http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/ WINNER: Bub Hub Community of the Year 2009 Miscarriage, but not yet ready to be a TTCer? en Wed, 22 May 2013 18:54:21 GMT vBulletin 10 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/images/styles/BubHub/misc/rss.png http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/ http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?496133-First-period-after-miscarriage&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 12:14:30 GMT I got my first period after my miscarriage this week. It came about 5 weeks after the m/c which is normal for me as my cycles are usually 35-37 days. My period was a bit heavier than usual, with bright red blood which i dont usually get. There was no clots just bright red blood for the first 3... I got my first period after my miscarriage this week. It came about 5 weeks after the m/c which is normal for me as my cycles are usually 35-37 days.

My period was a bit heavier than usual, with bright red blood which i dont usually get. There was no clots just bright red blood for the first 3 days. It wasn't extremely heavy, just more so than usual. My main concern is that I had NO symptoms before or during my period. I always get lower back cramps a few days before my period comes & for the first day of bleeding but I had no cramps at all. It didnt even feel like I had my period! I always know when it's coming as I get back cramps for a few days but this time I just woke up & it was there! Has anyone else experienced this? Could it be a sign my hormone levels are not back to normal levels after the m/c?

I also only had a 12 day luteal phase - is that bad?

We wanted to start TTC again this month but I'm worried that my hormone levels still might not be back on track and if I was to fall pregnant I might not have the right hormone levels to support the pregnancy?

Am I being over paranoid? Or is all this normal for a first period after miscarriage? Do you think we are right to start TTC again? I just want to be pregnant again but I'm so scared! ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support hummingbird1 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?496133-First-period-after-miscarriage http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?496088-D-amp-C-experience-at-Logan-Hospital&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 01:35:32 GMT Just wanted to share my experience with the Logan hospital. I think a lot of people don't think very highly of it being in Logan but I have definitely had a wonderful experience there in such a horrible time.

I started bleeding 2 weeks ago at 7 weeks pregnant, saw my local GP who referred me for bloods and Ultrasound - those tests came up okay, they dated us at only 5 weeks 4 days so the HCG levels were low but all matched those dates. After another week the bleeding hadn't stopped and i was experiencing pretty bad lower back pain so went back to GP. He didn't send us for anymore tests, just said to cross out fingers and if the pain gets worse or bleeding increases to go to the hospital.
Put up with it for another couple of days but the day before we were 9 weeks my back pain was pretty severe, bleeding was getting heavier again and i was feeling light headed and dizzy so went up to the hospital. From the very beginning the staff were very kind and understanding as I was pretty upset. That night they took bloods and did an internal check but couldn't tell me too much as they didn't have the needed Ultrasound equipment after hours. My HCG levels had gone up from my blood test 2 weeks ago but was nowhere near where they should be. So said they would refer me to the early pregnancy unit who would contact me within the next 48 hours. I received a call from them the next afternoon and they asked me to come down within the hour to have the ultrasounds and see the doctor there. Unfortunately they were unable to find a heartbeat during the ultrasound so our fears of miscarriage were confirmed. They discussed 3 options with us - letting the process continue naturally, taking medication to help it pass or having a D&C. We decided on the D&C as we just wanted it over and done with and i was definitely well and truly over bleeding. They booked us in the following morning. Being a saturday pre-op isn't open so we had to check in via Emergency. Arrived there at 6am to take the medication that helps dilate the cervix and then had to wait a couple of hours. Again the staff were all very lovely and understanding. Got called for theatre at 8am and I was prepped by the nurses in emergency who were fantastic again. Got taken over to theatre and met the nurses and Surgeon. i was pretty anxious as this was my first time in hospital and again they were all so kind and talked me through everything. The anaesthetist was called to an emergency with a baby so it was delayed a bit there but the nurses made sure i was very comfortable through the wait.
After the procedure was complete they were able to find me an empty double room so my husband and i could have some privacy and the nurses in the ward were really lovely again. they kept me there for about 4 hours to ensure i ate sometime and was fairly pain free. I was given the option to stay the night or go home - home was definitely my preference. The surgeon came to check on me and gave me the okay to go home. He was only very young but super lovely and has obviously done a great job as there were no complications and i have experienced very little discomfort other than some lower back pain last night. Today (day after) i'm pain free.
They were also very kind and understanding to my husband ensuring he was okay and offered him support as well. I thought this was amazing as i think men often get forgotten about during this time.

Sorry about the novel, I just really wanted to let other women in the Logan area know about my experience so they have no hesitations on going there. When we fall pregnant again if i have any complications i would definitely have no hesitations on going there again. As devastated as we both are about loosing our first baby, I feel a lot more relaxed about the process and have definitely received all the support we could have asked for. Thanks to Logan Hospital. ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support MrsMcLean http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?496088-D-amp-C-experience-at-Logan-Hospital http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?496023-Severe-cramps&goto=newpost Sat, 18 May 2013 01:47:41 GMT I had my D&C for bub we lost at @ weeks but foynd iut at12 week scan & i wasnt naturally miscarrying on the 24th April have had bleeding since only stopped bleeding on Monday this week. And have had spotting. Yesterday it was. Brown cm like with bright red blood. N then nothing last night or this morning. But I'm having extremely horrible cramps comparable to early labour that have doubled me over in pain and mostly on my right side. DP is being an asshat saying he knows how it feels like poo pains BS he has no idea this Is so painful. It took me 15 mins just to get dressed. I'm laying on the couch in pain ATM have taken panadine to try help the pain. Has anyone had this or any idea what it could be. ?? It hurtsiks hell ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support jagamoe http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?496023-Severe-cramps http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495920-How-to-support-my-brother-and-his-wife&goto=newpost Thu, 16 May 2013 13:04:02 GMT My brother and sil lost their third baby at 13 weeks due to a chromosomal abnormality. Their due date will be mid June and I want to do something for them but don't know what. We live in different states so that might change what I can do. Hoping someone might be able to suggest something. ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support amyd http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495920-How-to-support-my-brother-and-his-wife http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495699-Today-was-our-due-date-(&goto=newpost Tue, 14 May 2013 02:44:21 GMT Hi everyone,
I haven't been around BH since we lost our little one last October. We have yet to achieve another pregnancy (still hopeful though - and we have 2 sons so we are blessed). Today I took a day off the usual uni routine and have spent some time finding a few new things for the garden that will remind me of the little one, as well as nice new indoor plant to brighten things up in here. It was really therapeutic.

My thoughts are with all of you who have had the due date come and go, or are waiting for it to pass. It is quite a milestone, and I truly hope we all hold the babies we long for soon.

xx ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support lj1977 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495699-Today-was-our-due-date-( http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495674-the-baby-they-couldn-t-locate-found-17-months-later&goto=newpost Mon, 13 May 2013 17:24:29 GMT 2 years ago i lost pregnancy at 8 weeks. I passed empty sack and placenta but no baby. had two scans but no baby anywhere and the cells of my placenta indicated ectopic. 17 months on (and after one healthy full term pregnancy) they found a dermoid cyct with a very strange shape growing hair glands... 2 years ago i lost pregnancy at 8 weeks. I passed empty sack and placenta but no baby. had two scans but no baby anywhere and the cells of my placenta indicated ectopic. 17 months on (and after one healthy full term pregnancy) they found a dermoid cyct with a very strange shape growing hair glands and teeth!! what the chances that is was the mass is what was initially meant to turn into that baby? Dr nurse said this dermoid was rare and can give false positive pregnancy. Im seing OBGYN next week to discuss the recent surgery. I kind of hope this is the explination he givesnme so that I can put things to rest. ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support babybloom http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495674-the-baby-they-couldn-t-locate-found-17-months-later http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495574-Miscarrieage-amp-loss-support-chat-4&goto=newpost Sun, 12 May 2013 09:16:34 GMT God I feel so broken.

Yesterday I MC'd at 8 weeks exactly. Every time I think about it I can feel my heart tear apart. ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support vatikin http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495574-Miscarrieage-amp-loss-support-chat-4 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495530-Mother-s-Day&goto=newpost Sat, 11 May 2013 13:12:28 GMT Happy Mother's Day to all the ladies in this forum, whether you are fortunate enough to have a baby in your arms or hold your angels forever in your hearts. No doubt it will be a difficult day for many :hugs: ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support Melameen http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495530-Mother-s-Day http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495192-Baby-lost-at-16-weeks&goto=newpost Tue, 07 May 2013 10:24:05 GMT Just feel I need to get my story off my chest. This is (was) my second pregnancy - both via IVF. I have a little boy who was 11mths when we conceived again. The pregnancy was text book and I was showing quite a lot and we had just announced to all our family and friends. A week ago I thought I... Just feel I need to get my story off my chest. This is (was) my second pregnancy - both via IVF. I have a little boy who was 11mths when we conceived again. The pregnancy was text book and I was showing quite a lot and we had just announced to all our family and friends.

A week ago I thought I was getting flu and saw my obstetrician who also thought I had early stages of flu. Baby was fine. 12 hours later I was in huge pain so went to delivery suits where they admitted me while trying to figure out what was going on. It turns out I had a staph infection in my blood and was very very sick.

They started treatment of antibiotics but that afternoon my waters broke. The OB did an ultrasound and the babies heart was still beating but all the water around the baby was gone. The OB explained that the baby had virtually no chance of survival and that it was more than likely I would go into labour overnight and deliver the baby. If I didn't go into labour naturally they would ultimately have to administer drugs to bring on labour. At that point he was happy to wait however said that if my health deteriorated he would have to take matters out of our hands and start the induction.

The OB was great and explained how the labour would feel, that I would have to push the baby out and that the baby may move and try to breath, but that it would quickly die. The staff would wrap the baby and photograph it etc.

We lasted the night and in the morning I spoke to the OB as I didn't feel up to delivering the baby and wanted to understand our options. Surgical delivery was explained to us and we were encouraged to have a high res ultrasound. I am really glad we did this.

Firstly, the u/s showed our baby had died overnight and so we felt much better that we weren't having to choose to end the babies life. Secondly, our baby had been quite badly damaged by the lack of waters. The uterine walls had closed around the baby and as its skeleton was not yet solid it had become quite disformed. The head was very squashed and the spine was badly bent in a couple of places.

This reaffirmed our decision to opt for surgical delivery - I am really glad I didn't deliver the baby and have to see the misshapen little thing. I will remember it as the fat little healthy baby sucking its thumb from our NT scan.

Our baby was delivered surgically that evening. Initial tests show that the baby was perfectly healthy prior to me getting sick.

Now I am embarking on the physical recovery from the illness but also the emotional recovery from losing our baby.

At this point it is the little things that I find challenging: the box full of maternity clothes that i ordered online that just arrived, putting my hands on my swollen belly and not feeling anything anymore, our Christmas holiday plans that should have been as a family of 4 being readjusted back to organizing for 3....

Thanks for listening. Any advice or suggestions warmly welcomed.

