Ectopic Pregnancy

[babydaze]

Hiya everyone!

I have just discovered this site by accident, whilst searching for some info on conception.

I don't log in all too often, but I do want to share my story with you all and hope (well ok, bad choice of words), that there are other women out there who can offer me some advice/hope/words of wisdom.

I am a stay at home mum to my two cherubs. My son is 5 1/2, my daughter almost 4 years old. In April of last year, after only a few months of trying we conceived our third child, but sadly at two months gestation, I discovered I had an ectopic pregnancy, which resulted in the loss of my left fallopian tube.

I have been trying ever since, but with no success. I have even gone so far as to use fertility herbs, but so far no luck.

My gyno told me that there shouldn't be any problems, as I conceived all three babies within 2 months, and having one less tube doesn't really make a huge difference. I trust his advice, after all he is the head of the IVF clinic!!!! But, I can't help feeling sad, disillusioned and fearful about whether it will ever happen again. I get told by my herbalist that they have had many women come in with one tube, and walk out (so to speak) pregnant with no medical assistance.

Are you one of these women? Can you offer me some hope? I'd dearly love to hear from you!!! Also, I feel quite dry and don't seem to have any fertile mucus, I was checked out and everything seems fine. Can I still fall pregnant?

I am also still producing some quantities of breast milk from my right boob after 2 years of breastfeeding my daughter, which was also two years ago!!!! I am told this shouldn't make too much difference, anyway, I actually conceived B3 (baby 3) in this same 'condition'. What are your thoughts/ personal experiences?

I hope I'm not waffling on too much, but damn it feels good to let it all out!!!!

Love and baby daze to you all,
Mel.

[my babyemmy]

hi sweetheart, ectopics are something that are really hard to get over, i have had 2 of them 3 years apart, so im sorry to let you know that they can happen at least twice,my surgeon told me of a poor women who had 3 as they didnt remove the whole tube with one of the ectopics anyway sweety, im sitting here crying over my 2 little angel babies but i want you to know IVF can work, my litte miracle is almost 8 months now! PM me if you need to chat about anything at all. im right here if you need me!

[MilkOnTap]

Mel - I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. I have also had two ectopic pregnancies and am still TTC. My first baby would have been due on Monday.

The first time round, the ectopic was in my left tube. It was removed, and I was told that I would be able to conceive without a problem.

The second time, it was also in my left tube. I thought it had been removed the first time, but it turns out that there was a small amount still attached to my uterus. The surgeon said that it appeared that the egg passed down my remaining right tube, through my uterus, and implanted itself in the TINY little fragment of my left tube that still remained. That one ruptured and I lost about a litre of blood.

Amazingly though, I fell pregnant the second time round only 3 months after my first ectopic pregancy.

That was at the end of September, and so in November we began TTC again. Unfortunately my husband is rarely home (he is in the navy) and so finding that perfect time of month together has been difficult.

There is another international forum specifically for those who have been affected by ectopic pregnancies. I dont think the moderators will mind me posting it (if you do, please let me know and I will delete it) www.ectopic.org - I found that site really helpful when dealing with the 'ectopic' side of things - but I have found bubhub fantastic, because it is Australian women who are also TTC. There is a forum also dedicated to IVF users - so please make yourself at home there too.

Best wishes for the future Mel - I have heard stories of women having up to 5 ectopic pregnancies then going on to conceive naturally. Miracles do happen!

I hope to see you round the place from time to time.


Cheers,
Ally

[babydaze]

Hi guys,

it was so brave of you both to respond to my first post, with such honesty and compassion. I really appreciate it, and cannot thank you enough.

My heart goes out also to both of you for your baby losses. One thing, and I'm sure you'll agree, is that people seem to 'dismiss' an ectopic pregnancy, saying "it wouldn't have lived anyway", and ..."it could've been worse, it could've been a miscarriage".!!!!!!!!!

I cried my heart and lungs out and had to be put in an isolation ward for hours on end, because I was so beside myself. My baby would've been born on 25 January 2006, and we've now been trying ever since.

It is reassuring to know that we're all in this together, it's nice to know you're not alone.

Ally, my heart is with you, and I know that many guardian angels surround you and with faith and divine timing, IT WILL HAPPEN!!!!!! I made up a list of fertility affirmations that I try to use on a regular basis and find they can be a great source of comfort. One of my favourites, that I would like to share, is this.....

"My greatest pregnancy is coming to me NOW".

Also, if you're into metaphysical 'stuff' the crystal chrysophase is reputed to be useful in healing the fallopian tubes. You might be able to do a search on google, or something, to find out more. Thanks also for the website reference, I will be sure to look it up.

If I'm allowed to recommend anyone on this site, I would like to recommend the Sharkey's Healing Centre, they make up fertility herbs and are considered Australian's best. They have a website, and you can do mail orders, of course, after filling out lengthy detailed questionnaires. So far, they have regulated my menstrual cycle and lightened my flow, which was quite heavy for a while. I feel great and am now much more hopeful about my "fertile future".

My Baby Emmy, thanks again for your wonderfully comforting words. I am so thrilled for you to have two little angels in your house, they are truly miracles. Congratulations!

I hope to log on more regularly, but if I don't always reply, I usually read all posts anyway!!!

In love, light & compassion,
Mel.

[my babyemmy]

Huge hugs & kisses for you & yours are here waiting for you
I found a saying i love it sometimes helps me when i feel sad
"tomorrow will be different, not better just different!"

[my babyemmy]

Hi Ally
id like to chat with you sometime sweetheart!






sorry to interfere with your thread Mel

[MilkOnTap]

Ally, my heart is with you, and I know that many guardian angels surround you and with faith and divine timing, IT WILL HAPPEN!!!!!! I made up a list of fertility affirmations that I try to use on a regular basis and find they can be a great source of comfort. One of my favourites, that I would like to share, is this..... "My greatest pregnancy is coming to me NOW".

Hi Mel - I am so glad you came back to us! Please feel free to use BubHub to vent and share whatever you need to get off your chest. I have found it incredible that even though not many women on this forum have experienced an ectopic pregnancy, there are quite a few who have suffered miscarriages.

I agree with you - that doctors often put miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies into the same basket - in my mind they are quite different. Yes, the loss and grief that the mother feels is exactly the same, dont get me wrong. But I think that there is something more about the ectopic pregnancy that makes it different to a miscarriage... I'm not going to attempt to put it into words, because I dont want to force an opinion that 'ectopics are worse than miscarriages' - that is certainly NOT what I believe... I just think that health care professionals should handle those who suffer ectopics differently to those who have suffered miscarriages... Enough said.

Like you, I also believe in 'speaking things to be.' I however am a Christian, and instead of using crystals etc, I pray. I know that God is listening to my prayers, and that I will be pregnant soon. In his divine time. I am being optimistic that this is my month. My partner and I are speaking it, and we are going to make it happen. We are talking about how we will handle it, how we will tell people, everything! I believe that this is our month and that it WILL happen!

I best be off - I seem to be hijacking your thread here! Take care and best wishes... And please visit us often!


Hugs,
Ally

MyBabyEmmy - I have PM'd you!