Help!!!

[Ella EC]

Today was horrible! My grandparents want me to have an abortion. They are afraid because I am single and studying full-time I won't be able to raise a baby.

They took something my mum said quite innocently and blew it way out of proportion. They've been trying to tell me that my parents are going to abandon me and they keep telling me I'll have no future.

I'm 22 years old... why can't they see I am an adult and can make my own decisions!

:thumbsdown: :banghead:

[Lirael]

um, did you break up with your boyfriend?

sorry, just trying to understand how you are a single pregnant mum to be, when you are only just pregnant?
i think its awful that they said that!(your grandparents.) but how did you come to be in this situation?

[Billy]

Oh my goodness what a horrible position to put you in and a terrible thing for them to say to you! :shame: :hugs:


Unfortunately for them, this is not their decision it is yours. And if you have made that decision and are happy with it, then stick to your guns honey.

You can do this. Congratulations on your pregnancy :smiliedance:- how far along are you? :)

[Sazeby]

It's a decision you've gotta make not them nor anyone else, YOU! - you are the one who will be taking on the responsibility of this child.
I am 20, a single mum and i havn't destroyed my life.. if anything my life has more meaning now.

If you need someone to chat to PM me:)

[Ella EC]

I met this really nice guy abit over a month ago. He seemed perfect...I guess that's when alarm bells should have gone off. Next thing I know I slept with him and a couple of days later he dumped me...just when i got the first symptoms. Then a couple of days after that he shanged his mind again but his tone of voice...there was no way i was going to let him back in my life. It took a few days but i finally got him to leave me alone. I just hope some other girl hasn't fallen for his tricks.

I haven't told him. I don't plan to ever tell him or even put his name on the birth certificate. I will give him no reason to force his way back into my life. My grandparents are just going to have to live with the fact I am not going to kill my baby.

I plan to move out of their house before baby is born. I have a huge support network and my friends are probably more excited then I am. They are already wanting to buy baby clothes and i am only about 5 weeks along. I have to keep telling them to wait.

I know it is not the end of the world and that life will be harder with a little person to look after but I am looking for to it.

Thanks for your support!

[mellyg]

Sounds like you have made up your mind so dont worry about what anyone else says.. It is YOUR baby to decide on, not theirs..

It can get tough at times being a single mum but it is definately something that can be done when you have the love of your child as your inspiration.. You will be fine.. Sounds like you have lots of support..:thumbsup: Good luck with it all..

[ikis84]

:hugs: It sounds like you have a good strong head on your shoulders - you know what you are doing :yes:

Pooey to them! I am sure they will come around though... it is unlikely that once they see the little bub they will be upset.

It is not the end of the world - just a new, wonderful chapter of your life!

Congratulations :D

[jaasssy82]

Hunny i went through similar.. though i was still the guy.. dont know why he offered no support or anything and once the baby was born and i stopped being a hormonal wreck 8 weeks later... we spilt...

when i first told my parents about being preganant they were NOT HAPPY:banghead: !!!!!!!!!!! and encouraged me to have an abortion:ecomcity: .... but i tell u what i stuck to my choice!!!!!! and .. once they hold the bubba in their arms for the first time and they finally see you are your own person and that you will be ok... their tunes changed big time.... none of us could picture life without my little boy xoxoxox it just takes time for them to getused to the idea... i was 22 when it all happend too... stick to what you think is best.. you are old enough to decide for yourself xoxoxo

[Lirael]

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=99560

my next period is due 1 june, i think. my days changes after i started taking pregnancy vitamins about 2 1/2 months ago. but i will be doing a test before then. i am expecting my mum to arrive on the 29 may. we plan to do a test after she arrives...if i can be patient enough that is.


sorry hun i thought you were trying to get pregnant when i read this. dont mind me Im confused.
just be strong and dont let anyone get to you, they cant make you do anything. :hugs:

[angelickaren]

hi i was 17 when i got preggs with my ds1 he was born 6 days b4 my 18th birthday i was with my ex at that time but he was no great help as we did not live together i still lived with my parents he came down on a friday night stayed until sun nite with his son oh and me hmm i did by my self most of the time.
No one can tell you what to do i sure you are a strong women and will be able to handle it as for your family im sure they will change after bubs is born support is really important but it sounds like you have it already

goodluck with it all :hugs:

[Verdi]

Congratulations, don't let anyone get in your way or bring you down, you have a miracle inside of you.
If you are happy then you are doing the right thing!

