who looks after the kids when ur sick???

[Kaileysmum]

Hi

Im feeling really bad today. Bub is having a bad day too (crabby), which makes me feeling sick worse. My Dp didnt even offer to try and get the day off (he works at a place where you can get a day off really easily). He ran me then and said i cant have time off just cause your sick!!! Should I be angry cause I am. Who looks after your kids when you get sick?

[heymamma]

Hi imm sorry u dont feel well.... Im in the same boat but its not sickness its emotinal... But sometimes my Inlaws do....but most of the time i do & just feel like crap & takes forever to get better cause i dont get to rest.

[rynosmum]

I hope you feel better soon.

I had pneumonia and got to go to bed early one night without doing bub's bedtime routine. DH then went interstate for work and I was looking after bub the whole time I was sick.

If I'm well, I look after bub (and my MIL and daycare help out as I work fulltime). If I'm sick, I look after him 'cause even though I'm not well, I can't bare to ask someone else to look after him when I'm going to be at home anyway.

I've got a cold now and nothing has changed.

Good thing these bubs are cute !:)

[ThomasMum]

Ops sorry bout that so far so good I'm a very healthy person *touch wood*, but if i'm not well my DH will the one who's in charge looking after Thomas as he can work from home anytime...

TM

[Peaceangels]

Someone to look after them when they are sick, you mean us mum's can have "sick leave"!
How come I wasn't told about that one! :p :D

I have only really been sick once and DH helped out over the weekend, but otherwise I layed on the lounge all day while the kids played around me and on me!

[the_queen]

Luckily I haven't had any major illness's, but I did twist my ankle quite severely when Vallerie was almost 2. And I've had the usual colds/flus/hayfever etc. Plus m/s for about 10 weeks earlier in this pregnancy. And unfortunately, the person who looks after her when I'm incapacitated is ME!! :rolleyes: No sick leave for me.

[WeThree]

oh, im so sorry your feeling sick :(
i understand, i dont really have anyone to watch my kids for me either. i was in the same boat as you a few wks ago, i felt so sick and all i wanted to do was crawl into bed, but my mum and dad work, and like your dh mine wouldnt have the day off, mainly because he hasnt been at this job all that long and is keen to stay in the super good books :rolleyes:
when i was really sick in hospital though about 15 mths ago, my mil came down and stayed with dh and my mum helped to. and his work was really good, even when he ran out of sickies, holidays etc ( i was there awhile, lol) they still gave him paid time off, but some days he had to go in, and my mum, sister, best friends all pitched in to help him.
i wonder though, if the situation was reversed and it was dh in hospital, do you think everyone would drop everything and help me? do my housework, take the kids each day, cook me dinner, for some reason, i dont think so......:rolleyes:
i really hope you feel better soon, being sick when you have small kids sucks big time. :(

[Sarie]

Sorry that you're not feeling well.
I don't have anyone to really leave the kids with either and my hubby's been transfered to a position where he can drive up to 2.5 hours away for a days work and can't take the day off when I'm sick because there isn't anyone to replace him, or replace him easily.
I was very sick a couple of months ago, where I couldn't keep anything - even water, down. Even though I'd been throwing up every ten minutes or so he still had to go to work and I had to struggle through the day with a 2.5 year old and a 6 month old. It was a struggle to stand up long enough to put him into his cot.
But I struggled through, it sucks at the time, but we don't have much choice. Family lives too far away so I just have to stick it out.
Hope you feel better soon.
Sarie

[Kaycee]

I hope you are feeling better soon.

If I am at deaths door DH will stay home, otherwise I soldier on. Having no sick leave is THE hardest aspect of parenting, IMO.

Kaycee

[Rainbowbrite]

If i'm sick..........I just do it. My DH wont take days off lightly, but if he gets a sniffle its a different story :rolleyes: But apparently my job as a SAHM is soo easy :p

RB

[BlessedWithBlue]

Hoping you feel better very soon!It's usually me that looks after the kids all the time, if i'm really sick then df will take the day off to watch the kids. Luckily i'm not sick very often, the last time i was sick was 2 weeks ago and i'm still getting over it but it was the weekend so it wasn't so bad cause df was home.

[Rell]

I think we all know what you are going through. Usualy I still look after the kids even when I'm sick. About 6 mths ago I got very sick with a virus and ended up inhospital for 5 days on that occasion DH took time off to look after the kids, althought he did fly my mum up to help out.:o

[Shazbutt]

DH works away from home so if i'm sick i look after the kids still. I'd have to be at deaths door for him to come home and look after them.... I don't have family or many friends around (not close anyhow), so i just have to push on.....

Sorry you are sick BTW, i can understand how you must feel, especially if DH can get a day off work pretty easily.....

[aardvark]

Teenage daughter - looks after herself. If I'm really crook, she looks after her little sister for me, too, if it's not a school day.

When DD#2 was a baby, I had a horrid migraine one day during the school holidays, and she basically just brought me DD#2 in bed when she needed feeding, except when there was a dirty nappy involved. I had to change that one, but DD#1 held the icecream container under my chin while I heaved while I changed her.

And even though I'd had a flu shot that year, I caught a good dose of the flu, and DH had to stay home and look after both me and DD#2 while DD#1 was at school.

I was in the wars when DD#2 was a baby, reading all of this back - I also dislocated my right shoulder when she was about 3 months old, in a bad fall while walking the dog. I managed OK by swapping to yucky disposable nappies for a couple of days, and having a friend from up the street drop in a couple of times per day to check on me.

What I really hate is when the kids are sick and I am sick, too. That is awful.

[Foxymoron]

Usually I have to suffer through the day on my own if DH can't re-arrange jobs. But mostly his work is flexible so he can cut the day fairly short, then come home and tend to me and do the cooking/cleaning/looking after kids himself.

I do recall some horrid days when I had gastro that DH was stuck in a job that took him away all day. Luckily back then I only had two children to keep up with!

MIL is retired now and if I was really ill I'm sure she'd come stay a few nights, but thus far I haven't had anything to warrant such a visit :)

[Jem]

Hi
I know what its like to be sick and have no one to look after the kiddies,
I have battled with this prob many times.
Unfortunately my parents live some 70 klms away, and im new to the area so i dont really know anyone.
My partner doesnt like it when im not well, probobly because i do alot of whinging :p

[Jem]

Hi
I know what its like to be sick and have no one to look after the kiddies,
I have battled with this prob many times.
Unfortunately my parents live some 70 klms away, and im new to the area so i dont really know anyone.
My partner doesnt like it when im not well, probobly because i do alot of whinging :p He tells me to "get over it" if only it was that easy...
The best advice i can give, is to rest whenever you can,, i know with 3 kids under 5 whenever they are quiet (watching tv ) or when bub is having a sleep.. thats when i have a sleep.. sorry my advice isnt alot... but resting while your kids are, is the best bet ;)
Good Luck, hope you get well soon
Jem

[whatwasithinking]

I have to look after the kids when I am sick - no matter what! DH just refuses to take carers leave to help

[Kaileysmum]

Hey

Thanks for all the replies. Feeling a bit better now, took lots of panadol and dp is home and taking care of the baby. It looks like most of us just have to deal with it and look after the kiddies. Its not fair that SAHM's have no sick leave. I know its different if the MALE gets sick.

[hayleylea]

i wouldnt be without my MUM! I recently had a kidney stone :eek: very painfull...was in and out of hospital for a week so i stayed at my mums helping out where i could but my mum is just brilliant with cooper!! A very good substitute mummy for him when im not well thats for sure!:D