http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/ See helplines en Tue, 21 May 2013 06:54:15 GMT vBulletin 10 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/images/styles/BubHub/misc/rss.png http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/ http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495947-Parenting-order-issue&goto=newpost Fri, 17 May 2013 01:50:58 GMT Ex and I have court orders in regards to DDs (6) care. DD is to visit ex for 1/2 of each school holidays which can be up to 3 weeks at a time. The last two times ex has had DD, she has come back with nasty skin infections (and other issues). Due to that, I contacted a solicitor and a letter was... Ex and I have court orders in regards to DDs (6) care. DD is to visit ex for 1/2 of each school holidays which can be up to 3 weeks at a time.

The last two times ex has had DD, she has come back with nasty skin infections (and other issues). Due to that, I contacted a solicitor and a letter was sent to ex saying I want the orders amended to say:

*ex only has DD for 3 days in a row.
*ex only has DD when he is off work (no taking up overtime or extra shifts while DD is in his care)
*ex has to take a more proactive approach to ensure DD's health and wellbeing whilst in his care.
*that ex should endevour to contact DD more often via phone and skype, especially before visits.

So far he hasnt sent anything to me or my solicitor, and school holidays are fast approaching. He has been in more contact in the last 2 weeks since the letter, and has called about her medical appointments, but nothing has been said about him actually caring for dd whilst in his care, or the 3 day visits.

If it gets to school holidays and still no corespondence on the matter, what should I do?

Solicitor said I could refuse to send her, or send her for 3 days and have ex sign to say he'll return her in 3 days.
If i refuse to send her, ex could start court proceedings again and I would gain legal aid to fight to have the orders changed.

Its so hard!!! I need to protect DD (child services (DOCS) cant do anything as Im a caring, competent parent) and i really dont know how! ]]> Step-parents / Blended families LivinOnAPrayer http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495947-Parenting-order-issue http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495588-Advice-wanted-re-blended-families&goto=newpost Mon, 13 May 2013 00:05:47 GMT I am sure there are a lot of people who have been in a similar position to me, whether in my position or that of my partner. I have been a single parent to DS for most of his life (he is turning 7soon) and DP and I have been together since last August, and were together over a year before that... I am sure there are a lot of people who have been in a similar position to me, whether in my position or that of my partner.

I have been a single parent to DS for most of his life (he is turning 7soon) and DP and I have been together since last August, and were together over a year before that for about 12 months.

I am unexpectedly pregnant (now 24weeks) and the plan is to be living together before the baby comes in September.

DS still sees his dad every second weekend, and up until now any other help I have needed I have asked my mum for.

I am starting to feel like if we are together and bringing another baby into this mix then DP needs to take a little responsibility for DS. Whether that means having him when I am in hospital after the birth of the baby, or even just some nights doing the bath/bed thing.

So I am curious what is/isn't reasonable to expect and how do I broach the subject? I do not want to end up in a position where he. Sees one child as his responsibility and the other as solely mine because I do not believe it should work that way. ]]> Step-parents / Blended families flyawayfree http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495588-Advice-wanted-re-blended-families http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495552-Happy-quot-mothers-quot-day&goto=newpost Sun, 12 May 2013 06:21:21 GMT Hehe saw this today Attachment 36406 (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=36406) Hehe saw this today
ImageUploadedByThe Bub Hub1368339673.841539.jpg ]]> Step-parents / Blended families AppleIsleSMum http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495552-Happy-quot-mothers-quot-day http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494837-Mediation&goto=newpost Fri, 03 May 2013 02:55:34 GMT Another thread about mediation haha! I've already gone through it with DDs father 2 years ago and we had a parenting plan drawn up which was working well but now DD is in school her father thinks we need to revisit it and I do agree as there are things I'd like changed too. Anyhow he told me to "expect papers in the mail" probably about 2 weeks ago now and I haven't received anything, I'm just wondering if there's a way I can check if he has something in the works with relationships Australia or whoever does it (I can't remember who it went through last time) because if he is just bluffing I would like to get the ball rolling again myself!
Also I had legal aid last time as I initiated it but I'm just wondering if he has initiated it this time will he be entitled to legal aid? I can't afford a solicitor so am just a bit worried! ]]> Step-parents / Blended families haveheart http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494837-Mediation http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?493979-What-to-say-to-my-step-son&goto=newpost Mon, 22 Apr 2013 15:05:28 GMT Hi all I am Lydia new here, DP has 3 children from previous relationship, we now have 2 of our own and are wanting a 3rd. We only have contact with 2 of them due to the eldest being 18 and moving overseas for a year (she never really liked coming anyway). The younger two spend a week with us and... Hi all I am Lydia new here,

DP has 3 children from previous relationship, we now have 2 of our own and are wanting a 3rd. We only have contact with 2 of them due to the eldest being 18 and moving overseas for a year (she never really liked coming anyway). The younger two spend a week with us and a week with DP's ex and her new husband. We have a really good relationship with the ex and her husband and are able to co-parent very well. My youngest son is coming up to the age of puberty and the ex has asked if dp can do the talk as she feels a bit uncomfortable and feels it should come from his dad rather than his step-father but has also said she wants him to know we are all available to talk about it if he needs.

Anyways, stepson caught husband and I have sex in the shower as we are currently ttc (children don't know as we have lost a baby early on and don't want to get their hopes up if we are unable to fall pregnant). He caught us a few years ago doing the deed we were in a somewhat traditional position (him on top me under in bed sorry TMI) i left the talk about what we were doing to my husband to tend to our younger children, without discussing what dp would say. so husband said that what we were doing was what people do when they love each other very much and to try and have children and from what he told me pretty much said they only do it in the bed. So now we are stuck about what to say, do we tell the truth that we were doing it more out of pleasure than anything else as we know we will need to have the sex talk with him anyways or do we just fess up and say we are trying to fall pregnant?

sorry for the essay ]]> Step-parents / Blended families Lydz http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?493979-What-to-say-to-my-step-son