whats your first impression?

[popcorn]

if you heard about a young girl, one year out of high school having her first baby and then proceeding to have two more in two years. what would you think? responsible:yelclap: or not? :shame:

[Femme-Fetale]

My first response is if shes happy, then im happy, and i wish her all the support she can get!
Responsible or not doesnt come into it!

(im a Young mothers spokes person so im all for supporting them)

[punkbaby]

^^^ what femme said ^^^ age means nothing! If shes happy then so be it, is there more to this?

[FourAngelKisses]

To me, it would all depend on if they were to the same father or not (sorry guys, just what I think), and also if she looked after the kids really well.

I fell pregnant with my first 12mths after finishing highschool. :thumbsup:

[popcorn]

^^^ what femme said ^^^ age means nothing! If shes happy then so be it, is there more to this?

well, if ya didnt guess...it's me:wave:
i just get lots of stares and wonder what is going on in people's heads:rolleyes:

[SalTheGal]

Depends on so much more than just the information given. If she is not being irresponsible in the way she is falling pregnant, then I have no problems.

That said- if anyone were having children irresponsibly, it would be regardless of their age.

[popcorn]

To me, it would all depend on if they were to the same father or not (sorry guys, just what I think), and also if she looked after the kids really well.

I fell pregnant with my first 12mths after finishing highschool. :thumbsup:

thanks for being honest, yes all to the same father (we were married in nov last year). we own our own home and our kids are our life!

[mummy2oceana]

wouldn't really bother me to be honest... If they are happy with their choice then that is all that matters :)

[Femme-Fetale]

Dont worry about what others think or say
Stand tall and proud in your own skin and family. Your doing whats right and wanted by you!

Those who judge only do so based on what the media portray and the small amount of younger mothers who do bugger up the "image" for the rest of us!

If ppl can judge you without knowing you or your situation, then thats a sad way to live life IMO

[~rambox~]

It would depend on the girl as some girls are very responsible at that age so i wouldnt judge til i had all the facts

[punkbaby]

well, if ya didnt guess...it's me:wave:
i just get lots of stares and wonder what is going on in people's heads:rolleyes:

I get stared at sometimes i know i am older but i think i still look younger to some people for some reason i dont feel 30 anyhow LOL
they are like WTF shes pregnant with 3 already its like ohh go away!!

As long as your happy thats all that matters, dont let it bother you if it does! My mum had 5 under the age of 22 LOL

[neostudded]

I can't understand what is bad about having 3 children all close in age.I know a woman with 3 under 3 and she manage's really well :D

[lachys_mama]

don't worry hon i didn't have my first till last year (i turn 23 on wednesday) and i still get funny looks and the occasional comments, but i love my son and you love your kids and partner and thats all that matters imho.... be proud in knowing you have done so well :)

[popcorn]

oh, im all emotional:crying: . thankyou for your kind words, you just dont hear them in the real world. DAMN RIGHT i am going to hold my head up high, you are all so right. the next person who gives me a dirty look, im gonna build up my courage and.... smile coz i just dont care what they think:D

[FourAngelKisses]

A lady I know had 3 by the time she was 19 (all singletons), she is a fabulous mum and I am sure you are too.

Your DD is just gorgeous btw!

[neostudded]

Fourangelkisses Your at 10000 posts!! :eek: Dont post again, you'll make it uneven:laughing:

[FourAngelKisses]

Fourangelkisses Your at 10000 posts!! :eek: Dont post again, you'll make it uneven:laughing:

I am?? woohoo!!! :smiliedance:




Couldn't resist, sorry,lmao.

[Trumpet]

It sounds like you are in a stable relationship and have 3 beautiful children and hopefully a supportive family, so that's all that matters.

People will always find a reason to look down their noses at others but if your happy then be proud of what you have and let them think what they want.

[neostudded]

I am?? woohoo!!! :smiliedance:




Couldn't resist, sorry,lmao.

You recked it! :crying:.......................................... ................:rolleyes: :laughing:

[Hokey Pokey]

Well considering I had my first while in high school, then fell pregnant in college with my second (m/c) shortly after pregnant again with dd2 and then 4 years later pregnant with number 3 I can't critisize anyone :D

[popcorn]

Well considering I had my first while in high school, then fell pregnant in college with my second (m/c) shortly after pregnant again with dd2 and then 4 years later pregnant with number 3 I can't critisize anyone :D

u must have been bored in class!:laughing:

[Hokey Pokey]

u must have been bored in class!:laughing:

Not quite... was an all girls school :laughing:

[nelly75]

A few months ago at the supermarket there was a girl who looked about 20 and she had 4 kids - oldest looked about 8 so maybe she was older than 20. Anyway an older lady said "are those all your kids" and the girl said "yes they are" quite defensively - the older lady looked at me and said somethiing about kids having kids blah blah blah very disapproving.

This girl's 4 children were so well behaved but giggly and happy while my 2 were trying to jump out of the trolley and screaming the place down. I looked at the older woman and said "well judging by her kids I wouldn't mind getting some parenting tips from her". The girl came up to me with tears in her eyes and said "you just made my day, I am a young mum butI'm a good mum and I love my kids and treat them well, I get so many negative comments that to have you say that is so nice".

