My brother and SIL and I have been part of a baby clothes chain, they sent us clothes for DD and then after we were finished with them we sent them back for their DD.
Anyway they sent us a couple of boxes of clothes for my baby due in Nov. And when my mum and I went through one of them we found a) the clothes absolutely reek (did they wash them at all??) and b) there are stacks of clothes missing that we lent them (some of these were bought by us or gifts that DD received).
The thing is: they have been getting clothes from my other sister, who bought beautiful clothes for her twins (boy and girl). And one day this sister gave us some clothes directly to us (for the first time) and immediately we noticed how fabulous they were, and how many there were (she's quite wealthy and likes her kids to look gorgeous - and they do ). I commented that there was a lot of Gap stuff there and she said that she has always bought lots of Gap things as she found the quality and cut was wonderful. We NEVER got a single Gap item from our brother and SIL. It was then we realised that brother and SIL have definitely been withholding my sister's pass on clothes and only passing on extremely worn, stinky clothing. Much of which I have to throw out (it is just too worn to be given to charity). This last box they sent us we only kept 4 items of clothing as the rest were too gross or pilchers (we use disposable).
They failed to send us size 0 and 1 clothing, so we had to buy that all ourselves and now they are asking for us to deliver those sizes for their DD2 and we have said "no way". I'm not going to give them brand new stuff that we have bought for DD when we will need it for the newborn.
The question is: should I confront them on this issue, or let it go to keep the peace (as DH has suggested)?
I'm in two minds about it because on one hand, we have to live in the same city, my family is going through a rough patch already (my mum left dad for another man and they are going through a separation - a divorce seems inevitable), my poor dad would hate any further break up in the family and overall, I'm a really easy-going person and find it difficult to confront them. Especially her, as she is a very clever, manipulative b!tch.
But then again, they are the biggest cheapskates I have ever met and have been cheating my family over various things over the years, and I feel that someone should confront them so they know they just can't get away with things. This is the same SIL who advised my DH to put Sophie in her worst clothes whenever it was time for grandma (my mum) to babysit - then mum would buy her new clothes
Or am I totally overreacting?