help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mummoss]

:gloomy:well the histerical (Sp?) screaming is back at high pitch and worse then ever no mater what I do he wont stop and to make it worse the last few nights he has been only sleeping in 1/2 hour intervals all night!!!!! so I am so tired and starting to burst into tears as often as he does and when I asked my dh to please get up alittle early and play with him this morning till he had to leave for work giving me an hour and a half he refused and hes been getting 9 hours sleep each night erggggg :banghead::banghead:

And now to top it off I am expected to help entertain DH folks on sat lunch time because they feel they dont get to see enough of there grandson,
(they popped in today I told them how stressed I am they said poor thing well see you on sat)

But I am so stressed from this constant screaming and lack of sleep and the house is a mess and DH's family is making me feel smothered his parents feel they are missing out on there grandson they see him every week exept last 5 due to our first aniversary there youngest was sick and my DS has been unwell and they know that and DH grandma wants me to visit every week and all I can think about is resting when I can and getting house work done when I can i cant always drop everything for them I have tried saying that but it falls on deaf ears and DH is usless he just doesnt get it.

:crying:thanks for taking the time to read this

[~rambox~]

Firstly :hugs: i know how you feel i have been there myself.

Is he teething at all ?

If not he could be going through what they call growing pains.

[Little Gorilla]

Ok...some ideas:-


dummy
is your ds's room dark enough? or is it too dark...does he need a little light on in there?
do you feed him when he wakes?
have you tried the baby soothing meditation cds? played softly in your child's room...this worked for my ds?
do you follow a routine when it comes to sleep time...nice soothing bath before hand...read some books before bed (I know your son is only 8 months old, but I did this with my son at that age, just to get him "prepared" for sleeping).That's all I can think of now.

[Bewitched]

:hugs: Oh honey, i hear ya :hugs: If i was there i would babysit for a while so you could take yourself out for coffee and cake and a nice movie :thumbsup: Sorry, but DH needs to stop being so darn selfish and at least help out in the morning so you get some rest! And if that is falling on deaf ears then i would be saying to DH "I am exhausted, so YOU will have to entertain your folks on Saturday!" or else just leave them to play with their grandson on Saturday and take yourself out somewhere! If they feel they are missing out maybe grab the opportunity to say "How about i drop him off to play for two hours on Saturday?" and you can go and do something nice for yourself for two hours? Would that suit you?.

There are so many possibilities to their screaming i know - teething, boredom, weened on/off things etc so i won't try and rule things out for you.... I suggest waiting until he has fallen asleep and go take a nice long relaxing bath, good luck!

[proud_mama]

Is he needing more feeds at night? if so it could be a growth spurt..otherwise i'd be checking the gums for teeth coming through. my DS usually gets very red cheeks when teething. Does your son have red or rosey cheeks?

[sueliz]

Hey Mummoss

Firstly - :hugs: to you you poor thing - it's no wonder you are exhausted from the sounds of it!!

Have you taken your DS to the doctor again by any chance? I see he has recently had a viral infection and rash, (am I thinking of the right person here - was that your DS??) so perhaps because his immune system is a bit run down at the moment and he could have picked up an ear infection or something - especially in conjuction with his teething.

I only suggest this because a few weeks ago my DS had a viral infection, (which resulted in a trip to hospital because of temps of over 40) and then ended in a rash and over the last weekend he has not been sleeping - was waking up hysterical and was just not himself. We took him to the doc on Tuesday and it turns out that he does have an ear infection as well as 2 eye teeth and 2 molars coming through so no wonder he was unhappy!! Since he has gone on the anti-biotics and more regular panadol and neurofen we have our little man back!! Seriously - the first day he was on anti-biotics, he finally had an afternoon sleep which he had not done in some time, then slept through the night until 6.00am and then came into bed with us at 6.00am and fell back to sleep for 3 hours! He was finally able to sleep without being in pain.
Perhaps it is worth looking into - just to make sure it's not something like an ear infection which can allow for some much needed relief for both your little man and you!

