My DH is 1 of 9 kids and out of his 8 siblings there are 2 that he doesn't associate with/talk to, so that leaves 6 siblings (4 brothers & 2 sisters). He's always been close to 2 of those 4 brothers, and 1 of those 2 sisters. Over the past 6-9 months the 2 brothers & 1 sister DH has always been really close to ALWAYS text or call me. DH will hang around, cause he asks me who is on the phone, obviously expecting them to want to talk to him, and then at the end of my conversation they will say 'ok, say hi to DH, and I'll talk to you soon'. 1 brother (who lives in NZ) and DH hasn't spoken to for many months, rang yesterday and chatted to me for about 30 mins and then I said 'do you want to talk to your brother?' (cause DH was in the shed)and he said 'nah, got nothing to say, I only rang to chat to you' . This, of course, is lovely because he and I hit it off immediately when we met (we've only spent time with each other twice, once when we went to NZ for a holiday last year, and this year when he came over to OZ for DH's 30th). DH says 'no-one wants to talk to me anymore, god forbid if we should split up my family will get rid of me and keep you on instead'. I think he's getting a bit upset about the fact that especially the 3 siblings I mentioned seem to only want to chat to me these days. There has been no falling out between any of them, they just seem to like chatting to me cause I'm good at ing!
What about you? Would your in-laws prefer to talk to you, or do they call you more than their own son/brother or daughter/sister. If so, is your partner bothered by it? I would be a bit peeved if my brother only ever rang up to talk to DH and didn't even bother saying hi to me.