Dad divorced a few years ago and he is happily remarried and moved on with his life. My sister and I are both happy for him and see him whenever we can. My sister has recently decided she wants to live with my Dad at least 50 / 50 because she hates the person that my Mum is.
We have spoken to her time and time again about how much we hate her smoking and drinking but she says that she doesn't care about what we think and if we don't like it then go and with with our Father.
I can honestly say that watching the way my Mother treats people around her (including my sister) I am close to the point of hating her and completely cutting her out of my life.
I should also mention that none of her family speak to her anymore because of the person she is and how crazy she has become!!
How do I get her the help she needs?