[Hokey Pokey]

u must have been bored in class!:laughing:


A few months ago at the supermarket there was a girl who looked about 20 and she had 4 kids - oldest looked about 8 so maybe she was older than 20. Anyway an older lady said "are those all your kids" and the girl said "yes they are" quite defensively - the older lady looked at me and said somethiing about kids having kids blah blah blah very disapproving.

This girl's 4 children were so well behaved but giggly and happy while my 2 were trying to jump out of the trolley and screaming the place down. I looked at the older woman and said "well judging by her kids I wouldn't mind getting some parenting tips from her". The girl came up to me with tears in her eyes and said "you just made my day, I am a young mum butI'm a good mum and I love my kids and treat them well, I get so many negative comments that to have you say that is so nice".

Ohhh that's wonderful!!

I get told I look not even 18... even with my 8 y/o daughter in tow who looks like she is 10.... :rolleyes:

[meme]

haven't read the whole thread yet, because i think you are asking for my first thought.
my first thought 'lucky girl' :)
if i heard about a girl just out of school who had a baby and then had some more i would think that she had set herself up well in life to be able to have her family so young.

i guess i would assume that she was a responsible young women with a nice supportive partner who is well enough off to be able to comfortably have a few kids.

be interesting to read the reast of the thread :detective:

[shed]

if you heard about a young girl, one year out of high school having her first baby and then proceeding to have two more in two years. what would you think? responsible:yelclap: or not? :shame:

I would think "gee, she must like kids" :D . Its got nothing to do with your age, its having them so close together that would be what would make me think that!

I don't see what is irresponsible about it. Its your decision how many kids you have and when you choose to have them.

Some people probably think I am too old to have just got started. I don't care what they think. I want a big gap so the next one won't be till I'm 40...and I don't care what 'they' think about that either!! :p

Some people want their kids close together, some want a big gap, some want them young, some want them when they are older. Everyone's different and that's a good thing.

[mum2bubba]

It wouldn't be any of my business, I know plenty of ppl who have had kids young and they are good parents, I just hope that she is happy with her life and is getting support.

[1+1=5]

If its what you and your hubby want then pffft to everyone else. who cares if you decide to have them now or in 10 years? if you know you want them then go for it. i think young mums are great for so many reasons. i'm so greatful that we had our kids young, i'm 24 and i feel like i want to hurry up and have another one before i get older :laughing:. i wish i had Noah straight after Owen instead of waiting.

good for you guys i say!

[jaydensmum]

Well i'd say good on her!! :yelclap: Its hard work being a mum at any age and if shes willing to take on that responsibility at that age than good on her!!! :yes: I had my son at 19 then had my daughter just after my 21st and now im expecting my third at the end of the year. Its hard work but i dont think age has anything to do with it at all. :no:

[SassyMummy]

I think it would depend on how I saw the person.

Like, I've seen plenty of young mothers trotting about town with many very-young snotty-nosed, rag-wearing kids who run amok... their mother dressing in stained skanky rags, with a smoke hanging out of her mouth, paying little attention to her kids except for the occassion "f-bomb" she drops...

If it was one of those, hell yes I judge them.

But if I saw a well-presented (doesn't have to be wearing fancy clothes, but you know, something clean) with well-presented kids, who looked like she cared about them, who looked like a nice responsible person, then that's a different story.

I'm a young mother and while I'm not in my ideal situation, I do my best. I make sure DD had clean clothes on, make sure I have clean clothes on, and make sure she gets love and attention and I don't swear at her. I hope I'm a decent representative of young mothers...

[mim1]

Honestly I'd be curious to know more, but then I'm a pretty curious person and I want to know more about lots of people :).

You sound like you're doing fine. I have a few friends who had babies in their early 20's and they said they got lots of looks and comments, mostly from people assuming the child was unwanted and that the mother was a single mother without a partner. When they found out the child was planned and living with both parents who were married most people were shocked. I say it's time to grow up! Just cause the average age of having kids is now 30 doesn't mean everyone should have kids then. I'm 30 and wow I would have had SO much more energy if I was 10 years younger. If I were 10 years younger I wouldn't have to be worried about my health by the time I want #4 (NB I've only got one so far :) ), etc, etc. Hold your head high and keep being the best parent you can be - AND enjoy it! :hugs:

[3 bambinos]

I'm another who would want to know more just from the standpoint of how is she supporting the kids. Just out of highschool and then pregnant for almost 3 years continously doesn't leave much time to earn money. Having said that I wouldn't judge her if she was supported by the government as I myself rely on a pension.

I would judge, as someone has already said, if she wasn't being a good mother to the children. I'd judge if she wasn't looking after them and loving them as children deserve to be cared and loved.

Age and finances don't make you a better mother, so as long as these children were wanted loved and cared for then I don't see what difference it makes if you are just out of school or well established in life.

My first reaction though may be one of jealousy as I always wanted a large family but started too late (as well as other circumstances) and will have to be content with just two kids.