[mummoss]

I was thinking teeth also exept panadol makes no dif so know I dont know most times he wakes the instant I hold him he tucks in and closes his eyes its like he just wants to be held I cant take him in bed with us theres no room I cant leave him with MIL cause he doesnt like them much if I am there he is fine other wise he crys constantly DH is not even enough yes he was the bub with the infection and I had his ears checked they seem to be fine but I was concerned for awhile he sleeps really well throught the day if I hold him upto 2 hours at a time infact the only trouble is I cant do anything each time I cant even sleep cause he prefers it when I sit up thats what makes it so confusing I have introdused forular incase hes not getting enough but i guess if I could just get some rest I could prob cope with the screeming which is def a put on cause he will stop as quick as he started if I pick him up or find the right toy for that moment but if I move god help me he starts again :banghead:

[Bewitched]

Oh so he is putting it on to get his way? Then slowly, somehow, you will have to find a way to 'unwrap' yourself from hi slil finger. I dor tof managed this with Ashton, as he had me under th ethumb with behaviour, but after many tears (mostly from me!!) he got the hint that i wasn't coming back to his bedroom and gave up - after 40 minutes of on again/off again crying and squealing :( I felt like the worst mother in the world for 'weening him off me!' but if i hadn't done it the screaming would still be going to this day.

Most importantly, DH needs to really help you out with this one. Ashton doesn't even try it on my DH, because his backbone is stronger than mine, so Ash knows when he is put to bed if Dad comes into the room, he won't react to any drama, he will just leave....so bub gave up. It took about three weeks :crying: but he is a much better baby for it now because he doesn't feed off our anxiety anymore. Your bub will probably really be reacting to your feelings too. Try to be strong babe, good luck and get DH to help put him in a routine that suits YOU both, not bubs :)

[mummoss]

thank you so much for all your support laddies I really need it at the moment it trully helps

[alanasmum]

:hugs:

Okay, I read your post and I wasn't sure how to respond, so I've had a think. I get a lot of support and some days I still feel like I don't cope. So I think you are amazing for holding it together.

You have 3 issues and they are all linked:

1. DS being unwell

This is the issue you have to tackle first because issue 2 is related to this. You need to get to the bottom of the screaming. Try another doctor, another 2 doctors if you have to. You can even try a chiropractor who specialises in babies. It sounds like an ear infection or a teething issue to me.

2. Your emotional wellbeing and lack of sleep

If you manage to sort out the screaming, try and catch up on sleep when your bub sleeps. If you get a little bit more rest, you will be able to cope with other things better. With the house-work, do little bits at a time. Break it down. Don't try to do too much in one day.

3. Your DH not supporting you.

Ok. This is huge. Because if DH starts helping you out and not expecting so much of you he can make a big difference to your well-being. Can you sit him down and explain to him that you are extremely tired and stressed and that you need his support? He needs to help you get some more sleep. He needs to help you around the house and he needs to put off all family visits until bub is well and you are getting a bit more rest.

Put yourself and bubs first, not DH's family. :hugs:

[SimplyMum]

:hugs: How about on Saturday when DH parents come over- they can play with DS while you get 1-2hrs of sleep! There's bonding time with them, and sleep time for you!

[GeorgiaAnne]

Oh big :hugs: to you. It's so hard to hold it together when your bubs is like this. My girl is also very clingy atm, I think maybe it's separation anxiety creeping in as she looks around for me constantly, umm, sorry not sure how that helps!
Anyhoo, I think you need to tell dh you need more help in very serious tones!

[Blueberry Crumble]

Your husband is being extremely selfish by the sounds of it. Nine hours sleep while you are getting hardly any! You guys should be taking turns when it comes to getting up to bubs thru the night.

I have no suggestions, just to let you know that I know how awful sleep deprivation is. But hang in there, it really does get better with every passing month. I tell myself that whatever bad phase my baby goes through, it all eventually passes....

Does your hubby have weekends home? I think you maybe need to put your foot down and have him baby sit while you sleep all day Sunday

Good luck, I hope things get better for you soon, i really do.

And remember that you are NEVER alone with this, everyone on Bub hub is so understanding and compassionate, and can relate to your troubles, so you always will have someone to talk to :)

[funnyfarm]

I agree with alanasmum, you might need to try and find another doctor who will check things out again. You could also get him checked for a UTI. My daughter had one of these (around her first birthday) that the doctors missed for about 3 weeks until i asked them to check her for one and :wizard: it came up positive straight away. The doctors excuse for not testing her previously is that she never had a fever with it.

Just a suggestion, i hope you get to the bottom of this soon and get some much needed sleep. :hugs:

Janet.

[mim1]

My first guess would also be getting checked by the doctor again. My neice is the same age and she's been clingy, screaming and downright demanding for a week with no other specific symptoms apart from a pale rash. She's got a virus of some sort and is slowly recovering. My SIL can't wait for her to get better. :hugs: to you that things will improve soon!