In-laws prefer talking to me!

**EmsMum72** · 09-09-2007 15:41

My DH is 1 of 9 kids and out of his 8 siblings there are 2 that he doesn't associate with/talk to, so that leaves 6 siblings (4 brothers & 2 sisters). He's always been close to 2 of those 4 brothers, and 1 of those 2 sisters. Over the past 6-9 months the 2 brothers & 1 sister DH has always been really close to ALWAYS text or call me. DH will hang around, cause he asks me who is on the phone, obviously expecting them to want to talk to him, and then at the end of my conversation they will say 'ok, say hi to DH, and I'll talk to you soon'. 1 brother (who lives in NZ) and DH hasn't spoken to for many months, rang yesterday and chatted to me for about 30 mins and then I said 'do you want to talk to your brother?' (cause DH was in the shed)and he said 'nah, got nothing to say, I only rang to chat to you' . This, of course, is lovely because he and I hit it off immediately when we met (we've only spent time with each other twice, once when we went to NZ for a holiday last year, and this year when he came over to OZ for DH's 30th). DH says 'no-one wants to talk to me anymore, god forbid if we should split up my family will get rid of me and keep you on instead'. I think he's getting a bit upset about the fact that especially the 3 siblings I mentioned seem to only want to chat to me these days. There has been no falling out between any of them, they just seem to like chatting to me cause I'm good at ing!

What about you? Would your in-laws prefer to talk to you, or do they call you more than their own son/brother or daughter/sister. If so, is your partner bothered by it? I would be a bit peeved if my brother only ever rang up to talk to DH and didn't even bother saying hi to me.

**Noah_and_Elijah** · 09-09-2007 15:43

If they did I wouldn't want to talk to them... Any of them!!

**samken** · 09-09-2007 16:52

My DH's family is a bit like that and it sort of surprised me, it doesn't bug my DH because I always make a point of having him call them on a regular basis. His sister likes talking to him and I think she is really pleased when he calls to chat.

**Elmofan** · 09-09-2007 16:54

dps brother always ask to talk to me if dp calls his mum or his mum calls him and we chat on msn for 3 -4 hours everyday if not every 2nd day I have never meet dp's brother in real life

as he lives in NSW and were in QLD but I guess after that first time we chatted we hit it off have alot in common and theres only 3.5 months age difference same goes for dp cousins gf never meet in real life but always chat on the phone this is only cause shes due 2 months before me lol
dp does but doesnt mind he likes the fact I want to get to know his family as well as get along with them but it takes his time away from talkin to his mum and his abit anoyed that his brother hasnt spoken a word to him in 4 months lol

**JnA** · 09-09-2007 16:55

If inlaws like talking to you so much, you can have mine to chat to as well.

What's your number?

**EskimoMumma** · 09-09-2007 17:06

Oh your DH is sensitive, like mine.

Nothing you can do but make them say something

**mikaylasmummy** · 09-09-2007 17:19

Not my in-laws but DF's mum would rather talk to me, we could talk for hours, but when they get on the phonw, it's like 20mins at the most.

**EmsMum72** · 09-09-2007 17:27

Originally Posted by Jaderocks

If inlaws like talking to you so much, you can have mine to chat to as well.

What's your number?

Aaaahhhh ............. pass

**broncochik** · 09-09-2007 22:04

No his siblings are even close and have mabe only ever called once or twise sinse we been together. I would be botered by it if it was my brothers and sisters,as if your DH wasnt married to you the would have to be talking to him. Maybe they just dont see eye to eye anymore or have nothing in common. Why dont you get your DH to answer the phone calls, or is he always to busy in the shed, hehe.
It good you get on with them so well, how about the mother and father-in-law?

**OneBabyBoy** · 09-09-2007 23:26

I was the same with my older brothers last gf. I am really close to my brother but I just adored his gf - she was (still is) just awesome and my brother found the same thing happening to him as your DH. I think its great that you can get along with your inlaws so well - I wish it was like that for me!