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tachi77
08-06-2007, 09:46
So our relationship has reached its low. He smacked me on the face on Tuesday. I was so shocked and furious. I told him to never touch me again and that it was over, to sell the dump we live in so I can leave. To say the least he tries talking to me and I tell him to f---k off, I have nothing to say to him and that he is a piece of s---t for hitting me. He is pretending nothing is going on.

I swear to god, some men are so, utterly stupid. Yesterday he spent $400 on the credit card for personalised number plates, seriously, that card is under both our names. I told him that he had s---t for brains and to pay the dam thing off (we have $4,000 on it now). He says 'I don't have any money', I told him to sell the ring and pay it off. I ended up giving him back the engagement ring. I need to save I said to him so I can move out. I don't think it has sunk in his little brain that I will pack up and go. Now the only thing hold me back is the house. Its under both our names with his name as the primary. I know I can't put it on the market without his name but I don't know how to persuade him to get on with it. I was thinking of ringing legal aid, maybe, there is something that I can do, from a legal point of view, to get him to do it? Any suggestions? Anybody else experienced this?

The only thing I know now is that I will never forgive him for hitting me in front on our little girl, that is the lowest thing ever. I will go as far as not letting him see her, I don't trust him. I will tell the court that he is a pervet that hides porn around the house and is into swinging, he honestly repulses me, that is another reason why I started hating him, he is sick. I obviously don't want my little girl around that ****.

We screamed at each other all in front of her, exactly what I said I would never put my kids through as that is what my mom and dad did. I feel so ashamed and sad.

MrsTwith3
08-06-2007, 09:50
Good on you for standing up for yourself. Im glad your taking the steps to get out of that relationship and not very good environment for your little girl. All the best to you hun.
If he hits you again your best bet is to report him to the police so it can be documented.
I have no idea what you can do about the house though...sorry.

IheartOman
08-06-2007, 09:52
You can right that wrong by moving out. I am in the process of splitting with my bf at the moment. My advice is to speak to legal aid and tell them everything about your situation. Also you can take half of his superannuation when you move out, plus centrelink obviously and any child support from him he has to pay. Staying in the house will probably mean you guys make up so try get out ASAP. Even if you can stay somewhere else until you get settled.

Good luck :thumbsup:

*Chels*
08-06-2007, 09:55
Wow,he is a jerk.You sound really strong,and its great that you are leaving him to give both you and your daughter a better life.
I dont have any advice for you just some:hugs:

SimplyMum
08-06-2007, 09:57
No, you did the right thing. Yelling at eac oter in front of your little one is one thing, her father itting her mother is another thing.
Yelling in front of her might tell her tat confrontation is sometimes a good thing, her father hitting her mother, that should never happen and by staying you'd be setting the example that it's ok for a man/partner to hit a woman/wife/partner.

PunkyDiva
08-06-2007, 09:59
:hugs: No real advice but just some more support cause you are doing the right thing hun. There are so many better things in life out there waiting for you and your baby.
Don't beat yourself up about your wee girl seeing what happened, at her tender age highly unlikely to affect her or be remembered, but get yourself the hell outta that relationship now, nothing to be gained by staying.:hugs:

scorpio83
08-06-2007, 13:24
*Call centrelink, tell them you are separtated.
*Call CSA and advise them.
*Cut up the credit cards and advise the company of your separation...then if he still uses it, the debt is his, not yours.
*File a DVO complaint with the police.
*See legal aid, or if you can afford it a lawyer. They can help with the consent orders for your child, they can also advise you of your options in relation to finances. Obviously you're entitled to half of everything, and with the house, that would mean selling, using the money to pay the mortgage(if you have one) then dividing the remaining money between you. As for the creditcard, you'll be liable for half, unless I think someone has mentioned before that you can prove who bought what, then you are liable for that amount.

Some on this may be wrong, or different, depending on the state, but I'm sure the other girls (and guys) will give you some good advice as to what's right and what's not. You should talk to Pobbles...she seems to be an expert when it comes to family orders!

And all the best for the future. I hope you can feel happy and safe again in the near future.

motherlylove
08-06-2007, 14:28
I suggest you ring legal aid find out all the information you can as for the credit card i would ring the bank or put a stop to it or something. Otherwise he is going to rack up debt you will be left to pay for. If you need a place urgently domestic violence/womens line will be able to find you some emergancy accomodation.

OneBabyBoy
08-06-2007, 23:31
I suggest you ring legal aid find out all the information you can as for the credit card i would ring the bank or put a stop to it or something. Otherwise he is going to rack up debt you will be left to pay for. If you need a place urgently domestic violence/womens line will be able to find you some emergancy accomodation.


This is great advice. I think it sounds like its come to a point where you really should move out, esp if you are actually replused by him.
Good luck with sorting out the house and the bills, hopefully legal aid can help you. Have a look at their website if you aren't sure how to go about it, and keep us updated with how you go :hugs:

Issey
09-06-2007, 13:36
You sound very angry atm with every right to feel like that. :hugs: :hugs:

have you considered getting him to leave instead or have you somewhere to go?:confused:

You can change the locks if he won't go so he can't get in. Even tho the house is in both names when this is done by either party and the other one tries to enter it is 'break and enter'.

Good idea to cut up the credit card as you will be liable for the debt as well.:eek: