catholic school policy

**Rose68** · 11-09-2007 19:22

my child is shattered he had to remove his little earing because its against uniform policy I cannot believe the events that my son was put thru during school hours and had his earing literally pulled out by a school worker his self esteem is low and now hates going to the school what rights does my child have does the church not see him as the good student who obeys and never talks back is it against his religion if he wears an earing very upset about this do we have any rights or not please help my son wont stop crying over it and can they kick a child out because of it

**forbetoel** · 11-09-2007 19:28

My kids go to a Catholic school, and they are also strict on uniform, no hair color etc, no brand name accessories etc, etc, it is so kids are not competing against each other to be "cooler" than the others. Also stops children from poorer families from feeling left out when they can't afford the same clothing, accessories as other kids. Strict uniforms are actually aimed at getting all the kids to feel that regardless of backgrounds etc, they all belong and fit in. I actually agree with it. These rules are not confined to Catholic schools, pretty much all independent schools are the same. If you are this upset, look towards public schools, there are some great ones out there, and they are not as strict.
Also when you enrolled this sort of information regarding uniform would have been in their handbook.

**biscotti** · 11-09-2007 19:31

Originally Posted by 4boys2love

These rules are not confined to Catholic schools, pretty much all independent schools are the same.

My kids also go to a private school and I agree, I like the rules about clothing, jewellery etc
If they are the rules, well they are the rules, maybe your son would enjoy a public school better where the policies about such things are more relaxed. Sorry he is so upset.

**broncochik** · 11-09-2007 19:35

hey i went to catholic schools and i use to have alot of peorcings but i was allowed to wear clear studs, so see if you can for your son, otherwise the earing will ahve to go or the skoll

**biscotti** · 11-09-2007 19:35

Actually I remember you posting about this before a while ago OP.
We had to sign an agreement saying that we agreed to the school's policies and rules on enrolment. Did you sign a similiar agreement?
I am sorry he is upset, but if the rules are clearly stated and he has been asked previously to remove it, well I don't think he has any "rights" as such.

**MumOf4Monsters** · 11-09-2007 19:37

Originally Posted by 4boys2love

My kids go to a Catholic school, and they are also strict on uniform, no hair color etc, no brand name accessories etc, etc, it is so kids are not competing against each other to be "cooler" than the others. Also stops children from poorer families from feeling left out when they can't afford the same clothing, accessories as other kids. Strict uniforms are actually aimed at getting all the kids to feel that regardless of backgrounds etc, they all belong and fit in. I actually agree with it. These rules are not confined to Catholic schools, pretty much all independent schools are the same. If you are this upset, look towards public schools, there are some great ones out there, and they are not as strict.
Also when you enrolled this sort of information regarding uniform would have been in their handbook.

I'm sorry your little boy is upset over it....I do agree with 4boys2love though. You would have been given a handbook stating the dress code. It's simialr for girls. They are only allowed one set of earings.
I do think that it was wrong of the school staff to PHYSICALLY remove his earing. They certainly do not have the right to do that! My school even sends out notes stating that they will be checking the children for headlice. Without my ok it is not allowed to be done. The poor little fella

Maybe you should try to explain to him that it's not allowed at school but let him know that its fine for him to wear it outside of school hours?

Good luck with it!

**studyingECS** · 11-09-2007 19:41

Maybe look towards a public school, i go to a public school, there is still alot of rules but they are alot less strict....unfortunetly though whatever school he goes to there is always going to be rules to abide by, he might just have to get used to it..how old is he if you dont mind me asking?

i am sorry he is upset

**FishFace** · 11-09-2007 19:56

I dont think its the catholic religion or church, you have an issue with.
It is the head of the school.

I agree with a no jewellery policy.

But if you dont then maybe a different school is needed?

**mum2peanut** · 11-09-2007 19:58

I agree with the others, if you choose to send your child to a Catholic School, you choose to abide by their uniform policies. Don't think you have a choice really. Although I don't agree with them removing it, you should have gotten a note or call asking you to do it.

**4tiggers** · 11-09-2007 20:22

I work at a private catholic school and the rules they have are there to benefit all the students. Even the teachers have rules to follow regarding dress, hair and even their religion. The school has strick policies regarding uniform, hair colour and jewellary. Even with all of this, they have a 5 year waiting list to attend. If the earring is really important, send your son to a school that embraces those choices. I hope he feels better soon.