am i over reacting and over emotional just cos i'm pregnant?

**musicalmummy** · 05-10-2007 08:56

i asked dp to come to my first ultrasound which is on tuesday.i'm only about 10weeks at this stage. he says he doesn't think he can take any time off work as he jsut took a week and a half off. all i am asking for is 1-2 hours(which coincides with his lunch break)anyway, i understood that it may be difficult.
then...a mate rang to remind him of the big soccer trip thats coming up(it's in sydney, 5 hours away). he's like yep, course i'm going. when he got off the phone i said , well you can't take 2 hours off work to be with me but you can take 2 days off work to go on soccer trip(its 4 days)
it costs $250, and he doesn't know where he'l get the money from, i think he thought it would be ok to take it out of th ebill money. sorry but how is it fair that he spends $250 of our bill money to drink, probably go to a strip club, and be a complete idiot (as apparently what happened last year)
i said wel you wil have to think of a way to pay for it or not go. he said but i really want to go. thing is i have wanted to go back to the blue mountains ever since dd 8mths now was born as my closest friends still have not met her and even the family i lived with down there have not met her.
i know he will go because when it comes to soccer, soccer always seems to come first. he has already spent at least $300 associated with soccer things this year.
am i totally unreasonable. i know i do get very emotional when i'm pregnant.

**MoOaNdLiTtLePoPpEt** · 05-10-2007 10:08

I don't think you are being unreasonable.

Number 1 - this is a special time for you and your family...

Number 2 - you have obviously made sacrifices (i.e not going back to the blue mountains)...Maybe DH needs to do the same....

**TeamAwesome** · 05-10-2007 10:17

I don't think you're unreasonable, especially in light of him then turning around to want to take 2 days off for something else. Unfortunately though not all men like to get involved with pregnancy things as it's not happening to them and it seems like he'll do what he wants when he wants. Does he have an xbox or playstation3 or something like that, that he could sell if he really wants to go so he's not dipping into your bill money?

**catalicious** · 05-10-2007 10:19

I agree sacrifices need to be made by everyone not just you!!

I think he is being a little selfish I prob would of said yeah your overreacting if it was just him missing the ultrasound but since he said he wouldnt be ableto get time off and then said he could get a few days off definatly he is in the wrong...

**Noah_and_Elijah** · 05-10-2007 10:33

My DF didn't come to my 12 week ultrasound of our first baby because he was at uni and quite frankly it was his loss. I gave him a photo but it still wasn't the same.

As far as the soccer trip goes, if it were me I would tell him he can go but it's the last trip he'll be going on because once he gets home it's all about you and the baby whether he likes it or not.

**kittykatz** · 05-10-2007 11:22

I think it is universal 'be a jerk to your partner day' today.

I told DH about some weird PG symptoms i thought i might be experiencing (we're TTC) and he made some nasty comment like "your just going to pretend you are so you don't have to do anything". nasty.

**musicalmummy** · 05-10-2007 13:37

Originally Posted by kittykatz

I think it is universal 'be a jerk to your partner day' today.

I told DH about some weird PG symptoms i thought i might be experiencing (we're TTC) and he made some nasty comment like "your just going to pretend you are so you don't have to do anything". nasty.

omg they can be horrible creatures!!
good luck

**musicalmummy** · 05-10-2007 13:43

thanks girls fo rmaking me seem a bit more normal. this will be his last trip only because he is giving up soccer (so he says)as he feels too old and sore...hahaha....
wel i am thinking that the compromise will be that he doesn't catch th ebus with the boys...we drive together. i take car and baby to blue moutains, he goes to sydney. that way we both benefit. they finish up in newcastle so there's no worries if i drive up there, and meet him at his parents house.
soccer...when my belly gets bigger i think i will paint it black an dwhite like a soccer ball!!