My problem deals with my MIL and dealing with her for about 3 years. She was great until my husband and I got engaged and then everything changed. I wrote her an email stating my feelings in regards to the attitude I was receiving from them. How my relationship with her shouldn't be based on if I get along with her older son as well. That's when everything about the wedding was annoying her. She was irritated that we were having the wedding in the town I live in instead of where she lives, that it was at a Catholic church and not her church, that the wedding was taking place on a Friday and not a Saturday, and the list goes on. Her older son wanted to be our bestman but he didn't like me and wanted to object at our wedding. Then they tried to stop the wedding by talking to the priest in person. She didn't even help pay for anything and I didn't ask her to after I was told she refused to help out at all. My parents paid for everything which I'm fine with except now she is stating all I asked for was money during our wedding. For our first anniversary, she didn't call except on her anniversary to ask if we forgot what day it was. Then on our second anniversary, she delivered a new trust which stated she has wrote her son, her grandchild(ren), and myself out of her will. Completely fine with me, just wish she hadn't delivered it through her husband on our anniversary. Her older son decided on that day to also talk to my husband without me regarding our marriage.
We've had a daughter and things haven't improved at all. I was hoping she would want to be involved in her grandchild's life, but that looks like it's a no go. When my daughter was 1 month old, I took her down to see them for her older sons graduation. I found out that someone had the flu while in the house and they were mad at me because I wouldn't go to the ceremony for 2.5 hrs in the sun with my child. They said we could just play pass the baby to keep my child quiet. Then she would come up every couple of weeks to do some activity in our town and not once ask if we wanted to come along or if she could see the grandchild afterwards, but demand that we come down to her house which is an hour and 20 min drive.
Then my lovely MIL at my daughters baptism went off on my parents who weren't even involved with all of the problems and stated that she hated my religion, that she thought my whole family was rude, and so forth. Then for my daughter's first birthday, she refused to drive up to see her and instead insisted that we throw a birthday for her at their house. Her excuse for not coming was that she doesn't feel welcome.
My husband seems to think that these problems are between just his mother and me and refuses to stand up for myself or our daughter at times. I'm so frustrated with the whole situation and irritated at my husband for not helping support his family. My family has finally yelled at him because we've had to live with them due to finances.
Any input would be helpful and really appreciate it. Sorry this is such a long thread.