3rd miscarriage in 2 1/2years

[McMama]

It's actually my dear sister who has just suffered her 3rd miscarriage. She is devestated and so am I. Just wondering if anyone can give me some advice on how I can comfort her. We are very close but I just don't know what I can do for her. thank you

[nicki_mara]

McMama, I am so sorry for your sister's loss. I have just suffered my 7th loss (on Monday). I am an only child but what I have appreciated from friends and family are text messages letting me know that they care and are thinking of me. A number of friends have also sent flowers and that is always sweet and thoughtful. I am a bit of a mess so I haven't been able to speak to too many people yet. In times like this I think you need your space while at the same time it is important to know that family and friends are thinking of you and will be there when you need them.

Unfortunately unless you have suffered a loss yourself it is really hard to understand what one goes through. I'm sure she will appreciate it if you just let her know you love her lots and that you will be there for her when she needs you. It's such a hard time and you can become quite sensitive to things, try and be patient with her. Sadly you can't fix it and can't take away her pain - no matter how much you would like to - you can just be there for her.

I hope this helps. Take care.

[McMama]

nicki_mara, Firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss and I can only imagine how you must be feeling I really appreciate your response and it has really helped me to be able to talk to my sister and be there for her. So again, thank you it really means a lot Take care

[kyannas*mum*]

hi im so sorry to hear off her loss

i also lost 3 in the last 12 months and it is really hard to know what to do or say as everyone handles it differently i was ok to talk about it to people but some people are not so its hard just let her no you are there for her and love her very much and if she needs you she will open up just give her some time

at the same time i agree with what nicki-mara said it is hard to understand if you havnt lost yourself i know myself it was easier to talk to those who had lost themselves as they no what your feeling so maybe if she could access bubhub and speak to the girls in here i know they are fantastic and are great to talk to

to you nicki-mara i am so sorry for your loss

[McMama]

Kyannas mum, I'm so sorry for your loss as well but thank you very much for letting me know how you felt. I can only imagine how awful it would be and I'm sure that doesn't even come close to how it really feels. I have told her about the bubhub in the past but I'm sure if she ever did sign up, I didn't want to ask. Again, thank you I really appreciate your help