Bedlover xxx ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support bedlover http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495192-Baby-lost-at-16-weeks http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495006-Has-anyone-else-had-a-miscarriage-for-their-first-pregnancy-amp-is-over-30&goto=newpost Sun, 05 May 2013 08:56:49 GMT Has anyone else had a miscarriage for their first pregnancy & is over 30? Have you gone on to have at least 2 or more babies? Did u regret waiting until you were 30 or more to start TTC? ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support hummingbird1 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?495006-Has-anyone-else-had-a-miscarriage-for-their-first-pregnancy-amp-is-over-30 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494922-Clotting-post-mc-or-birth&goto=newpost Sat, 04 May 2013 00:31:36 GMT Did any of you ladies experience clotting post birth or mc ? I did with my daughter they said it was cause I wasn't active n then would get up n move & clots would pass. I've got it again now passed clot this morning wasn't very pretty or fun. Clot was rather large & cramping. I don't want to tell my DP as he will freak out. ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support jagamoe http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494922-Clotting-post-mc-or-birth http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494862-What-to-do-for-babies-due-date&goto=newpost Fri, 03 May 2013 08:31:27 GMT I am just wondering what other ladies have done on their babies due date? I want to do something for Aubree but I don't know what. I have very limited money at the moment and want it to be a special day for her, and for DF and I. ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support Jodes86 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494862-What-to-do-for-babies-due-date http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494846-Miscarriage-and-heartburn&goto=newpost Fri, 03 May 2013 04:55:06 GMT Hey, I had a natural miscarriage at 8 weeks on the 13th April. Bleed for around a week with some on off spotting/bleeding for almost 2 weeks. On the 24th april (wednesday) my HCG was 18. I have a follow up one on the 8th may. Ive had very wet/watery/slippery almost EWCM started on the friday (26th)... Hey, I had a natural miscarriage at 8 weeks on the 13th April. Bleed for around a week with some on off spotting/bleeding for almost 2 weeks. On the 24th april (wednesday) my HCG was 18. I have a follow up one on the 8th may. Ive had very wet/watery/slippery almost EWCM started on the friday (26th) until today really. Ive also had heartburn for the last 2-3 days. I did have some heartburn during the pregnancy but that was at around 7 weeks so I havent had it for a while. I never get heartburn when not pregnant. Would the miscarriage cause this? We also DTD on monday but of course I believe its probably too soon to Ovulate (even though it can happen). Anyone know whats going on or had this??? Its really annoying and I dont eat fast or anything so its not related to my foods ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support nikki61087 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494846-Miscarriage-and-heartburn http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494800-Still-bleeding&goto=newpost Thu, 02 May 2013 10:54:45 GMT Had d&c last wed started put just spotting for like 2-3 days and then got a little more only light bleeding. & now Argh so over bleeding its now gotten heavier & soaking throug pads does anyone know if its possible for D&C to bring on AF. ? ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support jagamoe http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494800-Still-bleeding http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494723-Today-was-my-E-D-D&goto=newpost Wed, 01 May 2013 12:28:53 GMT Today was my EDD.

I would have gone earlier (2 previous c-secs so this would have been a c sec too) but today is THE day - ya know?

We lost at 10 weeks. First ever m/c. After 8 months TTC with fertility issues.

I don't know what to do. How to cope.

DH & I went to lunch, but I couldn't eat.
He's off at a concert now, and probably staying at a mates tonight.
I've had "small bump" by ed Sheeran playing quietly while I lay here and picture what should have been.. The tears are flowing.

Mummy misses you baby :( ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support PinkSmarties http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494723-Today-was-my-E-D-D http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494702-Is-it-possible-to-have-a-d-amp-e-at-28-weeks-after-intrauterine-loss&goto=newpost Wed, 01 May 2013 09:00:48 GMT Hi ladies..
My SIL has just lost her baby at 28 weeks..she isn't wanting to birth and was told today a d&e is possible as baby is quite small and passed a few weeks ago.

Just wondering if this has happened or anyone has had similar experience?

Thanks


mama ~ wifey ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support ndelamets http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494702-Is-it-possible-to-have-a-d-amp-e-at-28-weeks-after-intrauterine-loss http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494659-Miscarraige-D-amp-C-amp-hcg-levels&goto=newpost Tue, 30 Apr 2013 23:10:25 GMT So i found out i had a miscarraige last week at my 12 week scan baby passed at 8w1d & had d&c wed wasn't given any info on it have had to find it all myself & no hcg blood work.
I started out with light bleeding that's gone to spotting brown gunk & heavy over night I'm finally off pain killers unless cramps get bad then I'm just taking panadol.
. That's the OPK I just took to check my levels it's not as dark as was during preg so hopefully my levels are
dropping ImageUploadedByThe Bub Hub1367363219.835338.jpg ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support jagamoe http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494659-Miscarraige-D-amp-C-amp-hcg-levels http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494543-blighted-ovum-speed-up-the-awful-process&goto=newpost Mon, 29 Apr 2013 13:20:20 GMT I had a scan today at 7 weeks and Dr found an empty amniotic sac. tomorrow will confirm whether its a blighted ovum or not but its looking that way.

I'm devastated! But right now I just want it out of me! Does anyone know any ways to bring on miscarriage naturally? I don't want to have a d&c and I just want it gone so I can move on. I feel like I'm being heartless wanting to forget about it but maybe that's natural? ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support MrsDL http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494543-blighted-ovum-speed-up-the-awful-process http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494459-When-will-I-ovulate-after-natural-miscarriage&goto=newpost Sun, 28 Apr 2013 11:58:29 GMT I'm wondering when my cycles will get back into routine and when I will first ovulate after a natural miscarriage? I had a complete miscarriage at home just over 3 weeks ago. I have been monitoring my HCG levels which were finally down to 5 exactly 3 weeks after the miscarriage. I'm guessing they will drop to zero this week sometime. I usually have 35 day (5 week) cycles. Now my HCG is back to a normal non pregnant level, when can I expect to ovulate? Will my cycle start from scratch now? I.e. will it be like day 1 of my cycle once HCG reaches zero? Or would I ovulate within a few days of HCG reaching zero then expect AF in 2 weeks?

We want to start TTC again ASAP but want to wait for AF first to be safe. I'm hating being in this stage of not knowing what's happening and just waiting :( I just want to be pregnant again :( ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support hummingbird1 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494459-When-will-I-ovulate-after-natural-miscarriage http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494445-Ivf-and-Miscarriage&goto=newpost Sun, 28 Apr 2013 08:59:05 GMT Anyone having/had ivf and had a miscarriage? How did you feel about trying again or did you just give up? Anyone having/had ivf and had a miscarriage?

How did you feel about trying again or did you just give up? ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support angelmama74 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494445-Ivf-and-Miscarriage http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494366-is-it-just-supposed-to-end-like-this&goto=newpost Sat, 27 Apr 2013 09:42:55 GMT ive had 2 mc, one was over 12 years ago and the other 3 years ago, however with both of them i bleed for a few weeks. so i found out i was expecting number 7 around 4 w 3d, on week 5 i woke with brown spotting, thinking implantation i had that for 2.5 days and then on the 3rd day i woke with red... ive had 2 mc, one was over 12 years ago and the other 3 years ago, however with both of them i bleed for a few weeks.

so i found out i was expecting number 7 around 4 w 3d, on week 5 i woke with brown spotting, thinking implantation i had that for 2.5 days and then on the 3rd day i woke with red bleeding, assuming it was over.
i have had the red heavy af type bleeding for 3 days now, heavy when i wipe, but never getting on the pad until today and even then its barely really anything, its not soaking or covered, just smeared. however i lost a clot yesterday and again more today.

i took a hpt on the first day of the bleeding and it was still quite dark so i had hope.
took one today and it was barely there have to squint. when i took it it was tainted in blood as as the pee went up the stick it was tainted red.
could this have cause the test to not show correctly or am i clutching at straws?
the bleeding has slowed down so much, i think by tomorrow it will be gone.

is this right? shouldnt i bleed more and onto the pad?

im so confused right now ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support She~Ra http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494366-is-it-just-supposed-to-end-like-this http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494126-Fetal-Testing&goto=newpost Wed, 24 Apr 2013 08:08:38 GMT Has anyone had their baby tested after miscarriage to find out if there were chromosome issue etc? If yes, how much did you pay and did it provide answers? Has anyone had their baby tested after miscarriage to find out if there were chromosome issue etc?

If yes, how much did you pay and did it provide answers? ]]> Pregnancy Loss Support angelmama74 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?494126-Fetal-Testing