She did it again!

[Foxymoron]

:mad: :mad:
The last time my mother had my DD stay with her, my DS ( global delay/autism) had a screaming fit the whole 45 min drive home, then screamed and beat on the front door for 2 hours non stop. He couldn't be consolled poor mite. Anyway i told her what a terrible reaction he had and that I wouldn't be doing that to him again, surely next time must be his turn. She agreed.

So she calls today and invites DD for next weekend! It took me all my strength not to yell abuse at her. I calmly said no thanks, I won't be subjecting DS to those feelings again, and DD can wait until he has had a turn, whenever that may be (so if she never invites him she never has DD either from now on). She just said ok no worries. Not oh well would he like to come next weekend? She dotes on him when she comes here to stay, she deals with him just fine here.... But it's always been this way... she has always favoured my eldest and showers her with attention and gifts and her time. Not on anymore. I can understand her not having my youngest over, she still likes a boobie before bed and Mum can't provide that! But DS has been long overlooked and I'm fed up now... especially when she KNOWS what happened to him last time I dropped my DD off!

[WeThree]

You did the right thing Keara, and i can understand why you are so mad.
My mum occasionally invites my oldest son to stay the night, and my 2 1/2 yr old gets devastated every time they leave without him, so no more until he gets a turn!
I dont expect her to have my kids, and i understand that a 2 yr old can be a handful and that its important for my oldest to have some time out away from the littlies etc, but its not fair on my other son, he adores his nanna and is no trouble when he goes there, and its not fair on me either when im left to try and console him!!
I hope he gets a turn soon :)

[poshBecks]

I'm with you guys there..... Come on be fair!!!!

[Pixie]

Tut tut that's not very nice..good on you stick to your guns..fairs fair no favoritism ;)

[*Sal*]

Could your Mum have them both Keara? Or is that too much? My mum's the same, happy to take DD any time, and lives 45 mins away too, but luckily for me DS is a bit little to know any different yet. I'd be peeved as well :confused: like you said, if the weekend is free anyway why can't she have DS instead. Hopefully she'll realise you're serious about giving them a turn each and things will work out.

Good luck.

[Foxymoron]

I wouldn't want her to have two at once, it would probably be too much. Having said that MIL is has had all 3 overnight, though she did stay here and we went out.

I have stuck to my guns, and school is back now, DD didn't spend a single night there with Mum, who was asking me what movies she'd like to see these holidays and maybe she could take her to the zoo etc etc :rolleyes: In time she'll realise that I'm not backing down. My son may have issues understanding the world and take a little more care than my daughter does but he has every right to expect the same doting, loving treatment!

[WeThree]

I My son may have issues understanding the world and take a little more care than my daughter does but he has every right to expect the same doting, loving treatment!

he certainly does :) i hope she sees you are serious and realises how unfair she is being.