dealing with misscarriage

[Zeal]

Hi,

I had a misscarriage last december and strangely enough, I dealt with differently to many people I know and people here. I know that we all deal with it in different ways. I did feel a little upset, for one day, thinking that it was my body that was not able to cope with the pregnancy. But i did not cry or grieve as such.

Both my nanna's died in November last year and I did not cry about this either. I feel as though, it (my grief) may manifest itself in another way. Or maybe this is my way of dealing with it. Maybe blocking real feelings helps me.

I don't know really what I'm trying to say :o

[bronny-jane]

i was a wreck after my first... i was 19, and i never knew you could mc.... a year later i conceived again and mc... i wasnt sad..i expected it...

[Aquamarine]

Hi Rach

:hugs: to you.

I guess everyone deals with things differently and there is nothing wrong with that.

There is no right or wrong way.

I am sure talking or posting about it will help.

:wave:

[Mum&bubs]

Everyone grieves in all different ways. But I think talking about like someone has already said is a good way to let it all out so it doesn't build up inside of you :hugs:

[BoyzMummy]

Hi hun :hugs: to you. In the past 5 years I have lost my Mum, Grandmother, Grandfather, 2 friends and had 2 mc's and whilst I miss everyone of them there actual passings didn't really affect me. I just took it in my stride, as a fact of life. People do grieve differently, it doesn't mean it doesn't affect you.

[Duchessa]

I have had three miscarriages this year. The first two didn't bother me at all. In fact it gave met the shi+s that people dealt with me like I was grieving. But the last one really hurt, in many ways.

[Zeal]

Thank you all ladies for the hugs, empathy and sharing your personal stories :hugs:

[SilverStarfish]

I felt very similarly about my m/c. I cried that day, but then felt like I'd moved on and was ready to face the world again. Like Duchessa said, the hardest part was getting people to stop treating me like I was in deep mourning and grief.

The more I said "No, really! I'm ok!" the more defensive I sounded, the more they bugged me.

Everyone reacts and grieves differently, not having any outward signs for others to see doesn't mean that it didn't affect you.

[brookeme]

I was the same with all my losses and when I found out about my Mums cancer, everyone told me I was a cold hearted b!tch, but I think I am strong when the bad news hits and then later I will be thinking about it and it will hit me.I dont think I grieved over any death or m/c.

It would probably be easier to get the greiving over and done with, rather than bursting into tears at work when you get told of your workmate giving birth.(we had the same due date though)





Mums in remission and has since told me that she appreciated my stregnth at the time.

[kyannas*mum*]

hi i too grieved a lot differently to everyone with my first i had never really dealt with mc before so it was more shock

with my other 2 i was expecting it so it didnt hit me too hard yeah of course i was upset but i was not going to let it take over my life and ruin me i find im a very strong person and have had a lot in last few years this was just something else to make me stronger

sometimes it made me feel bad like i didnt care that it had happened just beacuse i didnt show the emotion like others i still felt it i just choose to use it as a positive to move on and prepare for a healthy pregnancy

does that make me a bad person?

[bubbleyblossom]

Hi,

I had a misscarriage last december and strangely enough, I dealt with differently to many people I know and people here. I know that we all deal with it in different ways. I did feel a little upset, for one day, thinking that it was my body that was not able to cope with the pregnancy. But i did not cry or grieve as such.

Both my nanna's died in November last year and I did not cry about this either. I feel as though, it (my grief) may manifest itself in another way. Or maybe this is my way of dealing with it. Maybe blocking real feelings helps me.

I don't know really what I'm trying to say :o

I was the same.. I m/c in February last year, and I wasnt crying etc.. I got really depressed though.. and then on October 6th (due date) I was really moody and cracked at everyone.. I still havent really dealt with it
Dont know how too

[Zeal]

My due date was August 9th 2007. I have a friend who is due the exact same date with twins (I was also pregnant with twins).

Thanks again for all the replies :)