[Ella EC]

Thank you all for your support.

Lirael, the reason I started taking pregnancy vitamins was because I had become very serious about 'one day' having a baby. There are problems in my family and I want to have my body ready to give any children a good chance at being healthy. It was a shock falling pregnant, it wasn't planned. Especially not being on my own.

I'm glad I start taking them when I did though.

[Lirael]

ok. its just almost all your posts give me the vibe you were tryinbg for a bub. but congrats anyway. being a single mum is hard but its also rewarding :)

[wannabemum]

Ella, firstly I want to say CONGRATULATIONS and how brave you are. I am 22 too and 34 weeks pregnant, and there is nothing that feels more right to me than bringing this baby into the world and being his mum :D . Your road won't be easy, as it isnt for any single mumma, but it will be incredibly rewarding and I believe you will not have any regrets. It is nobodys right to tell someone to have an abortion :shame: , and I am glad that you have taken the high road and told them to stick it!

This bubba chose you as his/her mumma and I wish you all the very best. Be sure to chat with us other young mummas in our "keeping up to date thread"..... :hugs: Talk soon xox

[BlueButterfly]

Good luck with it all! :hugs:

[juzzy]

Congratulations. I am 22 and just had my first DD. Dont worry about what everyone is say, you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and like you know what you are doing! Good luck!

[bronny-jane]

:eek: your grandparents are fools.... find some information on what an abortion really does to a baby before it dies and is extracted... it takes a while for it to die... ask them why they think its acceptable to put a child to death....

i was 22 when i gave birth to dd1.... and to be honest i think its a good age:D

as for abandoning you... tell them if they are so selfish you'd rather not have them in your life..."even if you do"... as you will always choose your baby over society and your g'parents beliefs...

[OJandMe]

Congratulations!

I was 20 when I fell pregnant with the twins, and also studying full-time. I finished my degree only 6 months out of phase and am now doing my Masters!

My Dad wanted me to have an abortion too. Even though I'm not a single mum, he thought that I was too young and it would wreak my study..

You can do it! 22 Is a great age to have a child and there's no reason you can't complete your studies. As a matter of fact, I started doing so much better at uni once the boys were born because I had to learn so many time management skills!

It's your decision, not your grandparents. Don't worry.. they all come around once you start setting up and bubs is born. :thumbsup:

[mum_inlove]

Congratulations to you..!!

It must be hard to be in your position, but you already know exactly what you want to do so just stay strong.

I dont think my mom was too pleased either when i told her i was pregnant, but now she absolutely loves ds. Just like the other girls said, your grandparents would turn around, i mean, who could not love a baby?:thumbsup:

[Acacia]

Hi,

I had my ds when i was 22 and im also single and its hard but worth it.

No one can tell you what to do. If you have made up your mind then dont let anyone force their opinion on you. I would say your grandparents are just worried for you. They will come around. My parents and ds dads parents first reaction was have an abortion, but they came around after a while. Dad needed to have a break for 2 weeks and after that my parents were very supportive. Ive had an abortion also and its not the thing to do unless your 100% positive about your decision.

Something that bothers me though is your choice not to tell the father. In my opinion he has a right to know, and that child has a right to know who its father is and where it comes from.

[RoarsomeMum]

Congratulations Hon! You have every right to make your own decision :yes: You are the one who is going to live with it. I am hoping ur folks and grandparents come round as you get further along.

Congrats and have a happy safe pregnancy :thumbsup: