did u regret it?

**drelle** · 08-08-2007 13:17

hi, well after a bit of a mistake a few weeks ago, now im finding myself faced with a decision i never thought i'd have to.
i am thinking about an abortion, but the main thing that is worrying me is that i will regret it after and wish i'd never done it, even years later. at the moment i don't feel like i would regret it, but i'm scared that feeling will change.
is there anyone out there who had one, and then wished they hadn't?

**Lirael** · 08-08-2007 13:18

im sure there are

for you. I have not had one so i cant give advice soory just hugs

**drelle** · 08-08-2007 13:23

oh well thankyou for hte hug anyway. these smilies are so cute

V8 · 08-08-2007 13:25

Well i had a termination when i was 19 the morning after pill didn't work after a one night stand. Anywho it took me a week and i went through every emotion possible and i decided to have an abortion. Do i regret it? Yes and no, i have grieved and still grieve for the decision i made, but i know at the time it was the right thing for me to do. It is something that you never forget or ever 'get over'. To me it was very hard as i never believed in abortion at all and wanted to be a mum, but needed to sort my life out a bit better first. There are a lot of things that need consideration when you are faced with this decision and it's hard because your heart will tell you one thing and your head will tell you another. I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make, i know how difficult it is.

**Melissa1983** · 08-08-2007 13:25

i'm sorry i can't help you with the termination part. But i would think long and hard before doing anything.

Maybe go and talk to a social worker.

**drelle** · 08-08-2007 13:34

thankyou v8, i completely nderstand what you are saying,.
and of course ill think very long and hard before making my decision. surgical procedures arent really my idea of fun believe it or not.

**EmsMum72** · 08-08-2007 13:36

Yes and no!

I would have a 17 year old by now and I know I wasn't ready to become a parent back then. I certainly am very happy that I don't have a child to my stoopid w@nka alcoholic ex, and that I'm not tied to him forever. It upsets me that I terminated a baby years ago and am having so many problems getting pregnant now.

I guess the circumstances of the pregnancy will affect how you feel about the decision you make. Everyone is so different, so it's hard to say whether you will regret it.

I don't regret having a termination because I was nowhere near ready and she would have had a lousy father, but that's just me and my situation.

Goodluck with whatever you decide to do

**drelle** · 08-08-2007 13:40

thankyou. whats hard also is i will be doomed to a live of single motherhood before its even started.
but i am so afraid, what if i do this, and then i can never get pregnant again? i will feel like killing myself if that happends when i have a husband and the time is right. this is so hard. i never thought this would happen to me. ever